2day we was planing our wedding . He told me he luv what not & he said if u luv me ten we will do it then i said no he ets mad & walks out & told me the weddings off but i really don't think he ment it but its a that was a sign of what he wants be4 i wanted it & i am not 2 sure if want a Husand thingking he can get it anytime of the day or hr when he feels like it i thinks we shoul both wait but he not a virgin but i am. The last TIME i check U R SUPPOSE 2 WAIT UNTIL u get marry! PLEASE HELP!!!!
2006-09-18 17:34:05 · 11 answers · asked by Monica 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The answer is to not do anything you're uncomfortable doing. The fact that you're asking the question means you aren't sure you want to have sex with him right now. If he loves you and he's willing to go the distance and marry you, surely he can wait a few months. His impatience is a bad sign for a mate. If he storms out and won't talk about it like an adult, he's not grown up enough to have sex and certainly not grown up enough to marry you. Take your time and try to talk it out. Best of luck. <3
2006-09-18 17:37:56 · answer #1 · answered by Pieandchips 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God bless you for wanting to save the most precious, once in a lifetime gift for your wedding night. Your fiance sounds very immature. In a very few months you will be pledging your love to each other for the rest of your lives. If he can't wait 4 more months to make love with you ... Part of loving someone enough to marry them is respecting them and their wishes. It doesn't sound like he respects you. If he loves you as much as he claims to, he'll honor your commitment to not having sex until you are husband and wife. You are supposed to wait. Sadly, in this day and age, most people don't. I'll bet many of them wish they had.
It is so refreshing to find a woman who has kept her virginity, saving it as a special gift for the man she's going to spend the rest of her life with. I pray you won't cave into his pressure and that he'll realize what a gem you are. God bless!
2006-09-18 18:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Monica, you have done the right thing in denying him the sex b4 marriage. If he really loves you, he will wait. If he cancels the marriage because of this, then you know the truth about his intentions. Then isn't it better to be rid of him now than later? He just wants to get you into bed to satisfy his sexual urge! Don't be surprised if he decides not to go on with the marriage, once you have agreed to sleep with him!
2006-09-18 18:01:31 · answer #3 · answered by G.T. L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he says, "If you love me you'll let me," tell him, "IF you love me, you won't make me." Frankly, he sounds like a jerk and if you marry him you'll be making a mistake. You need to get some good premarital counseling and make sure this is a man you want to spend the rest of your life with. And YES you are supposed to WAIT. That's how God designed it, and I've never met anyone who didn't REGRET having sex before they married. I also know of men who got their sex, and then took off.
2006-09-18 18:19:22 · answer #4 · answered by whiteparrot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are a true believer in your faith, then you better wait. All men say "If you really love me, you will". It's sad, but they think that works. Stand firm and if he doesn't understand then he is not the man you should marry. Good luck and God bless.
2006-09-19 03:25:21 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i didn't wait untill i was married, although myhusband was the first and only, wait untill marraige, wish i would have. unfortunalty it was my idea to go ahead with it....should have waitted i was a stupid teenager. wait untill marraige if he loves you he will wait, maybe give him some perks though like head or something like that to hold him over. january is only 4 months away im sure yall have been dating awhile before yall got engaged if he can wait that long he can wait another 4 months and respect your wishes
2006-09-18 17:38:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait till you are married and the first thing you should consider is to dump this guy! If all he wants is sex and he gets mad when you say not before we get married - he is a loser - dump him ! what will he do to you after you are married ? ??
2006-09-18 17:39:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is important to you to wait until your married, then stick to it! If he can't understand why its important to you, he isn't the one for you. He should support whatever your feelings are in this matter--stick to what you believe. Beside which, if you are getting married in January, he won't have to wait much longer.
2006-09-18 17:38:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves and respect you he would wait until your married
I believe that to..I didn't wait but your not me..
The bible says to wait until your married....
2006-09-18 17:51:39 · answer #9 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
THEN HE'S NOT WORTH MARRYING.
2006-09-18 17:48:27 · answer #10 · answered by majikah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋