Is it more offensive to call someone by the wrong gender pronoun or to ask for their preferred gender pronoun?

Answer 1

BY asking the person (in a respectful manner) you are being considerate enough to take their personal status and reflections of self into account.

It is better to ask.

Answer 2

Well if you can't even tell what gender they are and you accidentally call them the wrong one, they surely should be understanding. Heck, I had grown my hair out long at one point and got called ma'am a couple of times. I just laughed and corrected them. It was funny because I knew they meant no harm and it was a total slip. Had I thought they purposefully called me ma'am, I would have been really offended. I'm not sure what kind of people you are referring to that you don't know what to call them. If someone is so genderly confusing that I don't know which to call them, it annoys the hell out of me and I call them what I feel is appropriate and I'm comfortable with calling them. A man wearing makeup and women's clothing hardly makes him a woman and it's rather an insult to actual women and vise versa. I don't consider them the opposite sex until they go full throttle with it and have that little operation. Then I think they deserve the respect of being called what they want to be called. To be offended to be called a man because you are in fact a man, or are in fact a woman and insulted to be called such, is rather arrogant, disrespectful to the opposite sex, and rediculous. For you however, the best thing to do would be to ask.

Answer 3

It's more offensive to assume and just call people by whatever gender pronoun you feel is appropriate. Ask.

Answer 4

i grow to be purely questioning some days in the past how annoying that is not having a be conscious for that. sometimes I wanna seek advice from a minimum of a few thing, yet not as an it, via fact i'm valuable that it has a gender.(there it is going lower back) Say, an animal or that androngynus man or woman who i'm unable to seem to make certain as an occasion.

Answer 5

When addressing them personally, we use the pronoun "you,"
so there is no gender differentiation needed.

If you are talking about them, stop gossiping.

Answer 6

This is one of those situations where I'd rather ask forgiveness than permission. I just try to listen and look, so I seldom make mistakes, but when I do, I apologize and proceed. Asking seems much too artificial, and you'll be insulting them that way.

Answer 7

I feel that its more offensive if u assume when u do not know and called the wrong one

Answer 8

Just go with whatever you think will piss them off the most, if that's what you're going for.

I guess you're trying to think of the most offensive approach since tact and diplomacy seem to be out of your ken.

Answer 9

If someone is in female attire use a female pronoun.
If they're dressed in male attire use a male pronoun.
If you not sure don't use any.
Tammi Dee

Answer 10

if you are unsure, just ask them. im sure they would rather talk about it with you than u just assuming.