My newborn is 8 weeks old and everytime I take her out of the house (outside, my parents, or out to eat) she cries frantically! I try to introduce things to her that she is comfortable with at home, such as holding her closely, putting her in her swing, and even breastfeeding... she does not care. She does not want to be out of the house. If she falls asleep, she wakes up and realizes that it is a completely different environment, so she starts crying again.
Should I keep her at home and comfortable, to let her realize that the world is a safe place, by keeping things predictable (babies love repitition), or should I try to get her used to being out of the house? What if she has to be babysat in a different environment, or if I just want to get out of the house with her?
Does anyone have any suggestions? Don't get me wrong, my daughter is a complete sweetie pie. :)
2006-09-18 17:10:19 · 19 answers · asked by Tasha 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Good point, "Theawesomegirl," but while he's finishing up college full time, and going to work full time, I can't stay in the house "full time" haha... Thank you though. I like your point about the shots. :)
2006-09-18 17:18:24 · update #1
I would never "put" her out in the sun! Read my question, don't you think I have a bit more common sense and insight as to what a baby might want? There's nothing wrong with her carseat... If she's in it or out of it, it doesn't matter, she's still crying.
2006-09-18 17:27:24 · update #2
go outside for a walk everyday at about the same time
2006-09-18 17:13:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever tried having Dad take her on her stroller ride, just to see if she acts up for him. You can go along, but stay way behind so she can't smell or hear you. My theory is that maybe she's acting up for just you mommy. Another thought, that touching base with her doctor and letting them know what's going on. It's possible it's difficult for her to breathe outside or there could be a medical condition, but at least you'll be ruling a medical condition out If it's not something that's making her sick, just keep taking her outside for longer and longer periods of times. Crying is actually good exercise for their lungs, just don't overdue it. 45 min max. She may not like it outside, but she is too younger to know what is best for her. I imagine she won't like too many new things in life, but they may be good for her and she'll just have to muster through it. If you can't get through this, you are in deep **** when she gets to 16 LOL ! Consider this an easy one. I've raised 4 kids. Now all adults. It can be heart wrenching at 8 weeks, but it doesn't get easier as they get older. You can do this!
2006-09-18 17:54:16 · answer #2 · answered by daisymae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say at 8 weeks she's picking up on your emotions. Are you scared to have her out? Are you developing a habit of responding to her differently when your outside the home? Even if its the slightest little change in the way you hold or speak to her, she will pick up on that and be insecure! Relax when your out with her and gently talk in a soothing voice no matter who's watching!
2006-09-18 17:30:25 · answer #3 · answered by blahblahblah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just get her into a going outside routine, like going to the park, or coffee, or just around the block, but for sure get her out. You don't want her to be scared of EVERYTHING or God help you when she does need a sitter, or when she starts school. And if you do need a "baby" break your going to be hooped, and trust me you will need one. Good luck and start small. She's a little bit too young to be that assertive about her surroundings yet.
2006-09-18 17:20:40 · answer #4 · answered by brooklynsss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing to get wrong,ofcourse she is a sweetie pie,some babies are just more sensitive than others,2 of my 3 were like that my first and third,the third is a boy and 7 months old,when we go places with him he has to be snuggled and talked to,reassured,he hates to be in a stroller or shopping cart when other people are around,he just doesnt feel safe,we have to carry him or he screams hissy fits!we take a HUGE bag of goodies also,a blankey,a snuggly toy,pacis,bottles,also try a baby blanket that YOU have suggled for her so it has your scent on it,you cant stay in the house forever so start out small,go for a short walk a few times a day,then go longer,also go on short car rides,then longer,short trips to the grocery store,in for one or 2 things and out,talk and even play games,yes at this age you can do anything to get her mind off of the fear/world!
do peek a boo i see you,sing silly made up songs,
I always make up songs to get my sons mind off of noise or loud people,bright lights etc...
something like Gryffin is a sugar man
who can kiss him mommy can,he LOVES it lol
yes it is silly but Ive been silly with all 3 of my kids and they eventually got over the fear you are describing!if she falls asleep while you are out and you can hold her (when safe) then hold her so when she wakes up shes safe in mommys arms,or take a tshirt or something you have worn if she falls asleep in the car seat and put it between her head and shoulder so she can "have you",just be creative and dont feel bad about her "fear" she will get over it one day! enjoy her being needy,one day she wont be,they all grow up!!!! good luck and feel free to holler if ya need any other advice,UNPROFESSIONAL ofcourse lol Im just a mom
2006-09-18 17:21:17 · answer #5 · answered by adc7492 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Read Dr. Sears. Wear your baby. If she is separated from your body for too long it is upsetting to her. Hold her when you go out with her, or have your partner or a grandparent hold her (or wear her in a sling or baby Bjorn). Please baby your baby. If she's crying--there's always a reason.
Of course she's "a complete sweetie pie." Keep her so by being trustworthy to her. Hold your darling close. You can not "spoil" someone so little and new.
2006-09-18 17:31:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go anywhere you want, do anything you want and she will eventually get used to anywhere and anything. DO NOT LET HER RUN THE SHOW, you will be very sorry. She is already the boss of you and if you let her run things, forgetaboutit. You can plan trips around things if you want and keep them short if you want but you will be laughing about this by the time you have had your third baby and couldn't care less what she/he wants when it comes to you deciding when to leave the house.
2006-09-18 17:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by Oak18 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's going to have to deal with it eventually. Just take her outside the house a couple of times a week.
2006-09-18 17:19:56 · answer #8 · answered by dude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the book "Secrets of the Baby Whisperer" by Tracy Hogg.
She is great, she teaches you how to analyze your babies personality and how to introduce things and form routines according to their individual personality. Sounds like she is a touchy baby and needs to be introduced into new things gradually. This will probably be her personality forever, so I would say it is best to learn how to work with a baby like that.
Read her book, she is great!
2006-09-18 18:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Ask me anything! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh that's tough! I doubt it will last, but I think you should get out of the house as much as possible. Go to places where you won't be sitting still, walks around the neighborhood, quick trips to the store.
Don't push her too much, keep the trips short. But I think you should get out there!
And remember -- this too will pass!
2006-09-18 17:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by Katherine 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you covering her eyes with a blanket to keep her from getting glare from the sun? If you are and she's crying, it might be too close to her face. If you aren't, she might be objecting to the sun.
You might also try changing her car seat. The one you are using might have something wrong with it.
2006-09-18 17:24:54 · answer #11 · answered by loryntoo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋