my daughters ex boyfriend just got out of prison and is trying very hard to find out where she is. they do have a baby together, but considering that he tried to kill the baby while my daughter was still pregnant, we dont feel like he should get regular visitation rights. we have agreed to supervised visitation.
he cant find out where she is living so he wrote a letter to the court saying all kinds of lies. he said that she was living with me, which is not true. he said that he doesnt feel that he should have to pay child support. he also said that my 10 year old daughter had been caught at school with a marijuana cigarette.
not only did he write this to the court, but he is also going all over telling this obscene lie. what can we do to stop him from running his mouth and making an innocent child a victim because we live in a very small town and people do tend to talk.
should we see another attorney other than the one that is handling the custody and child support?
2006-09-18 16:55:39 · 8 answers · asked by lodeemae 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
There is nothing you can do for the defamation of character, besides spin your wheels and get nothing accomplished, I f he is writing the court stating you granddaughter was caught with marijuana in school this would be easy enough to disprove, for him not paying child support doesn't matter if she was living with a milloinare, still his child he is obligated to pay, where or not he visits with the child or not, unless she remarries and the child is leagally adopted or they both agree for him to relinquish custody, if you live in a small town how can he not find her, but aside from that, why would you allow any visitation for someone that tried to kill the baby before it was born, and obviously injure your daughter in the process..hopefully you are not refering to him suggesting an abortion as trying to kill, if he maliciouslt treid to do somethign and you can prove these other lies there should be no problem in restraining him from seeing the child as for the name calling what shoudl be done..go back to prison for calling names?
2006-09-18 18:05:44 · answer #1 · answered by sevenout7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How many people, in your community who matter, do you think would believe this guy who just got out of prison? Neither will the courts. Hiring a new attorney probably wouldn't change anything. Get the custody issues taken care of, don't bank on child support, and do everything possible to give the baby all the love and happiness you can. Kharma will take care if the rest.
2006-09-19 00:11:32 · answer #2 · answered by Diane MSD 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do not have any legal standing in the custody case and your daughter must provide him with at least a mailing address(this can be in care of an attorney) He has a legal right to contact her unless a restraining order is in effect.
Your daughter will have to step up and deal with this. Given the circumstances, there is a high liklihood that she'll be granted full custody and that the courts will arrange for supervised visitation.
As for the lies he is telling, SO WHAT? Consider them good ammunition to use in court to show that, his criminal record aside, he is not a nice, moral, upstanding guy.
2006-09-19 12:27:54 · answer #3 · answered by UppityBroad68 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to seek an injunction. Your lawyer should be able to help you with this. A judge will have to agree and if he/she does, will grant a restaining order against the ex-convict from coming within so close of cetain people that will be spelled out in the order. But, you will need to convince the attorney and then the judge that it is necessary.
Forget the slander, libel, defamation of character etc. You will be trying to get blood from the perverbial turnip. And, it sounds as though this man might still be dangerous and a threat to others, Protect yourselves first.
2006-09-19 00:16:53 · answer #4 · answered by scubadiver50704 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is simple , make an appointment with his parole officer or the prosecuting attorney to discuss possible parole violations, remember slander is a crime, a little proof may go a long way, or write a letter to the sentencing judge. P.S. Make sure the letter is notorizd and sent certified mail
2006-09-19 01:24:46 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for one the best thing for you to do is go to a lawyer...and file chargers against him...i would fight completely for soul custody of the child...she's the one that's going to be hurt...my dad did the same thing to my mother...she filed chargers and got full custody of us kids...he wasn't even aloud to come near our house...best things is he doesn't know where your daughter lives...but what happens when he finds out??stuff like that shouldn't be taking as a joke...you need to go to an attorney...
2006-09-19 00:28:41 · answer #6 · answered by chew 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all if the town you live in is a small one people there will know that your daughter does not smoke weed . second i would just ignore the fool. if thye child is his he should pay child support
2006-09-19 00:01:59 · answer #7 · answered by cuda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Notify your attorney so he call file defamation charges against him. Your attorney should also contact his parole officer and inform them of what he is doing.
2006-09-18 23:58:23 · answer #8 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋