I was with my ex for 8 years and we just bought a house together. Only days later she left me due to issues which have all been professionally resolved. Whilst she doesnt commit to our relationship in the future she does see hope but needs to see the changes stick for fear of coming back to past problems. Each time she sees me she gains more trust in the relationship and things do appear positive. She is going overseas early next year with her friends and when she returns plans on moving back in with them in the city, about 30 mins away. She also uses the words, "finding herself" in all this. I have completely taken over our house loan by myself to give her the space and make things easy for her but is this really right? Shouldn't she show some committment to our house and at least want to move in and work things out in the relationship together before moving down town. Or should I continue giving her that space until she is ready. Im confused?
2006-09-18 16:50:32 · 12 answers · asked by whitey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Im sorry it sound like she isnt ready to commit . Maybe you should just move on and let her have her space at the same time dont just sit at home!! get out there!!
2006-09-18 16:52:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have got to move on. This woman is not done trying people on, trying new experiences, exploring her options. If your intent is serious commitment, she's not ready. And the truth is, after 8 years, she should be ready to commit. The house pretty much says it all.
2006-09-18 23:54:35 · answer #2 · answered by steelypen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oddly I've heard about this situation in my own family my uncle left his wife for another woman after the divorce he and his girlfriend ended up living in the house and my aunt by marriage is out on her ***..so no it's definitely not right you shouldn't take full responsibility it WILL hurt you in the end..sorry buddy I think you should sell and move on save yourself the agony
2006-09-19 00:00:21 · answer #3 · answered by L,Grady 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is not planning on living there anytime soon, I don't think she should have to help pay for it. It looks like you bought a house for just yourself.
2006-09-18 23:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all when a girl says she needs space shes thinking of another man. and secondly if u r paying on this house it is yours do not let her take u for a free ride,
2006-09-18 23:56:49 · answer #5 · answered by A soldiers wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When a woman says that she needs to find herself, that usually means that she is done with the other, sorry to say.....Sell the house and find someone that deserves you, dear..........
2006-09-18 23:52:39 · answer #6 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to me it sounds like she is trying to find a easy way out, "finding herself" means moving on without you, sorry, dont make it easy on her, i think she knew what she was doing..just making sure she was right..move on you deserve better..good luck.
2006-09-19 00:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sell the house, she wants to move and you should want that too.
2006-09-18 23:52:17 · answer #8 · answered by live2ride 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should take her name off the deed, or she might try to take it from you when it's paid
2006-09-18 23:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by sweet southern charm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust your own gut.
You know the answer.
You know you know the answer.
Good luck.
2006-09-18 23:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by mammma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋