and I don't want to marry a gambler. Should I just break up with him or stay in the relationship and help him with his problem?My parents already hate him and they think I should find myself another man. please help.
2006-09-18 16:40:25 · 15 answers · asked by Niki 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, does he want help? If he does, then stand by him, and help him through it. Like any other addiction, he needs to address it, and go through the steps. But if he can't admit that he has a problem, and he doesn't want help, RUN do not walk to the nearest exit! He will not change, and he will drag you down with him. Trust me, there will be better down the road.
2006-09-18 16:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by hera41863 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't help him unless he wants help. Even if he does stop gambling he will always have the tendency there to start again. I think if it's not that serious of a relationship you should just break it off.
2006-09-18 16:44:42 · answer #2 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why you would marry someone who gambled and didn't want too. Do you think you won't find any one who will want you? You will never change him so you will have to change...be strong and leave him. From now on never date a man who has a character flaw you don't like, it will save you lots of pain latter on.
2006-09-18 16:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i won't take bets on him quiting right away.if you ready to have a relationship with someone who may not be able to take you any where or do anything with because of his habit get ready for a up and down romance.plus the day may come when he'll try to get into your pocket the question is are you ready for that
2006-09-18 16:48:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you will never be able to change him unless he feels the need to change......We as women cannot save anyone but ourselves, and we need to realize that no matter how hard we try to "help" our mate get over a problem, we can't do anything unless they admit to themselves that they have the problem and want to do something about it......Take care, dear.......
2006-09-18 16:44:05 · answer #5 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your parents are right, there is no future there unless you like living whear ever you end up, no money for nuthing, and going to the welfare office for help, and still having nuthing cause he takes every penny and gambles it away and comes back broke...good luck tho..
2006-09-18 17:08:55 · answer #6 · answered by countryrose24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't cover for his habitats. Put him in situations where he will have to choose between going gambling or hanging out with you. if he'd rather loss money than be with you, you have to get rid of him
2006-09-18 16:44:46 · answer #7 · answered by noloveb4u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't marry him.
You'll end up in a trailer park.
2006-09-18 16:43:54 · answer #8 · answered by bigusdickous 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Break up. He might put you on the table.
2006-09-18 16:43:53 · answer #9 · answered by berkut 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would try suggesting professional help.
2006-09-18 16:43:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋