I would like to begin to meet people but have yet to do anything..My BF left me and our 2 children last week and I am lonely..It;s hard knowing he is living it up and we're here trying to survive from minute to minute...help me not to be so lonely...
2006-09-18 16:32:31 · 16 answers · asked by *bossy* 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Dear, you may think right now that he is living it up, but unless he is a coldhearted person he is probably just as empty inside as you are......Give yourself time to grieve your loss, dear.......You'll feel better soon.......Take care..........
2006-09-18 16:36:42 · answer #1 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm 35 years old and I've been alone my whole life, and not by choice,(Ok I've had a grand total of 4 months of companionship in my lifetime, so I haven't been alone for all of it.). I can tell you that the loneliness you feel is just that, a feeling, after 10 years or so, it will change to an emotion, then finally, it will become a presence, Don't worry, you will always have your children, so you will never truly be alone like me. Not to be rude, but how, on gods green earth are you going to help, I've tried everything, I go out to parties, movies bars, fairs, so it's not like I'm a hermit, Everybody who's ever met me says I'm the kindest, nicest, most trust-worthy person they've ever met, so what gives? (I must be extremely unattractive or something). If you can help I'd like to see how. Email me if you want (baxchrist@hotmail.com)
2006-09-18 23:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by Sentinel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not about JUST you right now...it's about the THREE of you. Your kids need you now more than ever. Be strong, be the best parent you can be and in the future maybe focus on a new relationship. I have been through this, after 10 years my husband left me w/4 kids. Looking to replace the hole in your heart isn't the answer, instead fill your heart with love for your children and the rest will come naturally...don't force it.
2006-09-18 23:39:57 · answer #3 · answered by freedom4ni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that's the key
since you think he may or may not be living it up as you say
you have do do just the same
so you NEVER return his calls/ tx msg/ emails. IRC / chat/ IM...
and you go on as if you never met him
you had a life BEFORE you met him
simply resume where you left off
chances are you had something positive going for you in the early days..
be it a hobby
hanging with friends
what ever it may be
one of the mistakes people do when hooking up with new BF / GF is that they tend to cut ties / shun there best friends so that they can pay all attention to the new love in their life...
that is a HUGE mistake , that means you in lust not love and your flying blind... and when it inevetiable does come to end ... you find yourself alone and without your support network that you once had..
2006-09-18 23:36:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you've got to go out and have some fun. Give your friends a call and hire a babysitter. Go have some fun... and forget about him. If you are ready to move on and you are having fun, guys will come up to you and help you with the loneliness issue.
Just remember.... your kids should be your number 1 responsibility... not that i should have to tell you that. But being lonely in my book is a distant 2nd.
2006-09-19 00:06:04 · answer #5 · answered by the_thoughtless_ponderer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women just get good shower nozels..I prefer to cry 3 times a week for two months until im ready to go insane then call up an old boyfriend or meet someone new ..or take the kids on an outing even if it is to the park ..get them tuckered out ..bathed and in bed ..hire a responsibile babysitter and go out and dance....then if your lucky do this often enough... it helps some..then dont get mixed up with anymore "bad guy"..types they like hurting women on purpose!!
2006-09-18 23:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by dreamy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your situation was really a quick one, but the best thing to do is have fun, you invite your friends to go out for an out-of-town, or just hanging around with them always. Well, i think its part of moving on - the times of getting lonely because the pain is still there and you cannot erase those memories just with a click of time, it takes time sometimes or even years to forgot or to accept what happen. Enjoy your life with your kids because they are really YOURS. Whatever might happen you can say they are your gems....
Its always nice and great to reminisce memories and just cry out loud; later on, you will get tired of crying and already moved on to the relationship you had. That's the time to shift to another level of relationship - being a MOTHER to your kids.
2006-09-18 23:49:50 · answer #7 · answered by ~~cLaRizZe~~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen here girlfriend, dont go out lookin for a new man yet. let ur heart heal first. mr. right is out there somewhere he will find u in time dont worry about that. right now u need to make a relationship with ur children, im not sayin u dont have one now but u need to really get to know them without their dad around. believe me nine yrs ago i was where u r. now im happy and married to my mr. right. dont worry keep ur head up, one more thing never let ur ex-boyfriend know that u r this lonely because he will take advantage of u. good luck to u and ur children.
2006-09-18 23:42:20 · answer #8 · answered by "big dogs wife" 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Before you even consider starting a new relationship you need to work on yourself. You also need to focus on your kids for awhile until things are calm again. It might help to go to a single mom's support group. Best of luck to you.
2006-09-18 23:51:59 · answer #9 · answered by schweetums 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is only been 2 weeks u don't need another man in ur life right now. Ur kids need u more now. bside is 2 early give urself time. 2 kids...family member...old friends..old hobbies...ur plenty busy...work on urself...they say when u fall is okay to stay down to understand y u have fallen...so u won't fall again..okay sweeties...
2006-09-18 23:40:13 · answer #10 · answered by Sexy C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋