My husband is out of town for a long time and before he left he said I could have sex with a mutal male friend of ours. I would have to tell him before I would do anything. He said it wouldn't be cheating because he knows about it and is giving permission. I am very attracted to this other man and I would wonderfing if I should go for it? I feel guilty even thinking about it.
2006-09-18 16:03:35 · 38 answers · asked by fatcat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Are you guys INSANE!!!!
2006-09-18 16:05:10 · answer #1 · answered by German R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
WELL WELL WELL...Is there a possibility he has slept w/someone else and by allowing you too and you going thru w/it wont make his betrayal so bad? As much as you would like too and even though hubby gives the "Go Ahead" once you go through w/it your relationship changes. No IF's, AN's, or But's about it. Hubby doesnt even realize how he will feel after you go thru w/it and you both might end up regretting it. There is also another possibility that by doing this it just gets easier and easier and easier to do it again and again and again. So why be married? Its morally incorrect and not to be the preacher but in Gods eyes you took an oath and no matter all of the permission you have here on earth, it is against Gods. You have to really think of your virtues and morals and no matter how bad you may want too, will you be able to live w/yourself afterwards and sometimes we have to sacrifice to stand up for ourselves. Good luck my dear. Let it be a fantasy but thats it.
2006-09-18 16:23:02 · answer #2 · answered by Ivory_Flame 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You would be crazy.
How do you know that your husband isn't playing a little trust game with you to see if you will take the bait? How would you feel then? What if you had to leave town and he decided that he wanted to try the grass on the other side of the fence? You, thinking of course that he really wouldn't, gave your permission - and he did?????!!!
There is no way you are gonna win in this if you even get near the other guy. Cheating is cheating - it still walks and quacks like a duck.
2006-09-18 16:08:18 · answer #3 · answered by Road Warrior 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think you should. I don't know when you would be talking about you sleeping with another guy friend, but did you think of the possibility that he might be wanting to sleep with one of your friends, or the possibility that he wants to be able to sleep around while hes out of town.? My advice to you if you both like that sort of thing maybe you could try something together. Come to Las Vegas and go to a strip club (Olympic Garden) together to see if that is something you both would like. If you like that then maybe try the Green Door (a place where couples and singles go to experience things together). Don't do anything without your husband and don't do anything with your friends. That can never work out. Good luck to you.
2006-09-18 16:20:41 · answer #4 · answered by stephaniea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you are feeling guilty even thinking about it then imagine how guilty you will feel afterwards. And if he is giving you permission to cheat then you need to ask yourself why. Is it so that he can cheat while he is away and if so did you give him permission? Just because he gave it to you doesn't mean that you're ok with it. Are you prepared to deal with him sleeping with another woman?
2006-09-18 16:07:35 · answer #5 · answered by surdidymus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel guilty even thinking about it then that's a pretty good indication that you shouldn't do it!!! You are married!! Did you forget your vows? Marriage consists of one man and one woman, not whoever else as long as the other knows about it. It would be a very bad idea.
How would you feel if he slept with someone else, even if you did say it was okay. And for the love, I hope you don't have children.
Don't do it!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What has this world come to? Whatever happened to respect and upholding our marriage vows???
2006-09-18 16:26:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should feel guilty. I can't imagine how you can love your husband if you are considering to do such a thing. Also, i think your husband only said he wouldn't mind if you slept with another man because he plans on sleeping with another woman. He doesn't want his infidelity to cause you to leave him. He figures if you both do it then your even. What a poor, poor view of marriage and spouses.
2006-09-18 16:14:44 · answer #7 · answered by Violet 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you do it.....then your going to have to give your husband permission to have sex with someone too ! How will you handle that? The cost is too high.I love and trust my Wife way to much to even think of such a thing.
2006-09-19 01:32:56 · answer #8 · answered by R W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's giving you permission because he will eventually want an okay from you too in the near future so he can do the same thing.can't you see that? Are you willing to go for it? Might as well be swingers. You have to decide what is important to you.
2006-09-18 16:14:06 · answer #9 · answered by Nanci 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Adultery is a sin, you two might not see it that way, but when you stand before God you will have to answer for everything that you do. Think about it. Also....your husband might be looking for your permission to have an affair, but won't bring it up until he's got something on you!
2006-09-18 16:11:42 · answer #10 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
DO IT! That is, only if you are willing to put your marriage in jeopardy. The only way a true husband would allow this is if he considers you a "trophy wife" and would do anything to keep you around. Not a great life based on this though....
2006-09-18 17:03:06 · answer #11 · answered by dooter686 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋