I cant orgasm and its making me crazy! When me and my fiance first got together, we were like 2 jackrabbits. Now, I feel like my 80 year old grandparents. He works offshore 7 and 7 and when he is in, I am lucky if I get it 3 times that whole week. He works his *** off offshore so when he is home, he is so drained! We have a GREAT relationship! We both changed physically but in a positive way! We have always been satisfied with one another. He tells me everyday how beautiful I am, so I know he has not lost interest in me @ all. I want our sex life to be more spontaneous & interesting! What can I do as a woman? I am not blaming my lack of orgasmic activity on him but when we do have sex, it takes for ever for me to reach a orgasm. For him, it only take mins. I know sex does not make the relationship, but he is my fiance so it is not only sex. Its like a bonding time for me and him! I love him and I want to spice up our sex life but what can I do? I need some ideas! Please Help!
Thx
2006-09-18 16:02:51 · 13 answers · asked by leshay923 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He needs to develop control of his orgasms so he can last longer. He'll enjoy it more too. Check out the first article below for him.
You need to learn more about your body so you can teach him how to bring you to orgasm. Check out the second article for you. Once you become adept at bringing yourself to orgasm, you'll be able to communicate it to him.
2006-09-18 16:11:50 · answer #1 · answered by Otis F 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
unless there is something medically wrong with you, i.e. a hooded clitoris, the fact that you don't have an orgasm may be him. does he know where your buttons are? do you know where your buttons are? unlike men, women have to learn how to have an orgasm. practice masturbation techniques when he is not with you. i would also think that the foreplay is not lasting long enough to properly prepare you. rent some XXX movies for the next time he is home. unplug the phone, lock the doors and spend the day naked together, no clothes allowed. educate yourself on different positions. sex isn't everything but it is a big thing when it comes to lasting relationships. a man that knows that he can not help his partner achieve orgasm may feel inadequate in bed and would want to avoid sex. if you can't get a handle on it seek professional help. i know it seems as though this should be the most natural thing in the world but you would be surprised how many people have this same problem.
p.s. i would also advise you to fake it until you learn how to make it,
2006-09-18 16:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by handyman5218 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being satisfied has everythingto do with a relationship. If u r not satisfied you need to let your man know what is is that is lacking. COMMUNICATE!!!!! Tell him exactly what you want and need as a woman to be satisfied. You are engaged...this shouldn't be a hard thing to do. Once you and your man begin to talk and express to one another what you like to do in bed and different ways to spice things up you won't be needing anyone elses adviise...things will come naturally and you will probably be satisfied before the conversation is over.
2006-09-18 16:29:06 · answer #3 · answered by freedom4ni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a vibrator and use it when you are having sex. I used to be the same way because I wasn't getting any clitoral stimulation believe me it works like a charm
You can also ask him what type of things he would like, but make sure that you find out what turns you on also.
You have to know your body and what turns you on, when he is away do some exploring on your body you will find out how easliy it will be for you to get turned on.
Also go for more foreplay it's very important
2006-09-18 16:08:07 · answer #4 · answered by miss_lady6980 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he may have to start getting you to orgasm orally before he does his thing with you. Even though its not the same as getting off together at least you will be orgasm each time you have sex with him. Maybe he could get some of that numbing jel and rub on his tally wacker before sex....it is for numbing the penis......I could go for ever with that stuff....lol Good Luck
2006-09-18 16:11:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sometimes have a similar problem with my husband. You can chalk this one up to women and men are wired differently. a man who has not had it very often when stimulated goes almost right away. A woman who has not had it for a while will take longer to warm up. The more you are together and think and talk to each other more in tune with each other you become. When you are away fro a while the gap becomes greater
2006-09-18 16:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by memorris900 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do no longer think of it incredibly is your companions fault. that is no longer as much as him to make the lady orgasm. that's up for the guy to make contributions to the ladies making herself orgasm... its no sturdy putting each and all the rigidity on him besides. he will purely grow to be disheartened and the region gets worse. you're able to discover out the thank you to make your self orgasm. A fool evidence way is to get into the bathe and twist the bathe head so as that that's a right away blast and then cut back the water bypass to something that isn't too difficult. or you could take the bathe head off all jointly and use it like a hose-pipe. placed the water agaist your clitorus and you would be orgasming suitable away! attempt to stimulate the comparable feeling inclusive of your palms, yet this takes lots extra coaching. while to have that nailed then concentration on making use of your important different to stumlate the comparable feeling which takes much extra coaching. Make it exciting, use diverse lube, and in case you want to assist the region alongside ensure you tighten your muscular tissues as much as achieveable for the period of intercourse... on your vagina and on your abdomen, it will make it much less confusing to return. A place it incredibly is quite sturdy for beginners is with him on appropriate, yet while he's extra at eye point with then you definately he would be rubbing your clit as he enters - yummy! purely relax ;)
2016-10-01 03:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relax and enjoy the moment. Maybe you are thinking too much about coming. Also let him know. There are so many things out there for you and him to try. Search the web thats a start.
2006-09-18 16:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by iseestupidpeopleeverywhere 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
masturbate on your own....get a toy if you need to. then when you're with him...help yourself along at that right moment.
a trick that men love is to have him in you and repeatedly squeeze and release him. to learn how to do this....when you are peeing, stop the stream and let it start again. this is the same muscle. the faster you can do this the better. it'll blow his mind.
2006-09-18 16:16:50 · answer #9 · answered by ladylawyer26 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
foreplay. make him give u oral for a long time before he puts it in u. try and get him to hit the right spot. have him tease u for a while until u have to have it. that will get u off for sure
2006-09-18 16:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by BigRobe40 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋