I've caught her in the act...but you don't just mess with someone's marriage. But he's my best friend and this will absolutely kill him. They've only been married for 2 months! Where does a best friend's loyalty lie?
2006-09-18 15:48:38 · 56 answers · asked by Rabid 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unless you personally are boinking her, no. It's not your business to do so, he'll find out eventually. Just be there for him when it happens.
2006-09-18 15:51:02 · answer #1 · answered by Danielle M 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Absolutely! Especially since it's only been 2 months so he can draft up the divorce papers! In most states the longer you are married then the more alimony he has to pay. And in some other states he wont' have to pay a dime if it's under a certain amount of time. If he got married in a religious church then see if he can get the marriage annulled because she was caught cheating.
FOR GOD'S SAKE TELL HIM!
It's going to hurt him but hopefully he'll see you're doing him a favor. Now there is ONE danger. He might NOT believe you!!! Yes, I've seen this happen enough times where the man will say "OK, I'll prove you wrong, I'm going to ask her." Well, of course she's going to lie! People lie about this in court so why would they tell the truth if they are the one's cheating?
I recommend you take him out to dinner on one of his day's off, preferable in public place. Start off by telling him how much of a good friend he is and that you are only going to tell him something because it's really something he should know.
Your loyalty lies with him, not the beeeyotch that is cheating on him. I've had several friends who were male strippers and let me tell you......at more than 70% of the female bachelor parties, the bride had sex with them. In some cases it was even a mother and a daughter. There are some real sickos out there. I don't think it's wrong if they weren't about to get married.....heheheeh.
So this is far more rampant than most people think.
TELL HIM!
Rod
2006-09-18 15:53:33 · answer #2 · answered by thedatepro 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Tell Him. It's What Being A True Friend Is About. It's Gonna Crush Him, So Be Their For Him When He Needs Ya. Make Sure You Tell Him Everything As It Happened Too, Tell Him How You Didn't Want To Tell Him For His Own Sake Just So He Can Thoroughly Understand The Situation....
2006-09-18 15:54:34 · answer #3 · answered by Can't Make A Good Avatar!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you are in a tough position, please don't tell him, it's really their business, and though you are his best friend, and this would kill him, do not say anything, let him find out through her, you should probably confront this unfaithful stupid woman though and let her know that what she is doing is so going to hurt him and you do give her an ultimatum, ask her why she married him, if she was going to cheat on him and especially so soon.
Question her, corner her, tell her off if you have to, I know it would be hard. I wouldn't tell the guy, just say something like know this guy at work and his wife is cheating on him or something like that, see what he's reaction is. Do not tell him, he'd be so very devastated. Just wait a while and see if she is really sorry.
2006-09-18 15:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by You are loved 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooooh, you're in a bad spot.
1). If you tell, you're a "homewrecker" or "jealous"
2). If you don't tell, you're not being "a good friend"
If you want to help, leave an anonymous note saying "your wife is unfaithful to you - SAVE YOURSELF." Type it and leave it for him. Better he knows AND you didn't have to confront him. He would be even WORSE off if he finds out a couple of YEARS into the marriage, so let the truth be known NOW.
2006-09-18 17:06:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, from my point of view i think you should tell him. I mean i def. understand you dont want to tell cause he loves her and all that, but the thing is she doesnt love him the was he does and he deserves to know. Its up to him if he wants to stay with her. If she ***** around your best friend might even end up getting an STD. So be the best friend you are and let him know. Just you know invite him over but some beer and watch a football game or what ever and let him know easy. Make sure you let him know you're there for 100%.
Good luck!
2006-09-18 15:57:31 · answer #6 · answered by krissy_pod 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should defintalety tell him... you have to see the big picture here...do you want him to spend the rest of his life with someone who's cheating on him only two months into their marriage? Yes, it will hurt him, but remember, what doesn't kill you, will only make you stronger.It's better for him to know now, then to find out years down the road. You have to be a friend to him now and tell him, he shouldn't be wasting his time with a person who will hurt him time and time again...remember once a cheater, always a cheater...be a good friend and open up his eyes to see someone who has, is, and will hurt him.
2006-09-18 16:13:18 · answer #7 · answered by tweenky1982 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! if you tell him, you will probably lose your best friend. My husband was in the same situation. He told his best friend of 15 years. And his friends wife came up with a good cover story. And his friend just thought my hubby was being mean because he didn't like the new wife.( neither of us did) It is nutty, but if he really loves this women he is going to believe her, until he See's it for himself. You could drop some suttle hints. But you need to be very careful. People are strange when they are in love. You could go to her, and tell her that if she doesn't tell him you will. Maybe it will scare her enough to get her to confess.
I wish you the best, you are in a really tough spot.
2006-09-18 15:57:01 · answer #8 · answered by Kali_girl825 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a Tough One....I would confront her and make sure that she KNOWs that you do know. More than Likely she will A) confess before you can tell or B) treat him like he shouldnt hang around you anymore. if it comes down to option B .... then you could tell him why she has been treating him that way. which should take some of the sting out of the blow.
I once had a friend that I didnt tell his GF was a floozy until after they broke up. He wanted to Know why I didnt and I told him well I didnt want you mad at me, and he was like yeah you did the right thing.
2006-09-18 15:53:52 · answer #9 · answered by D B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I told my friend and I lost a friend over it. But I don't feel so bad because it saved a lifetime of her being in a terrible marriage. If she is cheating and they have only been married 2 months...tell him. Be there as a friend. You are not messing with their marriage(unless you are the one she is cheating with) ...they don't have a "marriage."
2006-09-18 15:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by rcpaden 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A best friend's loyalty lies with the best friend, obviously.
This is a tough call.
He is going to be hurt either way, and he will eventually find out.
You may lose his friendship if you tell him.
You will certainly lose his friendship when he finds out about her cheating and also that you knew and didn't tell him.
But how to tell him? You need a better mind than mine.
2006-09-18 15:55:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋