Based on personal experience, is it worth joining a fratenrity?

Question

I am trying to decide whether to join a fraternity but i'm not sure about it. I don't want to feel like I am buying my friends but i still want to have fun in college.

What about if you are in a previous relationship?

Answer 1

Time to disspell some of the myths made/will be made by uneducated posters who know nothing about greek life.

1. They are not for insecure people. Insecure people are not confident enough to even go to a fraternity or sorority. Most greek life people are confident on what they want and they go after it

2. To whom said they stink....explain you are doing no help with out reasons

3. Not all greek life people are pretentious. the education in almost every greek house is not how to be pretentious but is built on making someone more of a "lady" and "gentlemen"

4. Not every fraternity/sorority house is filled with the same people, such as in cultural beliefs, financial back ground....There is a 50/50 split in my house of kids who get finanacial aid from the college and others that their parents pay. There are many different beliefs in my house when it comes down to religion or current events. Sorry I am not in my same class in my fraternity, It's a mix.

Also University do not place people into a fraternity/sorority house, The members of a house choose you to be apart of the house.

Race/religion/class does NOT matter in all national fraternities!!!! What matters is how you are and if the members of the house fell you will get along.

Fraternities and Sororities do NOT limit your opprotunities there are many business connections gained but joining a sister/brotherhood. You do meet other people when you go to your classes. It is not like you are taking classes just in your house. I have never missed an opprotunity because of my house I am have only gained them.

5. Not elitist @ssholes....that was said by someone who has never ment anyone really in greeklife

Hazing is something that is very limited due to national chapter coming down hard on any house accused of. Hazing I have found to be worse on the colleges varsity teams and clubs

The greek system DOES NOT glorify conformity and discourage individuality. Many people think that simply because they usually see fraternity borthers or sorority sisters always hangout together. Guess what though pledging is where you become extremely close to your pledge brothers and the brothers or sisters in the house. I never realized how close I would be to these people just through becoming their brother. I never new how much i had in common with the brothers until I got to talking to them. I was in many of the same other clubs as my brothers and the brothers in the fraternity house, I knew them through the many clubs I was involved with and I still wasn't that close. If you want to meet a variety of people join a fraternity or sorority or just go around campus and talk to a variety people. In the clubs i am a member of I don't see much variety. In the glass blowing club see a bunch of stoners and it the frisbee club I see a bunch of lazy people that couldn't make it on the sports teams. In my fraternity I am now hanging out with people i never knew or would think about talking to until i joined. Current greek houses do not have a imposed standards to be a member

6. You are not paying for friends you would know this if you were ever in or studied greek life

As for the parties. It is the theme praties trhat get people excited. Girls ingeneral like to spend the time to look nice to go out So they love getting dressed up for event like you mentionede.(Maybe you should leave your room and talk to a girl excited togo to a theme party)
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Now let me explain to you why i joined a fraternity!

I join to meet new people and make new friends. Before the fraternity I was involved with 3 major clubs on my college campus and one I help start from scratch, so my reason was not that i didn't have any friends, I wanted more. Also the opprotunities of brotherhood and business connections. I would be lying if the social scene didn't cross my mind as well. Academics were a big part alot of my brothers are economic majors like myself and I can ask them for help when ever. Finally I love the community service, I am my fraternities community service chair.

My college allows you to pledge as a sophmore so this is away to make sure you don't rely on a fraternity for friends. My fraternity doesn't keep me from hanging with my friends i made before them as some will say they do.

I picked this house simply cause the great community serivice I heard of. Also I met some of the brothers my freshman year. Also my friends from freshman year all liked this fraternity so that is why we decided to rush this one.
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If you are worried about if it is for you talk to the members in the house and ask them questions they will answer them. I know before I pledged I talk to the current president of my house multiple times as well as some of the members before I knew it was for me.

Overall this was the best decision of my life

Answer 2

I joined one and don't regret it at all. There was no hazing involved, just learning the history. You won't get along with everybody, but you'll still make some solid friends. You'll learn the art of dealing with lots of people, even with those you don't like, in a positive way; this is important for business. The pay off is that your job applications will have a plus since most business leaders were fraternity men. It doesn't matter if you were Theta Xi, a Sigma Chi employer will still want you over a non-greek.

The negative side is that it does consume a lot of your time. You'll have to deal with sorority girls that are a lot like high school girls in terms of gossip, but they put out more. You'll also be around alcohol a lot more. And honestly, there is a lot of peer presure, but you can deal with it.

The most important one of all the qualities is that you can always drop out. You rush, join, and then you go inactive and become a normal student again. People who do this sometimes get some **** in terms that their bros don't like them/talk to them, but who cares? You left because they weren't for you. I would say, rush, pledge, get initiated, and then choose if it is right or not to stay.

Oh, and you're not buying your friends. Us fraternity guys always tend to be amongst the most popular with women and have grown up with solid frienships and been part of sports groups. The money you pay goes to formal, food, rush t-shirts, etc. I honestly found my fees ($200 a quarter) to be quite cheap when I had a full house to go eat, drink, and meet women at any time I pleased. They also have parking next to campus and the cheapest rent in all the city.

Answer 3

99% of ALL college frats and sororities are nothing short of socio-class business ventures; you pay for those towel on the azz popping "care-free" fun. You want to go up a social class, you pay up. You want to lay the hot college sorority girls, you pay up. You want to be at the wildest parties, with "star-named" music stage shows......well, you get the idea now.

I did say 99%.....feel free to waste your time and money on these frats; I'm not going to stop you by no means.

There is ONE fraternity, never dared to be called a "frat", where it's members are an elite inner circle.....and their alumni list some very impressive names. Meet their challenges for entry, blindly trust your back will ALWAYS be watched out for....and you will have the resources to do the same for your brethen.

Maybe.....just maybe....you can discreetly hail yourself a member of.......

.......Skull and Bones.

Answer 4

No stay away