I know that is not a question but i really need some inspiration...two weeks ago i found my girl cheating on me for the second time, last time we talk that it was last friday she accept that she still seeing that guy,,,can u believe it we were engached we just moved like a month ago, and i can't even look any other girl because i am always thinking about her...i know that i am so stupid, but i really loved her....and still loving her...i know that i can't take her back because she's obviously totally insane in the brain...but what woul yo do in my case??
2006-09-18 15:33:50 · 34 answers · asked by German R 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know right now you still love her but my advice is get rid of her. It is better in in the long run. You know that old saying.... fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
Its twice now.
2006-09-18 15:36:37 · answer #1 · answered by d2pain 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Think of it as a favor - better now than later.
As I tell all the girls that are in your situation - (but put in man terms)
"Dude, she's just not that into you!"
Don't hate her, just let her go and don't look back. You deserve to be treated with respect. Don't let this time be a time of sorrow and regret... think about what you want in a girl... is one of the things respect? Trustworthiness?
Now... take this time to do something good for yourself. Figure out what you want. Be true to yourself and never let a girl take your respect away from you.
Hold your head high! Be proud of your morals. Don't let go of them...
Dispite everything she has done... the best thing you can do is forgive her and move on. Cut all communication with her until you know you're totally over her and have moved on. It's the easiest way to move on from a break up. Do NOT talk to her! If you continue... it will only make things worse. You'll never move on.
Start a new life. Get your goals straight - a girl that respects what a true relationship means will show up when you least expect it.
You're better off... :)
2006-09-18 16:00:29 · answer #2 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find ur own way to cope.. and move on, she obviously doesnt love u the way u love her, and u deserved to be loved the same way.. if u stay she'll just keep doing this to u.. even after your married, u'll never know if the kids are really yours and u'll end up on Maury Povich getting a Dna and a lie dectector test..on her.. is that what u want???????? no.. so see this as a blessing.. know that their are women that would give their eye teeth for a good man to come along into their life.. shes not worth the pain and agony ur feeling.. go find a real woman that can be everything u need her to be..
2006-09-18 15:39:53 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What would I do? Well I'll tell u what I did when my ex bf cheated on me. I dropped him like a rock, as fast as I could and moved on. Now I'm married to a wonderful man and when I look back, I think to myself how stupid I've been. Yes, there is life after her. U just have to let go and move on because in the long run, it's just not worth the trouble.
2006-09-18 16:33:47 · answer #4 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would have left the 1st time. You can grow outta LOVE how could you love someone you can never trust? Your better then this I would totally CUT her off! no calls no talk no seeing her PRETEND she's non existent. BE COLD TO her don't let her run to you for safety. Get a new GF MOVE ON it's sucks it takes time you'll be OKAY. It's in your best interest to let it be don't hang out with mutual friends 4 a while don't DWELL on finding out what she's up to. Get over it by cutting yourself emotionaly off from her and things and people close to her. If you see her don't talk walk away IGNORE her.
2006-09-18 15:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I would quit calling myself stupid. You know, the song, "Everybody Plays the Fool"? It's true. What you described happens to nearly everyone. Recognize that you got punk'd romantically. You will still have feelings for your fiancee for a long time, that's only natural. Concentrate on the good times you two had and spend your newfound free time on yourself. Take up a hobby, join a team, circulate and network. Try to think of the signs or indications your ex showed that indicated she was the kind of person who would cheat on you and be aware of them in your next relationship before your heart is broken again.
2006-09-18 15:38:40 · answer #6 · answered by shomechely 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well sweetie I hate to break it to you but she knows she can do it and get away with it. I know first hand, a couple years ago I dated/lived with a guy for a year but even though he was great and i knew i would be stupid to lose him I cheated cause I knew i could. Thinking back I'm sorry I hurt him but there was something missing. I just could not make myself love him the way he loved me. Good luck!
2006-09-18 15:44:52 · answer #7 · answered by jovi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am in your shoes so to speak..Last week the father of my 2 children walked out on US. He was cheating for the second time and just left and hasn't came back since. I don't know what to do. I am lost and hurt and confused...Just remember however bad things seem there is always someone who is a little worse off than you...I wish you luck..Maybe she'll come around in the mean time keep busy...I know it is hard but there is more fish in the sea..
2006-09-18 15:39:32 · answer #8 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Right now you are very angry, so there really isn't alot of advice to give you accept to let this subside first . Then the hurt will surface and you'll be miserable for awhile. Let this happen, too. It will take time. Allow for healing. Not til you go thru the whole process should you even think about dating someone.
And yes, she is a bit off her rocker.
2006-09-18 15:38:40 · answer #9 · answered by weddrev 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its gonna take some time. Just think about the good things in Life...football, food, family, faith. Notice girls aren't on this list. Thats just fine for now. I know in the coming May you will disagree with me...when you've met Miss. I can't live without.....
My point is life goes on. If that was meant to be then maybe its just not meant to be right now. Just don't focus all of your energies on her and don't forget to get some fresh air and work off that carton of cookie dough ice cream. Friends will be good for you so don't barricade yourself. It'll be alright, friend.
2006-09-18 15:46:32 · answer #10 · answered by rainsparrow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My cousin had sort of the same problem he was like I can't love another.. I dont want to start over.. but guess what? you can start over. Shes got you p*ssy whipped man! Kick her to the curb! This is not a woman you want to start a family with. Just imagine 10-15 years down the road when you guys have kids and she pulls the same crap again. Just remember that if she loved you she wouldn't do it. If you want to get revenge hook up with your ex or even her best friend.. thats what I would do :P
2006-09-18 15:38:38 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋