Well i've been feeling depressed for about 3 weeks now...i get sad, and mad for no reason...but sometimes when i think about my boyfriend i get sad...and i'm starting to think some of my depression is coming from him...cuz whenever i dont talk to him, i get sad and i wanna cry and i start think he's doing things he shouldnt be doing...and now my depression is making me think about think that are ridiculous (like cutting my wrist)...i dont want to keep these thoughts so what should i do bout my depression???the thing that is probably bothering me is that i really love my boyfriend and i dont wanna loose him....see he really wants me to get myself straight...he wants me to get a job in the next 3 months or he's leaving me and i think thats what is bothering me....
2006-09-18 15:22:17 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You said you love this guy, but does he love you? You talk about what he wants you to do, but what do you want to do? I hope you learn to love yourself and stop thinking about self-destruction. I'm sure there are some people in this world who do love you, so please don't break the hearts of those who truly care and would miss you terribly. Life is worth living whether this guy is in your life or not. Try to get some counseling so that you will begin to see things more clearly because your emotions are leading you in the wrong direction. I wish you peace, comfort and wisdom.
2006-09-18 15:33:54 · answer #1 · answered by Bethany 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Well the first thing I am going to say is that you need to get your head on straight. Find what makes you happy, not who. You can't live your life for anyone but yourself. Second I think you should talk to a counselor. Or even try so anti-depressants. I doesn't hurt to ask for help. The important thing is you do get help. You don't want to live like that. I have been there and I don't want to go back. You can be happy. You just have to help yourself before you can even think about helping your relationship. Hope that helps. All the best.
2006-09-18 22:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anna L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get some professional help, and do not rely on this guy to dictate your feelings or what you need to be doing. if you are going thru a bad depression, now may not be the time to get a job. you need to get some help for yourself first. and if he is only causing you more depression and problems, don't be with him. you may be in a place where you really just need to work things out for yourself right now. i KNOW it is hard, because especially when you are depressed you start to rely on others, and the thought of being heartbroken and alone may seem like more than you can possibly handle. but think about where the relationsip is really going. is it inevitably going to lead there anyway? are you just prolonging the pain?
2006-09-18 22:28:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
your boyfriend probably knows how weak you are as a person. If you think about cutting your wrist, he has experienced that you are not strong, and men like strong women not weaklings. If you show him that you can make it without him, you'll see a change in him. To do that means that you have to take interest in other things so that you won't miss him so much. And when he starts paying you more attention, appreciate him, but don't act like you can't live without him. It doesn't work. They just leave you.
2006-09-18 22:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all you need to get yourself straight for you not your boyfriend. See a doctor about your depression before you do anything. Dont let this boyfriend dictate to you about anything. From what you have said, I think you love him too much. Yes I said too much. You care more about him than you do yourself and that isnt good for you. Take care.
2006-09-18 22:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by shirley e 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you get yourself sorted out then start thinking about relationships becaue if you are not happy then what makes you think that your relationship will be happy, medication doesnt really help you sound like you do need a job and start doing exciting stuff with family and friends you will be surprised at what it does to your self esteme trust me i have been in your shoes before and i am happy now in a job and with friends and family and my supportive partner. by the way if your bf is not going to be supportive then maybe its time to say good bye and get yourself sorted. good luck
2006-09-18 22:41:52 · answer #6 · answered by Emma G 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go find a job for yourself and get your life together. If you are depressed go see a doctor and get on some meds. You gotta get yourself strong and do what needs to be done with your life.
2006-09-18 22:25:49 · answer #7 · answered by michelle 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you really need to see someone a doctor or someone you can trust like a older person.if you cut your wrist your boyfriend might will leave you then.because you said he want you to get your self straight hurting your self wont help your relationship it will hurt it. talk to someone
2006-09-18 22:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what u are so called going thriugh is str8 stupid baby gurl don't let no one stress u out baby gurl u'll end up going crazy u are better than that and u don't deserve to be going thru what u are going thru so get urself together and 4get about him if he is the reason u are so called "DEPRESSED". i mean 4real this was a waste of 5 points baby gurl
2006-09-18 22:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Baby Gurl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
go see your family doctor or health clinic and tell them this. good luck
2006-09-18 22:24:51 · answer #10 · answered by roodawgs98 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋