i hate the way my girlfriend dresses ladies help?

Question

My girlfriend, who i love to death is a horrible dresser. She wears nothing but t-shirts(guys t-shirts at that), blue jeans or wind pants or jogging pants. I mean she is beautiful, but she says she dosen't want to dress like all the other girls, which i can understand. people want to be individuals. but on the same end when we go clothes shopping for me, she finds these god damn t-shirts that are way to big for her but she like the designs so she gets them and wears them everywhere. People always think that she dress's herself out of my closet and i am really getting tired of it. Is there any kind of happy medium out there, where she wouldn't be showing too much skin(which she wants) to at least wearing something feminine(which i want her to do). And dresses and skirts are out of the question, she would rather jump off a cliff than wear one of those. Maybe i am just being to picky, but i just wish she would at least dress like the beautiful woman she is.

no she didn't always dress this way, it is progressively getting worse.. the other day she wanted a football jersey of her team. thats fine i told her not to buy a mens one cause she would be swimming in it. so we tried to find a womens one and they didn't have one so naturally she started looking at mens ones. luckily i found a youth xl that fit her perfectly. almost like the womens ones. so would it be out of the question to suggest at least the youth xl shirts instead of mens. at least they fit

Answer 1

Have you ever worn "pretty girls clothes"? I doubt it.

Well, take it from a girl, they're damn uncomfortable! I wish I was as brave as your girlfriend, and only wore what was comfortable. Unfortunately, like many girls, I wear the clothes that society wants me to wear.

And your girlfriend is who she is. Don't try to change her. Its not a flaw!

however, if you want to see a change, whenever she wears something that you feel is more girly, or pretty, etc. make sure you compliment it! But, don't say something like, "You look so pretty, I wish you always dressed like that" Then she will feel you're trying to change her. Instead simply say, "You look so pretty in that skirt" (or dress, or whatever). Women seek to please, and you may find her dressing like that more when she is around you.

Answer 2

You don't own her therefor you can't tell her how to dress, you can only make suggestions. It really should not matter what she wears if you love her cause when you love a person you love them for them, and right now you are trying to change a part of who she is. So therefor you kinda love her for what you want to change her into.
Everyone haves their own different style, and they have the right too. I don't think you are going to get her to wear a dress or skirt cause that is so far off bases as far as she is concerned. However If the way she dresses you need to talk to her about it like an adult don't behave childish cause that will get you no where. Try shopping at some new stores maybe she can find more clothes that fit her body better then the men's shirts and still feel like she is not changing her style. Like maybe some dress pants, a tank top with a blazer over top of it. That could be a compromise for the dress and skirt. When it comes down to it it's her body and she is going to dress it the way she wants too.

Answer 3

I mean first. If you liked her at first while the dressed that way then she might say why should she have to change now? Most of the time when women dress in over-sized or baggy clothes its for a reason other than not wanting to dress like all the other girls. Because believe me, their are lots of women that dress that way. It could be that maybe she doesnt like her body, or maybe she has been dressing that way for so long that she things she would look funny in those clothes, or she doesnt think she is pretty enough. Tons of reasons. You should talk to her about it first, Tell her how you feel and ask her why she really doesnt like dressing feminine. Dont be pushy. Alot of times ppl wont like something until they try it take her shopping ask her to try on some different things tell her how good she looks in them. If that doesnt work you can always take her on What Not to Wear or How do I Look? (TV shows) just joking

Answer 4

Your last sentence is really sweet. So what you could do is buy a more femine outfit for her. Don't go wild and buy something she will feel totally uncomfortable in. You can get a nice pair of jeans designed for her body type. If you buy them in a jeans oriented store like Gap the salesperson can probably help with what flatters her body type. And pick up a comfortable knit top in an appropriate size. Knits are as comfortable as a T-shirt but come in lots of cute styles that are a little more attractive. Then take her out to a casual dining restaraunt for dinner so she has an opportunity to wear her new threads. Remember the idea is that you want to do something special for her Not that you are embarrassed of her look. Maybe she'll feel good that night and it will stick.

Answer 5

Well, I find that a lot of women who show a lot of skin do so because they are not confident of their bodies. Those who have it, know it and don't need to have someone else tell them so. This maybe what she's objecting to. But, people who wear oversized clothes also tend to suffer from self-esteem issues and are trying to hide their bodies. That may be her case, or it may just be that she doesn't realize just how drowned she looks in oversized mens shirts (I personally think they're more comfortable myself, so I can understand why she'd like them). Go out and buy her a nice woman's tee-shirt in her size with a flattering but not slutty neckline as a present. It'll be more form fitting but not too far from what she's comfortable with. She'll be obligated to at least try it on since you got it for her, and if she likes it, then you two can go from there --together-- about what else she might like and look good in at the same time.

Answer 6

I hate to say this, but I'm a guy. Personally, as far as dressing goes, I love the idea of a girl in t-shirts and jeans. If you wanna make a compromise, get her to wear Levis and maybe some shirts that don't drop too far below her butt. How's that?

And by the way, I don't see the difference between guys and girls t-shirts as far as length goes. And just as a heads up, if you notice her in the store checking out guys jeans (you didn't mention this, but I'm just thinking ahead), don't worry. Lotsa girls do that. I worked with a couple of girls (pretty cute too) that wear guys jeans and they look good in them!

Something else too....you might wanna clarify this.

"Is there any kind of happy medium out there, where she wouldn't be showing too much skin(which she wants)...."

Does she wanna show skin or not? I was kinda confused by that. I'm assuming she doesn't, but that statement was kinda vague.

I guess my thinking is that if she likes wearing loose clothes, who cares? You know what's underneath them, and maybe that's all that counts to her. It might be a blessing that she doesn't wanna show off her assets with tight shirts and jeans. That might not be a bad thing.....

Answer 7

Let me first assure you that it's absolutely perfectly fine for you to want your girlfriend to dress better, she's gorgeous, she should show it off, plus it boosts not only her self-esteem, but yours for having such a pretty lady by your side. If going out and fancy attire is necessary, suggest getting her a blazer/suit, their for women, extremely classy, not too showy and comfortable. The suit should be tailored with a just-right fit, not too loose and the pants should flare at the bottom, with a high heeled slipper, she's set.

If you want to coax her in wearing more feminine clothes, i suggest casually looking through the mail and sometimes you get those catalogs for women. Browse through it and show her some of the things you like. Or try saying you need to buy some clothes for a sister/cousin/colleague as a birthday present, and take her with you, make her try on the clothes for "size."

Answer 8

It really sounds like she is trying to hide something, has low self esteem in regards to her body shape, or has a problem with feeling sexy. Build her confidence by telling her she looks great when she REALLY does - she'll get an idea of what is good or not.
Does she have female friends who you can rope into taking her on a shopping spree? Hand them some $$ and give them instructions to find her clothes she loves - but they MUST be from the women's department!!
You can be an individual without dressing slobbish. Some style advice is desperately needed.

Answer 9

Give her several gift certificates that have to be redeemed at only dressy places. Allow her to pick out what she likes. Allow her to change the way she dresses. Don;t try to force her to dress a certain way. Also, women go through changes. She will dress this way for awhile and than Wham, she will shock ya. Just be glad she doesn't dress all slutty and show all her stuff off to make other guys drool. Another thing you can try too is go to hair saloons and nail places and get her certificates to get her hair done and nails done. May be even a manicure or pedicure. Women LOVE to be pampered, and once she gets the taste of that nice pampering she will change for you I promise. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Well, maybe you should go to a shopping trip together and you should help her with her clothes. Usually it's very hard to convince women to dress better if they hate it. You should tell her that she'll look much better with nice clothes on. YOu should also at least make her try stuff on, so she would realise how better she looks in femine clothes. You can also buy her some really expensive outfit and tell her taht if she doesn't wear it, you'll get very upset.

Good luck.