I need so much help on this question, thanks to whoever answers this = ) any ways i had a friend who was really annoying at times and who always tried to get into people's business and who tried to be someone they really are not. I told her once that i used to like him long before they went out but he didn't know i liked him so i guess he went out with her to experience what a relationship felt like, although it didn't last a long time. i started talking to him online as friends just talking about life and what friends do. i never would've thought to go out with him until 3 years after his break up with my friend. i haven't talked to my friend for a while since i'm really busy and she's busy too. but it's like we're not friends anymore. i've been with him for about 9 1/2 months. and the worst part about it is that he was her first love but it never turned out as love but as puppy love. is this bad that i'm with her ex-boyfriend she doesn't even know about it but i love him?he loves me
2006-09-18 14:18:06 · 15 answers · asked by hnm 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had to come back in here & modify my answer after i see all these above answers....
What's wrong w/ these folks????? It's still wrong...regardless how close or not close you both are...
That's one rule me & my girls have: We don't date each other's exes, crushes or even their old/current "friends w/ benefits". Even if we're not friends anymore that's just not cool...I see alot of people now-a-days must think this is cute but let's be real..it's not.
It could've possibly been overlooked if you didn't know they ever dated & y'all hooked up, but you do know....
2006-09-18 14:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by NicNac 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMe personally? If the relationship is over, she shouldn't worry about it. It's not like you got with him 3 days after they split. You waited 3 years. From my experiences, that's a world record. She should be over him by now. If ya'll love each other, God bless and good luck.
But there's that rule: You shouldn't date your friends ex. Some people live by that statement and some don't care. It all depends on how your friend's view are on this type of thing. If she don't care, you're good. If she does, you're screwed.
I do wish you happiness though. If you were my friend, I wouldn't care.
2006-09-18 21:29:58 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, it's been 3 years... if she isn't over him by now, it's never gonna happen. He deserves a life after her...so why not with you? If the subject ever comes up between you, don't be apologetic... it's life. I'm hoping that she's mature enough to not expect him to die because they're not together anymore!! There are other, more important things to worry about, like.... what color will your bridesmaids wear?? :)
2006-09-18 21:24:51 · answer #3 · answered by Peanut 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it depends on how valuable your friendship is. However, I as a rule, would never risk a friendship by dating a friends ex no matter how tempted I might be. Remember Karma - what goes around comes around and what if this happened to you?
2006-09-18 21:22:51 · answer #4 · answered by Cashmere621 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have the word friend in quotation marks, I don't think you have to worry. You've already put her out of your mind and life, so unless she starts making a big deall out of it, I wouldn't worry. If you and your b/f are doing great(which is what it sounds like! Congrats!) then she really has nothing to say to you about it.
2006-09-18 21:22:15 · answer #5 · answered by Frogodo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion it sounds like you two arent really that much of friends anyway.. And no its not bad to go out with him besides the two of you are in love you guys are ment to be together... If she is truely your friend she'll be happy that you both found love & happiness...
2006-09-18 21:23:26 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Nympho*~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WELL GIRL I THINK THAT ITS OK AS LONG AS SHE WASNT IN LOVE WITH HIM SEE THERE IS A DIFFERENT BETWEEN LOVING SOMEONE AND BEING IN LOVE YOU SAID IT WAS JUST PUPPY LOVE THAT THEY HAD FOR EACH OTHER THEN ITS FINE I THINK THAT YOU SHOULD TELL HER THOUGH THAT WAY SHE WONT BE MAD AT YOU FOR KEEPING IT FORM HER BECAUSE I THINK SHE MIGHT GET VERY MAD AT YOU IF YOU KEEP IT FORM HER ANY LONGER LIKE IF SHE FOUND OUT ON HER OWN I THINK SHELL BE PISSED BUT NO I DONT THINK ITS WRONG FOR YOU TO GO OUT WITH HIM LIKE YOU SAID IT WAS PUPPY LOVE THEY HAD SO ITS OK
2006-09-18 21:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by mrs.sl33py 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. They have been through with each other for a long time.
2006-09-18 21:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by honiebyrd 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its just puppie love. i mean my life is confusing, see the guy i'm going out with right now went out with my ex bff emilie, then my friend ashley then me then ashley then me. yeah i kno.
2006-09-18 21:20:25 · answer #9 · answered by ..<3.. Green_pixie ..<3.. 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
totally nothing wrong with it..but ifu were really good friends then id have to call u a slut..but its all good okay..haha..who cares..u love him
2006-09-18 21:32:06 · answer #10 · answered by saweet_chick_lee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋