my girlfriend and i just borke up mutually...we just need to focus on other things in our lives for the past 9 months it has ben about each other and nothing else...and other things just didnt have a place in our lives....never mind the fact that im 16 and she is 17 ..teenagers...
2006-09-18 14:13:47 · 15 answers · asked by curious george 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Do anything you felt you had to give up or put on the back burner during your relationship, even if it's talking to a friend you may have ignored. It sounds like you have a lot of people to catch up with if you've been each other's worlds for nine months.
Throw yourself into schoolwork, activities, etc.
Give it time. The hurt will linger a while, and be provoked by the damnedest things.
*hug* I'm sorry. Breakups suck whatever the age or gender makeup.
2006-09-18 14:22:23 · answer #1 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was it a good seperation or bad.. oh nevermind, that really does not matter. No matter who did what to whom, I know it still hurts, and it will take some time for the pain to wear off. Right now you feel like someone has taken a dager and cut your heart out.
But that is part of growing up. Yes unfortunately pain is part of that as well as love, joy, and happiness.
This world we live in is full of pain. Let this be a stepping stone in your next relationship. Learn from it, so that it does not happen again. Hold your head up high, and time will heel all wounds.
2006-09-18 21:46:27 · answer #2 · answered by Brad B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot, dear. You just have to go through it. After awhile, the pain will lessen. Just take up some of the things you used to have an interest in again; try to make new friends, and go ahead and have a good cry if you need to every so often. It is okay, because you hurt, and you lost something important to you. It has indeed happened to us all, and that is the only way to deal with it. I know it is not easy.
2006-09-18 21:17:33 · answer #3 · answered by hopflower 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You'll be okay. The best part about the break-up was it was mutual. Meaning you 2 still have a chance to be friends. Those are the best kind of break-ups. Just focus on what you need to i.e. school,family, etc. If its meant to be it'll be that much better when you get back together. Good Luck!
2006-09-18 21:17:41 · answer #4 · answered by c_jayo6 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what ever your sexual preference/ and or age is-love hurts sometimes-the only way it will get better is time-and falling in love again -and you will-trust me-i have been where you are-and to be blunt it sucks- but don't ever give up-because the next time -will be bigger and better- i recently met someone that turned my world upside down-in a good way-it was great to know i could have those feelings again-and even though we had to let each other go-it hurts-but it was worth it-if you focus on the good this person brought to your life-you can move on-good luck
2006-09-18 21:29:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is going to be hard to believe, but there is more to life than girls. Right now, you are hurting and grieving, but the pain will subside eventually. You need to make yourself useful to your neighbors. Volunteer for a needed neighborhood project if you have the time. (When I was in high school, I was too busy with school to bother with the opposite gender or to volunteer at anything.) Get busy and work hard at something worthwhile. Habitat For Humanity will get your mind off your troubles--especially if you hit your thumb with a hammer! :o)
2006-09-18 21:25:06 · answer #6 · answered by Gail S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww.. *hugs*
Well one thing honey
in your next relationship NEVER let the relationship
be the only thing you care about . it's better like that...
I've seen that a lot of relationships ended because both people were always together and never did stuff on their own..
anyway good luck..
and as for the hurt thing .. do a lot of things to change your mind..
2006-09-18 21:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by MapDark 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never mind the fact you are 16?? You need to talk to someone about this, and I would advise you to get your parents involved too. You may think you are all grown up, and you are doing the right thing, but believe me, you need professional help. The sooner the better. Good Luck!
2006-09-18 21:20:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Find safe people to talk with or even better to cry with. After you cry it out - go have a milkshake at the local diner. All better!
2006-09-18 21:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
we'll, your 16, so you shouldn't really be focusing on things like that!.. focus on higher things in life!.. and if she's the one for you then she'll be there for you!
2006-09-18 21:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by sexii 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋