Anyone Know how to overcome my shyness?

Question

I am 13 years old and in 8th grade. I am very very shy and i try to talk to people but I feel like Im going to do something ambarressing or say something embarrassing. I was born like this cuz i was shy in preschool too. And now 10 years have passed and im still really shy like really really. I can only talk to my family and my best friend because I've known her for a long time no one else at school. I talk to my parents aout it but the things they say dont work. I really need help its like im scared of people.....
sry it waz too long

Answer 1

If you truly feel that your shyness is inhibiting your enjoyment of life, then take little baby steps to start trying to overcome it. If your best friend has friends you don't know that well, ask her to introduce you. Maybe by first talking to people with your friend nearby you will feel more comfortable and then be able eventually to branch out and speak with more people outside your comfort zone.

It sounds like you're a very sensitive person and concerned about how you'll come across to others. Try not to worry so much about that. Everybody at one point or another feels like you do, that maybe they'll "put their foot in their mouth" and sound silly. If you realize that nobody else is better than you are and doesn't really have "all the answers" then perhaps you'll feel bold enough to just try talking without so much fear.

If there's a club or group at school that involves an interest of yours, maybe go to a meeting of that and see if it's something you might want to join. Shyness doesn't have to be an obstacle that continues to stand in your way.

There are probably many good qualities you have that you should be concentrating on instead of worrying so much about your shyness. By reminding yourself of how much you have to offer you may find yourself more able to break out of your shell.

Answer 2

I have been in your shoes..so let me tell you what I went through and maybe that will help. The bottom line is that No one can help. You have to help yourself...

I was a shy person..very shy..I read a lot of books (because that was the only available medium - no internet)..One day I sat and pondered a lot and tried to isolate the issue..What is it that I'm scared of (being shy is invariably due to being afraid, being self-conscious, asking others for approval)..I found that I was looking for approval from others (for everything) including the way I dress, the way I walk etc and..the fear that that someone will not approve was causing the fear and lead me to shy away from everything..Once I analyzed the problem, I took a deep breath and made a conscious effort to tackle the issue..After a long time..I think I have made the transition..

Good luck in your efforts..IF I can help more, feel free to contact

Answer 3

Your problem is that you are very self critical. I was shy too, like you. But you have to understand that all the people around you feel insecure also. Even if they seem that they are on top of things, they are actually acting most of the time, to look the way they do. Your shyness does communicate something to the people around you, and that something is what you are actually try to hide: that you are not confident. By acting more confident, and speaking without analyzing how to do it, just doing it, you will realize that all your fears were not valid.

Answer 4

you are not scared of important people like your parents and your best friend,why should you be of the rest?if you really want to interact more,just do it ! you may be awkward at first and some people may react to you in ways that you may not like,but it is only with practice that you'll learn the art of interaction.
understand that people basically react to their perception of you,and if you project "shy" then they will react to that-bullyism,mocking,even understanding, according to their personalities.as you develop,they will have to adjust and trust me ,the longer you wait, the harder it will be for you and them.don't delay,just get out there and try.remember,you've got back up...there are people out there with no parents or best friends

Answer 5

Try reading more of books on personal/self development and active participation of group activity especially those ice-breaker sessions. Youre still young and will grow in confidence as you aged greacefully. Good luck.