Noone likes me?

Question

My hubby just told me everyone thinks I'm a b**ch,but noone wants to tell me to my face.So why do they invite me for holiday dinners and family get togethers? Why do they talk to me at all?..Perhaps that's why noone calls me....wouldn't it be better if they just told me? If they cared wouldn't they just tell me? ......................It hurts to hear such things seeing as they act like they like me when I'm around them...........and I like them.........................................P.S.,I told him I just won't talk to them at all then if I'm really unpleasent to be around!.............

Answer 1

well i like you a'lot ot ive been thinking about how you would be ,and things like that hehehe,

Answer 2

You probably are and that may be but you can't change the way people think of you. And you're putting too much stock into what other people think of you anyway. Who cares??? This is your life and you are the only one living it. Now they are probably not telling you because they're afraid you'll start acting like a ***** and really no one likes confrontation. So really take a long look at the mirror and see do you have some issues. Seriously. You may be a good person but you might be secretive, or straightforward in which case you tell your friends to go to hell, or maybe you're just not as accepting. Either way if you like how you are, stay that way but don't give up your friends. What I would do is tell them that your hubby had a long talk with you and although you don't appreciate them talking to him about it, you're willing to hear them out. Maybe you inadvertently hurt someone's feelings and they are still wounded. Apologize and move on but let them know a true friend tells other friends the truth.

Answer 3

Well, there's one of three things going on here. Either your husband is lying and trying to make you feel bad about yourself (only you know if he's the type who would try to pull something like that), the people your husband is talking about are a bunch of petty, backstabbing jerks OR you really do have a personality issue. Look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself which of these three you really think it is. Is your husband just abusing you emotionally? If so, get out of the relationship. Are these people just immature morons? If that's the case, who cares what they say or how they think. Could it possibly be an issue with your personality? If it is, then you should consider doing something about it. There are many self-help programs that can help you be a better person or counseling may be an option.

Answer 4

Well now that the damage is done by both sides, you are ready for a change in life. They don't want to tell you because they are afraid of what you will do to them. You need to confront them by saying do you think I'm a B****, or Could I ask you a question, and you can be totally honest, do you think I'm a B****. Then you can ask them what it is that makes you B***** to them. From there you can choose to change or be the same, it's all up to you.

Answer 5

Do you think he is telling the truth? He might have just said it to make you mad or feel more isolated. I don't know. Maybe you should ask one of the trusted family members who supposedly said this about you. I would calmly ask him first though, if he is being serious or if he is just mad about something else. I would not make a public family ordeal about it, unless they provoked you at the family gathering. I would just find out what information you could to ease your mind, as I suggested above. Then you can choose to ignore it or to say something to them about it--if it is even true. It is really hard to trust anyone. Believe what you want, but find out some more facts.

Answer 6

ARE YOU A B-WORD? DO YOU COMPLAIN A LOT? DO YOU BE-LITTLE YOUR HUBBY OR OTHERS? WHY IS YOUR HUBBY SO READY TO SAY PEOPLE THINK YOUR A B-WORD????SELF EXAMINATION...IF IT IS TRUE THESE THINGS...THEN CHANGE YOURSELF! YOU CAN BE A BETTER PERSON WITH CHRIST'S HELP! If you are not a B-word and do not do these things....then your hubby needs to not
be hurting you with his 2-bit info. don't worry if those people do not call you...get past it...you have a life to live...they do too and they are all just busy living theirs and having a tough go of it and have nothing exciting to share so they don't call....that could be a good thing...if they are not sharing their problems with you!

Answer 7

Hi. "told him I just won't talk to them at all then if I'm really unpleasant to be around!". This will not make it any more pleasant. Do you like them? Tell them! I'll bet lots of people will like you back.

Answer 8

sounds like your hubby is the b**tch.

you however sound like a decent human being.

either (a) your hubby is a mean-spirited b**tch who loves to psychologically abuse others. the family just don't call b/c they are busy or don't know you well enough to call you without a purpose. that's normal with in-laws. or (b) your hubby, for whatever twisted reasons, is telling them b.s. about you to get them to not like you. that would also make him a mean-spirited, psychologically abusive b**tch. or (c) they are mean-spirited b**tches and they don't like you b/c you're cool and your hubby is telling you this to hurt you rather than defending you against them privately, which also makes him a stupid b**tch.

i have one word for you: A L I M O N Y

Answer 9

Hmmm. How do you act around them? Sometimes the way we act in front of others we don't realize if we are a ***** or not, because its normal to us. And for those that don't like you and smile up in your face, that is what I call being a fake and phony

Answer 10

I dont see your question. But hey, atleast your hubby is honest with you to tell you that everyone else thinks your a b**ch.... Maybe you should confront them and ask them what bad things they see in you and you can change.

Answer 11

take a chill pill!! it sounds like they only invite you for your husband!!... understand that not everyone likes everyone,...make an effort to lose your attitude and don't blame your husband maybe he wants to help you,stop being such a whinging b**ch, maybe they wont tell you because you can't handle CRITISISM!!