Really Delicate Situation?

Question

Hi, I am a freshmen in my highschool and I was on my bus the other day sitting alone, and this girl sat next to me, she is special needs. She began talking to be and I talked back all nicely and friendly, then I found out she is a junior girl. She then began to follow me around the school and asked me to have lunch with her , I told her I didnt think I had lunch with her that day ( diff times, and then i told her I was late to class and left, now, once more she began following me... Its a really delicate situation what should I do?

Answer 1

It's not going to kill you to be nice to her, so be nice to her.

Answer 2

Be kind to her! If you don't want to have lunch one day, just tell her "not today, I have other plans". But make a point to be nice to her and have lunch with her once in a while. You might be the only friend she has! I knew a girl in HS that would always hang out with a special needs girl and I think it was the most admirable thing I'd seen all 4 years I was there!

Answer 3

Will it really hurt you to befriend her? I mean, you're obviously a good person.

Ok. When I was in high school my neighbor's whole body was burned badly. I mean her face, arms, legs and everything in between. Kids called her all kinds of names, Freddie Kruger and what ever else, but I saw her as who she was. Eventually we grew up, both got married and we're still friends.

Special needs students are somewhat clingy. I know because I sub in the special ed. programs. I think you should try to set aside a time during school that you guys can see one another. Maybe lunch once a week, or even just sitting together on the bus.

You have a really big heart, and believe me, one day you will be rewarded for your maturity. I'm not telling you too make best friends with her, but be role model and maybe other kids will pickup on it...

Answer 4

Try not to panic. Simply continue with what you're doing, which seems to be giving reasonable reasons why you can't comply with her wishes. Without allowing her to infringe on your privacy or invade your space you might try being a friend to her. If she is special needs then you could help her in many ways. Don't worry about being embarrassed if your friends see her hanging around you. Be gracious, introduce her, and if you want her to leave you alone for a while just tell her nicely that you need some time alone, that you have things of a private matter to deal with. But above all be nice.

Answer 5

Tell her that she is very nice to ask you for lunch, but you always have lunch with your old friends, and again, mention that you appreciate her asking you. If she keeps asking you, just repeat using the same language as before that you always have lunch with your other friends, but "thank you" for asking. After a while she will accept that. Be patient with her, but consistent. You'll also find the pressure is off you a bit, if you know ahead of time what you're going to say to her.

Answer 6

Yes, something like this can be a problem, especially when you're a freshman. You were nice to her, and you can continue being nice, but you don't have to let her follow you all over the place. You may have to be kind of blunt, just be polite. Tell her that you'd like to be her friend, but you don't like it when your friends follow you around so much. You have to concentrate on your school work.... you think one of the freshman girls likes you and would be jealous.... she is too old for you.... that kind of thing. Just continue being nice, but don't take "yes" for an answer. If she says she doesn't mind being older than you, just tell you that "you DO mind."

Answer 7

It's not delicate *giggle* she just wants/needs a friend. A lot of people who are like her don't have any friends whatsoever, just be friendly to her. Even if you aren't 'best friends' material you can still act nice, talk to her and stuff. A lot of people in your school would most likely respect you more because you aren't afraid to talk to somebody that's different while they'd probably be rude and feel guilty about it later on when they're alone.

Answer 8

sounds like she needs a friend, be friends with her could turn out to be the best friend you will ever have. I actually look up to people who dont judge people and i know alot of others do too. But this is your call cause some nasty people might make fun of you. If you can handle all of the stupid people that dont have anything better to do than be haters than you would be a really good friend to her too.

Answer 9

That must be really awkward. I'm assuming you have other friends that you have lunch with. Consider this an opportunity for you and your friends to "adopt" this girl and make her feel special. Have lunch with her and help her any way you can. It will make you and your friends stand out and help you form character which will be wonderful for the future.

Answer 10

Find out who her primary teacher might be. Have a confidential chat. Tell this teacher that you don't want to hurt the girl but it is getting weird. Find out what the girls problems really are. Look before you leap. Show that you are aware of the situation. But get the ball rolling to develop a plan to deal with her, kindly, but clearly.

Answer 11

Tough one. Well nothing wrong with being friends, however if you think she may be thinking that you are her boyfriend or something such as that.. just tell her that you are either seeing someone else or that you are too young for her. Or, make it a purpose to let her see you walking hand in hand with another girl. She should get the hint then. Good luck!!