Okay, two of my friends are ALWAYS going at each other. They both blow the other off, and end up hurting me in the process. They don't seem to notice, and keep at it. I love them both dearly{in a sisterly kinda way}, but I need to find a nice, calm way to tell them to leave each other alone. Help{with NO cuss words} would be appreciatied.
2006-09-18 13:15:04 · 9 answers · asked by Viva La Pasta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Why do you love these two immature brats, and why would you want to spend your life being their audience? No no no, sweetheart. They are not going to stop, they thrive on the drama, and the attention and yes, your well-meaning intervention that they have no intention of heeding. You're the one they play for. Please cut these two losers loose before they do something over the top that winds up getting you in over your generous head.
Allow me to elaborate on how dangerous this is. Listen: My sister had a drama queen friend who dragged Sis with her everywhere. Sis didn't realize she was the drama queen's audience. Drama Queen was young and beautiful and outgoing, and my cousin was shy. She really thought Drama Queen was her friend.
Well, one day when she was bored and no one was paying attention to her, DQ decided to attempt suicide (and I do mean attempt) by jumping in a very shallow river, but only after making numerous phone calls to people to let them know. My poor Sis was first on the scene and jumped in the river to "save" the idiot. The moral of the story? My sister could have drowned trying to save someone not worth saving, a selfish brat who had no concern whatsoever for my sister's safety.
That's when DQ found out exactly how many people were not impressed with her antics. She quickly found a husband who loved drama also, and left my Sis free to have her own life. Shortly afterwards, Sis actually found a boyfriend and a life of her own, since she no longer had to take backstage to a selfish DQ.
Good luck to you. You sound like a sweet, tolerant, loyal friend. Please find someone who deserves YOU, and will appreciate your kindness.
2006-09-18 13:27:47 · answer #1 · answered by Charlotte M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You didn't really state what they are fighting about. It sounds like your really close to both of them. Could it be that they argue because they both want to be close to you and may feel that the other is in the way? Talk to them each separately and tell them how you feel about their bickering. Then again try talking to them together so they both know how you feel and they don't think anything is going on behind their backs. Let them know that all of this is hurting you. If they care enough that should calm down most of the problems.
2006-09-18 13:24:14 · answer #2 · answered by miste19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you..it has to suck being in the middle of 2 close friends that fight....have you thought about seeing only 1 at a time?
2006-09-18 13:18:17 · answer #3 · answered by NaeNae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not try talking to them and just being straight forward with them. Either get them together and tell them you have something to say and would appreciate it if they could hold off on their fighting or talk to them seperatley and tell them how you feel.
2006-09-18 13:17:42 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your superb mate would desire to win . His larger extra advantageous. yet your skinny buddy would desire to be quickly and versatile so i dont be responsive to . you're able to truly tell them to no longer combat cos it wont verify issues and can get alot of folk noticeably the boys mum and dad very disenchanted . take a seat them down and communicate with one yet another bout whats incorrect .
2016-10-01 03:12:01 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them that their constant bickering is tearing you apart and if they don't do something about it and learn to get along and take responsibility or their actions that you'll not hang out with or continue your friendship with either one of them...if they are truly your friends, they'll work to make things better...if not...you'll have to make new, true friends...
2006-09-18 13:24:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u sit the both of them down...and tell them that they're both hurting you. if they cannot be around each other and u at the time , and act like mature adults...then you have to treat them like children.
TIME OUT....and dont speak to either one for a while.
sometimes it has 2 be done......
goodluck
2006-09-18 13:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by Unbreakable 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell them both you like them and not to make you choose sides because your not going to be like the Swiss neutral.
2006-09-18 13:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by fayem7 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry that your friends got you involved and also themselves... maybe they dont know that they fight... like brothers and sisters... just tell them " Guys, I dont like that you two are fighting... and I'm afraid that I cant talk to you guys untill you stop" in a confident voice (u can move some words around)
2006-09-18 13:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by cjl63092 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋