I'm nothing special, I'm just an average guy. I'm not lazy, I respect and love my wife, I work hard and make decent money that provides for the two of us. My problem is that my wife has issues with traits that I have that are very typical for guys. I'm not a metrosexual, I don't talk a lot, especially about feelings and emotions, I forget little things a lot, which I hate but I still do anyway. I don't get so serious about life stuff. All of these things makes my wife frustrated. WHY?
I don't get frustrated that she is always emotional. She holds on to things I've said in the past so we can argue about them all over again. She needs to go shopping. I get past these things and move on. Why can't she do this and is this typical for most women?
2006-09-18 13:11:46 · 14 answers · asked by RedC. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
yes, it is typical. you can't help being a guy, but she will never accept it. that's marriage.
2006-09-18 13:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is a difference between men and women. Men usually can just brush things off but women are more emotional and have a tendency holding grudges because men don't listen or pay attention. Women are more attuned with their emotions and we express more then men. Our feelings get hurt more and we get frustrated with men not paying attention or listening or helping out with daily functions. Men seem to take things for granted. Women just want to feel appreciated from time to time it is the little things that makes us happy. Try doing things without being told, tell her you love her more, take the kids out and give her an afternoon to herself. Pick up your shirt off of the floor and put into the hamper from time to time. These things will make your wife happy and if your wife is happy then you will be happy.
2006-09-18 13:29:05 · answer #2 · answered by asia s 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It can get frustrating, especially if there are communication problems. In my marriage, my husband will do the "typical male thing" and although I understand where he's coming from, sometimes it gets irritating, especially when I remind him to do something, even going as far as leaving a reminer note on the door in plain sight and he still forgets it. It makes me feel like he's not giving importance to what I'm saying.
2006-09-18 13:18:31 · answer #3 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't talk so nothing is ever resolved. u mean forget her birthday, mothers day, and that u were suppose to take her out for dinner today.
no meet somewhere in the middle that u both may b able 2 live with. is that no memory of anything that's important 2 her? would that b just fine if she cooks every night on the promise of dinner out to marrow , oops i forgot. orrrrrr, r u the perfect mans man and u r just being a man
2006-09-18 13:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by dillydoll727 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, this typical for most women. My wife has finally decided that most of my behaviors that drive her nuts are really normal male traits. Reruns of the TV show Raymond help her realize this.
2006-09-18 13:26:41 · answer #5 · answered by Scalawag-101 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think so. I was really surprised to find out the my second husband has some of those uniquely male traits that my first husband had. I can only conclude that you all share these traits.
2006-09-18 13:50:23 · answer #6 · answered by porkchop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, you sound as if you are perfectly normal. Just try to be a little more aware of her feelings, try to remember important dates and support her when she needs it instead of watching the game. If you put her first in all things, and she does the same for you, you should have smoother sailing. Just remember to acknowledge her when she is speaking and listen attentively. It ain't that hard, but gives you so much in return. Try it!
Best wishes
2006-09-18 13:38:36 · answer #7 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because she is afraid that another woman will have a stronger connection with you, if your connection with her isn't strong.
Plus, if you don't have a good grip on her heart, another man can invade that territory by making your wife feel like she has a strong connection with him.
All in all, your wife is right to want to bond with you. It is what she desires... you might want to pay attention.
2006-09-18 13:16:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Classic like in the textbook mi amigo :)
2006-09-18 13:18:45 · answer #9 · answered by primamaria04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm......sounds like she's a little PMS'y. Good vitamins and minerals. Really! They helped me a lot!
2006-09-18 13:21:46 · answer #10 · answered by Judy L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband says that when guys are good guys and good husbands and do what is right, that it doesnt give us women enough to ***** about so we have to find things to ***** and complain about lol..
2006-09-18 13:15:37 · answer #11 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋