i broke up with him because i heard he was going to break up with me, but after i broke up with him i found out it was all a lie and i regret ever breaking up with him. Right now i feel so hurt because he won't take me back. What should I do?
2006-09-18 12:59:03 · 6 answers · asked by Katie T 2 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
talk to him about what happened and why you broke up with him. if he isn't willing to take you back then that is your problem and you will have to move on. if you two are able to reconcile then make sure that you two have an understanding that if any problems arise that the problems need to be talked about before actions are taken.
good luck to you.
2006-09-18 13:12:55 · answer #1 · answered by Shischkabob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, for one thing, stop listening to other people, and that might stop you from doing this again. This is true because: 1.) You've broke up because people told you he'll break up with you. 2.) You cared too much about what other people think, so much that you were willing to risk losing your b/f just so you won't look bad getting dumped. Next time, believe in yourself, and your relationships. Believe that you can find out if something is wrong between you two without outside informations, and do not worry about your "image" if you get dumped. Good luck, and hope you'll not repeate the same mistake.
2006-09-18 20:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by Hesse 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried admitting that you were a distrusting, total dork? Why on earth would you listen to rumors like that and act on them? I certainly can understand anyone who's been treated like that not feeling they can trust the person who did it. If you didn't have enough trust in the relationship to talk with him about it then it couldn't have been much of a relationship. For that matter, why do you want to get back together with him? Is it simply sexual attraction or social status or do you really care about him? You are going to have to accept that he is going to need some time to get over this betrayal. What you should do is admit that you were wrong. Don't try to pass it off or blame it on someone else, you were the one who acted on the information. Tell him that you sincerely apologize for hurting him. Tell him you still care and that you'd like another chance to earn back his trust. Then walk away from it. If he responds then you've got your chance. If he doesn't respond, (and give him awhile here, it may take weeks) then you have lost him and will just have to accept that. Maybe you'll act more responsibly the next time around.
2006-09-18 20:49:35 · answer #3 · answered by Magic One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give him time. i went through something like this. explain to him what happened and how you were afraid of getting hurt. i'm sorry to be some blunt, but yeah, what you did was stupid. you shouldn't have broken up with him for something you heard no matter how "reliable" the source. I was told once that my guy was gonna call it off. his best friend told me. i freaked and nearly did what you did but i decided i'd give him a chance and if he did, then he did. instead, he bought me a promise ring and now we're talking about marriage. so yeah, just give things time to clear up.
2006-09-18 20:10:56 · answer #4 · answered by Kitty Corpse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good luck. u broke his heart.he will not forget this
2006-09-18 20:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by susan_62ca 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bummer
2006-09-18 20:06:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋