I know this may be a little too much information for some people, but I'm really starting to be concerned I may have a physical problem. I have been sexually active for 11 years and with multiple partners. I always thought I was having orgasms, but just that they were never big, explosive, feeling really nice afterwards, orgasms. Currently, I am very uninterested in sex, which usually happens after about 2 years in a monogamous relationship. But my current partner recently asked me if I was sure I was even having them at all. I found it very hard to answer this question because I've been unable to achieve an orgasm during masturbation, which I've heard is how you compare. Anyway, are there any others out there that are in my predicament? Am I doing something wrong? I feel like I've tried everything...
2006-09-18 12:07:51 · 7 answers · asked by puppyluv2008 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Ignore that dumbass guy who answered. What do they know??!
Do NOT worry - there are many many women who don't achieve orgasm during sex, or even alone during masturbation. There is NOTHING wrong with you, we are all different. Besides... you may well have been having orgasms all this time as you thought, the earth doesn't move for everyone - certainly not me ! Some people have explosive orgasms, some just have a little shudder - if you're enjoying whatever sensation you have, then it's ok :)
Be patient with yourself, and most of all DO NOT stress about it, otherwise it will most likely never happen.
The best way to start is self exploration... read a sexy book or movie if that's your thing, get yourself really turned on, make sure you're alone and won't be interrupted and go somewhere nice and quiet and relaxing for you, and experiment with what feels good.
Put no pressure on yourself to achieve orgasm, this could take a while; you will eventually find out what you really like and will achieve orgasm through masturbation, then if you are comfortable with it, you can show your partner.
Without being really graphic, those are my suggestions. But, at the end of the day, it's not a big deal - if you enjoy the act of sex while you're doing it, then it's all good - afterall, you didn't know you were 'missing out' until someone ELSE questioned you, right?
Enjoy :)
2006-09-18 12:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by jamrx7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may well be so uncomfortable in that form of subject that she isn't able to loosen up adequate to get into the superb strategies physique. If she is amazingly in-experienced this may well be a threat. She could have even had one and not comprehend it. She will possibly no longer understand the actual feeling, or she has on no account had a extensive one. There are distinctive sizes of "o" which you've gotten. If all else fails, various foreplay and a few toys....
2016-10-15 03:40:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep practicing during masteurbation and find the hot button for you and it won't be long before you achieve that ultimate orgasm.
2006-09-18 12:13:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is how I found out what a real orgasm was, by masturbation.
Learn to relax and let yourself go.
2006-09-18 12:11:18 · answer #4 · answered by JS 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
don't worry my mom told me she didn't have an orgasm until she was 30 when i asked her. she told my just relax and let it come
2006-09-18 12:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by supermodel 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Use a vibe that will usually produce one in a hurry..........
2006-09-18 12:39:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you got some serious issues
2006-09-18 12:09:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 4⤋