Can you help me with neighbor problems?

Question

My next door neighbor constantly is coming over and asking to play with my son. He is very annoying and he comes over to our house when we are not home. My son doesn't like to play with him because we think he stole one of his video games. We would tell his parents about it but his sister is very good friends with my daughter, and I think it would make it awkward for them at school.What should we do

Answer 1

You know what, sometimes it's hard being a parent because we want to help our children in everything that they do, but sometimes we have to step back and let the children handle somethings on their own, see if your son do not want to play with this neighbor kid then when he is really tired of him he (your son) will tell the other kid, in a way that they both can live with....I understand this situation oh so well, I have or rather had the same problem a few weeks ago, well, I mean that my daughters had the same problem with a couple of our neighbors, and what happen is that my girls found other children to play with and so did the neighbor kids, and everyone is alright, they still play with one another every once in awhile but not much.
Sometimes we as parents have to let go somewhat,as they grow, I am not sure of the ages of your children but mines are 9 yrs-old & 11 yrs-old and they are becoming their own persons and as long as we have done our best as parents we have to let them go and pray that they do good on their own (somewhat).
But not to disregard the fact that this person may have stole from you all, if that is true then what you do is keep that one out of your house and make sure that your child do not take his games around that person, when there is no proof it's hard to accuse but, we can make sure that they are not put in that postion to find out.....
I hope things do work out for you and your worries......coming from a Parent to a Parent.......

Answer 2

What are the reasons for wanting to play with your son?

Is there a way to talk to neighbor Mom nicely suggesting that it would be much better for your son and your schedule to make a play date time every day (every other day?) at the same times? That would put both boys on the same schedule with playing...and the other times neighbor comes-a-knocking you can remind him of the scheduling that is set up?

Is neighbor mom willing to let your son play at their home also? I am wondering how old these boys are because it does make a difference with how you may be able to modify neighbor boys' behavior rather easily if you are willing to stick with the program.

Had you asked neighbor boy himself if he maybe "borrowed" the video game and that he should ask next time he would like to take home something of your son's? Give neighbor boy the out...and the benefit of the doubt. But always get across that you like neighbor boy, you do not want this behavior in your home. You are making a distinction between the boy himself and his BEHAVIOR. That is a key issue. And remember for yourself. Things can be re-bought and fixed. People can't. You can modify behavior, but you will never change the basic personality of the child.

Answer 3

Talk to his parents anyway. Just tell them that you don't want to sound rude and you don't want things to be awkward at all, but that their son is, well, trespassing! If you aren't home and he's at your house without you're permission, that's trespassing!Tell them that you would appreciate it if he came over only when you were home. Start with that and later on you can deal with him coming over. Even have your son talk to your next door neighbor. If he doesn't like him, then why can't he say something???

Answer 4

You can tell his parents that you don't want him to come over when you aren't home, you don't have to tell them he's annoying. When he does come asking to play just tell him your son is busy, maybe he'll get the hint. It could be awkward for your daughter, but if she's anything like my daughter she's already told her friend that her brother is annoying and her brother doesn't want to play with him

Answer 5

as your daughter is good friends with the neighbors child you are sort of stuck here.......Best advice I can think of is have an adult you or husband] open the door whenever he comes over and say NO he can not come and play he is doing homework.....playing............going out, whatever you want, he is not really going to challenge an adult if it is true or not...........also the very next time he comes tell him VERY clearly that under no circumstances is any child allowed in the house when you are not present, but this rule MUST be applied to every child including his sister .

Answer 6

I think you should talk to the kid as well. Tell him that you need him to tell you the truth, "Did he still one of your video games?" Forgive him if he did and if he says he didn't but you still think he did, then just forgive him but tell him he can't come to your house for an example of two weeks. If he tells the truth, he still gets to stay away for one week but give a firm warning that if he does it again, you'll tell his parents.

Answer 7

Talk to the kid and ask him. Forgive him if he did and if he says he didn't but you still think he did, then just forgive him and watch him carefully in your home. He's a kid and I'm sure it doesn't mean he's all bad if he stole a game from you.