i started goin out with this girl oct of 04 she broke up with me on our 1 year anniversary for a guy i have shown a dislike for a long time and she knew it..she took me outta her classes and lunch class cuz she didnt want to see me i went my whole senior year depressed not talking to ne1 cuz of wut happened now in june of 06 the guy and her broke up she called me up crying saying sorry and she wanted to be friends so i was like ok we hung out and we hooked up andwe were kinda together bout 2 motnhs later which is about now she did it again she dropped me like a hot potato and doesnt want to speek to me agan and i am bak to my same old depressed ways. i think its another guy but shes denying it jsut like she did last timehorrible year for me 10 times worse than how im descriibing it now but i do luv this girl idk y after all the **** shes dun to me i should hate her but i dont and i find myself w8in byfone evry nite waiting for her callthis happend 2 days agoim bad rite now wut do i do
2006-09-18 12:02:08 · 10 answers · asked by eric c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It probably is another guy. Sounds like this one is a little insensitive and thinks for herself. It is very typical for this to happen so dramatically in your youth too. I was dumped in highschool my senior year by a college freshman and i could i only beleive she cheated. It sucked, but it made me stronger. I've handled other breakups better since that initial loss of my highschool love.
You must know there are other fish in the sea. Stay strong, get out, do things that will focus your attention away from the B.S. she put you through. Generally it can take half the time the relationship lasted to get over a devastating loss. If you get proactive and engage in activities that are conducive to meeting others, or just extracurricular and help avoid you're own thoughts of this matter, the healing time will be shorter. Do something new and exciting, stay away from laying in bed alone with thought. Dwelling is never good, sometimes needed, but its results are negligilble. Put yourself in a situation that takes you out of your comfort zone. Set and strive for a career goal or life change. Channel your feelings into something positive and creative. This is a good time to exchange tragedy for triumph.
Remember, you're the man. Get after it.
2006-09-18 12:15:27 · answer #1 · answered by ADAMOS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing. It's so heartbreaking, I understand. I know how you feel that you want to wait around for her calls and you probably think about her every minute.
Since she has done this to you before then that is a sign of her being unstable. 2 months ago when she hooked back up with you it was for 1 reason only, "she doesn't want to be alone". SHe is afraid of that and insecure. You need to try your best to move on because if she is will to do this twice to you then she is willing to do it 10 times more. She probably thinks you will be there for her whenever she needs you. You need to be strong and not answer the phonecalls. Start something new in your life. Prove to her that she is the one making all of the mistakes and that you are so much better then her and you don't need her. Good Luck Dude!
2006-09-18 12:09:43 · answer #2 · answered by joyall57 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to take another English class to learn proper spelling and grammar.
Second, raise your standards in women. You are not so desperate that you will put up with crap from anyone...
Third, drop off your baggage. Carrying old baggage into a relationship will contaminate it. Forgive people for not being what you want them to be, and move on.
Fourth, decide not to volunteer to be a victim. Nobody should be significant enough to cause you to be depressed. That, you choose to do on your own.
Fifth, build up your self esteem. No one should wait by the phone all night. Go out and master a skill or sport. Make yourself busy and get a life of your own.
Sixth, do not become too emotionally invested in someone until you get to know them really well.
Seventh, do not make excuses for people or their behavior. Who cares what their intentions were, their behavior hurts your feelings.
Eigth, if their actions and behavior does not match how they say they feel about you, then they are lying. People will say what you want to hear, but their behavior is their biggest "tell" and demonstrantes their true feelings.
Ninth, when a person lacks empathy, it is difficult to find them to be sincere.
Tenth, take responsibility for your own feelings. That's your job. No one else wants that kind of responsibility. You choose how to react to situations.
2006-09-18 12:16:38 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard the expression can't turn a hoe into a housewife. Meaning regardless sweetie you can't slow her down she apparently likes to get around. I know you may not want to admit it. Lots of women accuse men of being that way but women do it to and when they have that attitude it is far worse and it takes someone to mess them up in the head to learn. I am not saying do this to her but let her be and move on and don't give her the time of day. Forgive and forget. Move on and let her know you have. She will try to come back once she thinks you are OK but it is only to hurt you or because she needs you.
2006-09-18 12:12:58 · answer #4 · answered by Miss T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's time to move because if you continue to wait for her, she will continue to break your heart. You deserve to find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and not treat you this way. The best thing to do is to go out with your friends and have a good time. Start dating someone else. After some time has passed and you still feel depressed, then go to the doctor for some medication for depression. Remember there are many fish is the sea, it's up to us to find the right one for us. Good luck!
2006-09-18 12:10:42 · answer #5 · answered by cee cee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forget about her. She is using the sh*t out of you! Time heals all. I know you feel right now that you love her so much and you'll never find someone else that you can love as much as her, but trust me, you will! This girl is obviously very selfish and does not care about your feelings if she has just toatlly dropped you once again. Take my advice: MOVE ON!!! Good Luck:)
2006-09-18 12:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by stacianastacia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-15 10:07:33 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget about HER
move on, SHES PLAYING WITH U AND SHE IS HAVING FUN
2006-09-18 12:05:59 · answer #8 · answered by Daniel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Date her best friend or her sister! She deserves it...
2006-09-18 12:07:56 · answer #9 · answered by WitchTwo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you r crazy you r letting her hurt you.
2006-09-18 12:23:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋