I'm not sure what's going on, so I need some help. My husband had some dental work done and was given a well-known, strong pain killer. He took 3 and did not need the other 9 and he left the pills in the bottle on the kitchen table. This morning he called me at work to ask me if I moved the remaining 9 and I had not. He said that they are now missing and the bottle is empty. We have had only one other person in our home since recieving the medication, he is a long time friend of my husband's. I'll call him "Alex" and he's recently been through a painful surgery. I think Alex took the 9 pills. My husband says he doesn't care what happend to the pills which strikes me as VERY strange. I'm ready to confront Alex, my husband doesn't want me to. And if Alex didn't take them, someone walked into our home and took them and that is scary. Should I confront Alex?
2006-09-18 12:01:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If you are right then it sounds like your husband isn't ready to accept Alex betrayed his trust as a friend and stole from him. If you did accuse him, he might deny it because he may have a problem with an addiction to pain killers, and possibly other things. If he didn't take them, that's a lot to accuse someone about and can cause a rift. I'm thinking maybe your husband doesn't care because it's only 9 pills and it's over with and knows to just watch him from now on. But denial is a possibility as well as if he mentioned to Alex he didn't need them and Alex got "pro-active". Something is amiss, and with theft and drugs involved I feel like tread carefully is the best approach.
2006-09-18 12:12:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Na just leave it alone, but id be very careful from here on out when "Alex" is over the house, if he's capable of taking medications that dont belong to him,with out asking then he's quite capable of much much worse.. and for him to of possibly left your husband in a bind if your husband had needed them is really a kick in the head to not care about ur friends pain, one thing to of taken one or two but totally took all the pills with out a care for anyone else..
But u know what u could do.. Next time "Alex" is over..u and your husband set him up.. meaning.. act as if you had meds and the bottle to the meds became unusable.. lost the cap, ect.. so u put ur meds in ur husbands bottle.. then act like ur going to get ur meds in front of ALEX.. and say frantically to ur husband " Omg did u take these pills.. they are (whatever) and they can make a man sterile if u took them.. or something that would get Alex's attention real quick lol.. teach him to take meds that dont belong to him , if u put a scare in him lol.. to me that would be better then confronting him lol..
2006-09-18 13:03:10 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No just leave it alone, Your husband nor do you really need those pills right? Maybe Alex was to embarrassed or shy to ask if he could have them for his own pain. What's the big deal, and no one came into your house & took your pills mama. Forget about it until something of value is missing from your home like money/jewlery/electronics stuff that matters.
2006-09-18 13:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Reckless 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who are you asking to trust? I wouldn't interfere with your husband's friend as to weather he took the pills or not. Perhaps your husband was just making sure you were not the one to take them and after that he is also assuming that Alex took them. If Alex did take them your husband doesn't care that he did. Your husband apparently doesn't need them. I suggest you both not leave that type of medicine laying out where someone can walk off with it so easily.
2006-09-18 12:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by oldone 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, do not confront him. Just the next time he comes over leave that same bottle out on the table with some aspirin in it. At the end of the night if they are gone then your husband should confront him. Good Luck
2006-09-18 12:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why doesn't your husband want you to confront him? Maybe you should ask him, just a suggestion, but the guy has a problem if he's stealing medication. You can only help him if he wants to be helped. Your husband maybe protecting you from a potentially explosive reaction, so find out by talking to your husband. Maybe suggest you're not comfortable having Alex in the house if he fills entitled to help himself to things clearly not belonging to him.
2006-09-18 12:08:31 · answer #6 · answered by crkristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Let it go. Are you ready to potentially lose a friend over pills that your husband doesnt want. I would let it go, but whenever Alex comes opver hide the silverware and valuables.
2006-09-18 12:04:54 · answer #7 · answered by dionne m 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, "Alex" may have taken them... It's strange tho to have someone just take your stuff and not tell you. Depending on how good of a friend he is, I would probably bring it up with him - not in a confrontational way, just in passing, out of curiousity.
2006-09-18 12:06:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they were your husbands pills and he doesnt want you to say anything i wouldnt i would leave it up to my husband hes the man of the house let him handle it ps you know he took them so why ask him anyway next time he over make sure you keep valuables away from him good luck
2006-09-18 12:05:46 · answer #9 · answered by ladyrena12 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think you (or probably your husband) could easily ask him, "Do you have any idea what happened....ect., but I don't know what you could really do beyond that if he says no, or how far you would really want to push it.
The issue, of course, would be trust henceforth, so I think that it would be best to get it out in the open as much as possible.
2006-09-18 12:05:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋