...I like to find new friends with the same belief.
2006-09-18 11:33:17 · 26 answers · asked by river 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Royalty
is difficult to find friends with such a same belief?
2006-09-18 11:34:21 · update #1
I have great respect of you because of that. Keep your ground. That's something to truly be proud of. Many people are easily swaying because either their boyfriend, their Friends, or what they See on TV and media. That does NOT make it OK. It shows that you have respect for yourself, and anyone who thinks wrongly of that has no right to. I recommend finding a group of you in your local area, they have groups like that I forgot what they are called. Look it up in the phone book. Surround yourself with people with same beliefs and morals and it is easier for you to do so freely. That's great.
2006-09-18 15:03:55 · answer #1 · answered by Norah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't practice it, nor would I recommend anyone abstain before marriage. This being said, most people's decision to abstain before getting married comes from religious beliefs (generally Christian). There is nothing wrong with abstaining mind you, and if you decide to, don't let anyone tell you you are doing something wrong.
Still, it's prudent to understand why the church frowns on premarital sex. The main reason, is one that has almost ceased to exist. Originally, sex outside of marriage could lead to "bastard" children. They were heavily frowned upon and as a result laws and guidelines were put into place to keep that from happening. Other factors included syphillis and other STD's. And finally, the most dogmatic aspect of the church (primarily the Catholic church) is that all sex should be reserved for procreation.
Knowing that a woman can only conceive for a window of 3 or 4 days a month, anyone following that prescription is not likely to a) have very much sex, or b) have very many children.
Furthermore, we have since developped a multitude of ways of resisting STD infection and having children when we want them. As a result the old rules don't seem to have as strong a foundation in today's society.
Additionally, women's interests have traditionally not been a big concern for the Church, and having a "lousy" lover was just something that you live with. Women, up until fairly recently were not expected to enjoy sex. In fact, St Thomas and St Augustine maintained that if you can not enjoy sex, you're ahead of the game as sexual pleasure is selfish. Today, people seem to have changed and are of the opinion that women's sexual health is important. Sex is an important part of a relationship and if it doesn't work between you and your significant other, it is likely to be a big source of problems and may even result in the end of your relationship.
It should follow that one would choose their life partner based on a number of things, including wether that person is sexually compatible.
I would urge you not to take what I say for granted and not to go out and act on it. Consider it, take it as it is, and be prudent in everything that you do.
Good luck.
2006-09-18 18:53:31 · answer #2 · answered by largegrasseatingmonster 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
No way, what if I never get married? I don't want to live a life without sex, what a boring old world that would be!!
I'm sure you'll find people with your same beliefs at church.
2006-09-18 22:22:14 · answer #3 · answered by Aussie Chick 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well i'm not going to pressure you into "doing it" but it seems a bit silly to wait. Jessica simpson (i know bad example) waited...and now look, Nick got crappy sex...and jessica's probably going to wait AGAIN to marry someone else who MIGHT eventually divorce her?! That would seem to be a silly idea.
Personally i didn't wait until marriage, but i did wait until i was in a long relationship and i felt comfortable! Those are also very important things to consider.
i don't have any kids, and i go to see my doctors for girly check ups regularly!
Make it your choice, and make sure it's what YOU want to do, not what 50 random people tell you to do....and DON'T do it if you don't like the guy you're with...or girl if you happen to swing that way!!
2006-09-18 18:47:08 · answer #4 · answered by strwrs7772000 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hmm well saying it and doing it are to different things, this is the number one thing people go hypocritical on. I'll be honest, I wish to God I had wainted, but hind sight is 20/20. its a good belief to have and I wish you all the luck with it.
2006-09-18 18:39:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. To me, sex isnt that big of a deal, I have sex for the pleasure, and the girls i do it with, probally feel the same way. If you have sex for relationship and love, then you should wait it off.
2006-09-19 01:14:18 · answer #6 · answered by Brian N 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
u know i didn't wait for marriage and i see y ppl say to wait, i wished i would have, so now i do talk about waiting until marriage and i am able to tell specific reasons y u should , just by living and learning and makingso many mistakes
2006-09-18 18:36:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should wait 'till you're married to have sex. I waited and have NO regrets. It made it so much more worth it. I wish more people could experience that feeling. Good for you:)
2006-09-18 18:43:44 · answer #8 · answered by josiedickelman 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely no sex before marriage.
2006-09-18 18:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by Watauga 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How does this fall under "royalty...?" Oh, and I don't believe in that, but however people want to live their lives is fine with me as long as it's not hurting anyone.
2006-09-18 18:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋