Why are men so shallow minded??

Question

I asked a question earlier asking for opinions on an outfit i was planning on wearing to wedding reception and this 1 idiot has now made me feel like sh1t!because i mentioned that i`m only 5ft and between a size 12/14 he though it fine to make nasty comments.ok i agree it`s not a great size to be but i`ve recently lost over a stone and will continue to do so,are all men as nasty as this?Do we all need to be stick insects to be attractive?I know i`m not ugly,i`m not drop dead either!!The worst part is i`m actually letting his remarks get me down!!

Answer 1

if you dont even know him why let his comments ruin you?!! i dont think girls have to be stick thin, its nice when they look feminine!! i wouldnt say size 12 is too big either. I think my sister is size 12. be confident in who you are and listen to those who encourage rather than insult you. not all men are like that. admittedly there are some tw*ts out there, but theres lots of decent ones too.........

Answer 2

I'm so very sorry to hear that ducky; it's not true. Please don't judge men by that complete tosser who answered you. For me there is nothing less attractive than a tanned stick insect with boobs like a cow's udder.That is just an artificial image created by the media. Don't let it get to you either, it's just his opinion: he's not seen you has he? Anyway, what IS a great size to be?Does anybody know the answer to this? There is always someone out there to love and be loved by. It's the person that matters for me, always has been. Did that guy say how attractive HE was? He is the type of sociopath who pulls his plonker (sorry about the vulgarity) to stereotypes from 'Q' magazine: the 'real' man's magazine. He is the type who:
Does not learn from experience
Has no sense of responsibility
Is unable to form meaningful relationships
Is unable to control impulses
Has lack of moral sense
Displays childish antisocial behavior
Would not change his poor behavior after being made aware of it.
Is emotionally immature.
Lacks any form of guilt
Is self-centered

Need I go on? Wear your outfit with pride and playfulness! It's a VERY short life, we're only given so many heartbeats, so don't waste them on a nobody like him. And above all, never let peoples' remarks get you down because they're only . . . remarks! Now this has taken me over an hour to think about, compose and write. Now I have to be in work at 4 am, it's now 12 o'clock midnight and I'm shattered, but I had to answer your question. So you see there IS someone out there who DOES care and is not so shallow-minded. Good luck for you in the future!

Answer 3

I know how you feel hon, sometime I ask questions on here and get rude remarks from men and I let it get to me at times as well. In regards to your comment: "ok i agree it`s not a great size to be" Honey, there is absolutely NOTHING wrong with the size you are. Like someone mentioned before how Marilyn Monroe was a size 16 and she was adored by the world! The only reason why stick skinny women are the "in" thing is because unfortunately the society we live in today, makes it that way. So, I guess what I am trying to say to you is f*ck what anybody says about you because if you love yourself and you are confident with the way you look, it will show. And especially don't let the idiots on here (or anybody for that matter) bring you down because anybody that goes out of their way to insult someone is just unhappy and insecure with themselves. Good luck sweetie, and remember: YOU are BEAUTIFUL:)

Answer 4

I think I'm going to have to weigh in and tell you off a bit here. You had one reply from a guy who said you would look great and asked if you needed an escort. You had one jerk who makes a snide remark. Why focus on the jerk? And did you take a look at his other questions? Surely you could tell for yourself what sort of idiot he was without asking another question. I can never understand why women are almost watertight when compliments are being showered on them but collapse into a heap at a single stupid remark. It sounds like a lovely outfit, you will look terrific, and everyone says so. Now stop being insecure in the face of all the evidence!

Answer 5

Well, you know some women can be even more shallow and snippy, so it's not just a man thing.

As for the outfit thing ... there must be a favourite colour or style. Don't worry about the size. All that matters is that you are comfortable with the fabric, the cut, the colour and the style. As long as you feel happy wearing it, nobody else can tell you what to do.

And congratulations on your recent weight achievement. Keep at it. Say to yourself daily "I am fit today; tomorrow, I will be fitter."

Go for it.

Answer 6

All men are fundamentally insecure that's why.

He will have chosen to remark to your choice of outfit in such away because making a constructive comment would either put him in touch with his feminine side (usually deeply buried) and potentially make him socially unacceptable (in his eyes).

The fact he knew what a size 12/14 was in relation to your height says something (short women rule by the way).

Women do not need to be stick insects to be attractive, in fact far from it, if you look at all the press nonsense over the last few days RE the models being to slim, some are naturally that slim SO are not, its the ones that go to such extents to be that slim I worry about.

t really is personality that counts, I know that sounds over used and somewhat cliched but it is oh so true, anyway most of the drop dead gorgeous ones have the personality of a sheet of A4.

Answer 7

do think all men r shallow?
now as a guy i find that very insulting, its a hurtful thing to say cos guys have feelings too, (though we dont always show it)
i dont wanna sound like a wimp (another of society misconceptions about men being that guys in-touch with their feelings r gay) but i am sensetive and i do realise wen ive hurt somone, its called guilt

a lot of ppl judge men AND women by the first impression so if u dont pay attention of if u talk to somone else more than them (granted there r some situations where this isnt acceptable)

some ppl may b jelous of how u look and make really spiteful comments aimed at dragging ur self-esteem down

tbh its not the outside that counts its wat lies within, beyond the flesh and within the mind

Answer 8

Given your size (no offence meant) you are obviously a young adult. If you hadn't learned this before maybe this idiot has taught you a lesson in life. Men, if they are sad, mad or have had too much too drink (I'm not saying this about all men) can be obnoxious. Why take to heart something an obnoxious person says. Don't let it get you down, as you probably know from being on this site, there are lots of people who get a certain satisfaction from being nasty to others. They are not worth bothering about, they're seeking attention and they get personal when they are not getting it.
I hope you'll go to the wedding, feel marvellous and really enjoy yourself.

Answer 9

Awwww what a k**b head :( I'm 5ft 9 and a size 24, wonder what he'd have to say about that. Actually I could probably kick his ****!!!

Ignore him, look at all the other answers you got to the question. Who gives a stuff what an idiot like him has to say. I mean just look at the questions he is currently asking.....what a loser

Answer 10

Do yourself a huge favour and ignore the twerp, he is probably desperate for a woman or has been let down badly by one and he is reflecting his nastiness your way, I bet you will look beautiful no matter what you wear, at least you have a figure, stick insects clothes hang on them, please don't think or believe all men are shallow, they are not, I know I have a brilliant one, have a lovely time at the wedding.