I am in love with a married man what would you do if?

Question

If ur married and felt in love with a married man.
I found this man that is the best i ever met in my hole life, he is sweet, nice, smart, and awesome in bed. But his biggest deffect it's his wife. I am married too but my divorce its almost a done deal just got to sing that paper and i am ready to go. But him, he try to get the divorce and his wife won't give it to him.She is evil, she has told him that she will take his retirement money if he does not help her get a house, and get the vasectomy done this is just a few things of how evil she is. This woman hits him I mean she is bad.Now when we had done plans of what we were going to do she came out saying that she is pregnant which is something I don't believe even if she comes out and shows him a paper saying it I mean can u blame me she lies all the time.One time when he was with me she call saying that one of the kids was sick which it was not. There is so much more to this story. I am waiting on doctor's results.what do u think?

just have to add that this relationship was based on a dirty lie. She lied about her age she said she was older than what she was and then got pregnant and that is why he married her cause he wanted to do the right thing you know and now its deja bu cause she is pregnant again after 10 years so its happening all over again.But also I think she might have somebody else cause she does not want to be sexual with him but I don't know and I don't care anymore.like somebody said in one of the answers I am just going to lay back and see what happens between them two while i get my divorce if its mean to be than we will end up together if not then i will move on.it won't be easy but it will be right.
But thank you everybody for ur answers as harsh as they can be sometimes its just what i need it to make my desicion.you all help. Thanks again. bye.

Answer 1

look i want you to take my advice seriously . i dont care if you chose this for 10 points or not but read it seriously . ive been where you are and lived the life your liveing and loved someone elses wife and i divorced mine to be with her and everything was very much like your disscribeing to me here . i will tell you exactly whats going to happen after your divorced and he isnt . as long as you keep giveing him sex and attention he will keep telling you i love you and not her and even if he gets divorced from her he will go back if he has to behind your back .you arent going to ever really have this man and no matter what occurs on down the line he will hurt you deeply . hes playing a game that should never be played and your his pawn . i know deep down your fighting these words and i felt same but in end this will happen and youll be the loser . best thing for you to do if you wont drop this man is at least remove him from your life long enough to think clearly about why and what the real reason is that your getting a divorce . if he really loves you and you really love him then part until both of you are divorced then start over otherwise both of you are doing this for the wrong reasons and sounds like your the one thats going to get the most hurt here. sex has nothing to do with how good a man he is and if it dose then you better stay single after divorce because its not enough to stay together .im sure you think your husband is bad man and maybe he is but you need to see him in a different light . one thats not got adulterious guy helping your decisions along . your adulterious guy needs to not have you helping his decisions also . in the end both of you will be crying its just that he will cry less and be right back where he is now i promise you . please hear me and at least seek counseling before you take all this plongeing in your life . relook at all this before you cant ever go back . its impossible for you to make a good move here with him fogging up your heart . i lost a good women trying to do just what your doing and i felt that i was right and no one could tell me different and we loved eachother but i was wrong and i lost but she didnt . she left me holding my own foolishness and truthfully i deserved it and i never regained my dignity or my x wife and i live with that every day of my life . i only wish to save you this pain but i know how you feel and this is your call but i did try here . good luck

Answer 2

You need to stay away from married men. Imagine of how you would have felt. It's not like she has him tied up. He can leave if he wants. Don't you know that is a man's #1 excuse to cheat. Men lie to, ya know? I don't understand what he is still doing there. She's not tougher than him. Why doesn't he call the cops. Even if he leaves one day. Remember right now you are the other woman. When you become the wife, that's if you make it to that status, who's to say if there won't be another woman then? Just read what you just wrote. It's as if you are looking for someone to tell you it's okay to mess around with a married man.

Answer 3

Sit back and wait for the results, thats the first thing. The second, you need to stay away from this until HE has done his part and got the ball rolling to end this marriage. Its not gonna be pretty, as a matter of fact, its gonna be awful to go through this, you better be ready for the fight of your life. This woman apparently will not give up her husband, no matter what. She has a good thing with this guy and will not turn it aloose, something you are apparently looking for also. But the thing with being in love, it can overcome anything, as long as BOTH PARTIES want this. Walk on babe, but be careful to tread lightly. You are walking into a hornets nest and you better be ready. Good luck, and take care.

Answer 4

I had an affair fwith a married man for the past two years but guess what i feel what you are telling me is just what i went through. The married man would tell you all bad things about his wife but in fact he would not mean it, its just to lure you into a deeper sexual relationship with him. A married man only thinks of his children and their original mother. he would not at any cost want his kids to have a second mom. Later on it would be worse when his wife actually starts calling you. try asking his wife's number or try saying hi to him in public when he is with his wife and kids.

Answer 5

I think if I were you I would sit down and have a talk with him. Tell him you will take him to a divorce lawyer for a consultation. Go with him and talk with the lawyer to discuss the problems he's having.
My concern is your future, you could be placing yourself in a dangerous place, she sounds crazy and what if she comes looking for you? And even if he does leave her I bet she is always going to be around causing trouble for the two of you. You need to let him know that he has to start doing something about his problems otherwise you will end this.

Answer 6

This is not good for your reputation. You are lucky that you don't
get threats made against you. NEVER, EVER mess with a married person. It destroys lives and especially the lives of children. Let the divorce happen, then if you want to be with someone, it's OK. You definitely need to think about your actions more. If not, a JUDGE IN A COURTROOM will do it for you!!!!!!!

Answer 7

Find someone who is available. You have too much going on for you with your own divorce. Falling in love with a married man won't work. There's always two sides of a story. Just leave him alone to deal with his own problems. You don't know if he hits her first or not. He could be blaming all his problems on her. He just wants to have his cake and eat it too. Plus he has kids.

Answer 8

first of all are they together married or waiting for the papers married?
Look one thing i know is if they will do it with you they will do it to you.
You are dating a married man and then wonder why all these problems arise. he deserves every bit of it. If you dont like all the drama leave him cause it will be this way from now on

Answer 9

Married men always lie to their mistress. He's trying to get your sympathy and it seems to be working.

What kind of future could you have with this man?? Even if he ever leaves his wife for you, you are going to go through years of hell with a divorce and dealings with his ex...even for the rest of your life if they have kids together. Do you want to carry that kind of baggage? I did it and trust me when I tell you that it's not worth it! I ended up getting a divorce from him.

Answer 10

What if the tables were turned? You are the other woman in this escapade and there are always two sides to every story. If he leaves her for you, he will leave you for someone else. And I'm sure he will make you out to be evil with that woman.