me & my bfr having relation frm 3 year we decided to complete the study & than think abt merriage, but the prob is he not sure if his parents gonn aprrove our relation. our community is really strict.he is waiting 4 right time to tell his folks,but I dont have patience now coz it may take 3 years. I can not wait tht long!!!!!
2006-09-18 11:04:10 · 17 answers · asked by simran 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dear Simran,
Take it easy, dear. You are right about one thing, you have to complete your studies first because you cannot support life entirely on love. I will give you an advice and please consider this very seriously. Never push a guy for marriage. It really freaks men out. Let him take his time out. But ask him not to waste time. If you trust that he will marry you and if both of you cherish the same dream of spending the rest of your life together, nothing else matters. Do seek the approval of your families. If they dont approve, keep trying. But if there is no way out, seek the help of your friends and go ahead with your marriage plans. If both of you have attained marriage age, i.e., you are atleast 18 and he is 21, then your families cannot interfere legally in your marriage plans. But do finish your studies. Pray to God. He will give you strength to wait for the required 3 years. Have patience, dear. Look at me. I and my lover are planning to get married 6 years from now. Be strong. May God Bless you. Best wishes for a beautiful future full of love and prosperity and companionship with your beloved.
2006-09-18 17:02:46 · answer #1 · answered by swordfish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, Simran. You will get any number of suggestions like the number of question marks you have put at the end of your question. The spelling mistakes and incorrect structure of the sentences in the description of your problem only give the impression of your mental status at present. You have to put brakes to your mental horse which is dragging your physical body to its will and pleasure. If you have any care about you and your future, you divert your full concentration towards your studies to achieve the goal. Wait and have patience. Exercise control on your physical desires. After the completion of the course, get yourself economically independent. If your bfr still has love and care about you, act according to your conscience. Time is the greatest solver of the problems. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-18 11:57:16 · answer #2 · answered by SRIRANGAM G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is the life story of me and my boyfriend. My dad didn't want me to have a boyfriend while studying so I hid it from him for 4 years and one day he saw us together...a few months before I graduated. He saw us in public but waited until I went home then he yelled at me. He accepted my boyfriend though. To get this to work, both of you have to keep your grades up else the parents will say that that you and your guy are keeping each other back from studies. Ask your guy if either one of his parents will more likely give in. Let him talk to that one and say how much he loves you, then ask that parent to talk to the other one. Let the parents know that both of you will help each other with studies and projects. Maybe you can go to each other's home under the "pretense" of working on a project together and stay for dinner and chit chat with the parents. Look at the parents' response and if favourable, talk to them in private about your true feelings. Tell them that both of you couldn't help falling in love and ask them to accept it, for your happiness.
2006-09-19 05:00:36 · answer #3 · answered by Hema 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boy friend and you both should tell his parents. If they do not approve you both complete your studies with peace and after your boyfriend get a job.Then only think of marriage and go for it. Every time is right to tell these type of things to your parents. Waiting only indicates lack of will power to do so.
2006-09-18 11:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by laughing_room 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, first of all, how old are you? Secondly, are you or your boyfriend a specific religious denomination that would prevent the 2 of you from marrying? If you truly love him, you won't mind waiting the 3 years...
2006-09-18 11:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by mamafence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are trying to build castle on the sky. Any love between women and men with out concrete commitment (marriage) is loosely knitted. it may break at any time.
the love what you are experiencing is like this.
only your heart start beating but the mind refuses to work. everything else other than the one you love will not seems to be important. the love what you call is just a FEELING. we feel hungry to eat, we feel thirsty to drink, etc love is also like a feeling. it is a temporary exhilaration. every man/women will under go 2 stages in cyclic manner(once in 3 or 4 months) emotional high stage(EHS) emotional low stage(ELS) when both the partners are in EHS they feel like they are in love. both will try to keep the love going by building a castle on feelings. after some time when they are in ELS they feel like not loving each other. it is called as "trapped syndrome" so why to FALL in love like falling in to a pit? instead of it why can't we GREW in love? true love is Commitment , will to stay togather AFTER MARRIAGE
2006-09-18 18:36:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't wait for the time. It is moving and the persone may change. Just keep in mind, what you have to him.
2006-09-19 18:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes u can wait that long u guys will get married no matter what and no matter how long it takes it doesnt depend on his family it depends how u guys think it should go
2006-09-18 11:07:01 · answer #8 · answered by staryeyes96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once found out that "Good things come to people who wait"
2006-09-18 11:07:29 · answer #9 · answered by Iceman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heyyyy I m also SIMRAN.
Had a bf just like urs.
We broke up two yrs back.
I still LUV him like hell - but wat I think is its my weekness tht I luv him - he doesn't need me like tht - so y not to make myself a stronger person - there r so many people to luv - r parents n r family - there r so many people who luv us who neeeed us.
Wake up buddy - Ur dad can get u person faaar better than him.
2006-09-18 14:20:35 · answer #10 · answered by simi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋