He is an only child that has never been in a structured environment. Iv'e had his teacher call me twice about his behavior, the phys ed. teacher once. He has also been written up for numerous reasons on the bus. He has been explained the rules of the bus and in school. The punishments have been, spanking, taking away his playstation games, no computer time, yelled at. I just dont know what to do, if he is written up on the bus 1 more time he will probably be kicked off, and I have no other way of getting him to school. Today it was for spitting on the girl he has to sit next to , an older student that, from what I've been told, has to sit next to him to help control him. The ride home does take about an hour. So he had his 300+ Hot wheels away that he dearly LOVES. Im hoping this works, but any other suggestions would be greatly appreciated. Thank you in advance! Oh and by the way no he dosent have ADD, or ADHD nor is he hyper active.
2006-09-18 10:29:46 · 4 answers · asked by RHONDA P 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
To those that are thinking I didnt provide dicipline at home trust me I do. He is not allowed to act that way at home and gets punished accordingly. He is a little spoiled, but i only have 1 child, so why not!! He is a very smart child and usually catches on very quickly, but when he is not with me he just dosent listen. And on the structured environment issue, what i mean by that is he never had an assigned seat, hes never been away from me from 8:30 am to 4:30 pm everyday, hes never had a certain time to do things, with the exception of going to bed. Maybe it will just take him longer to adjust to all that. He is a young five, b-day was august 9th and he started school august 10th. Preschool would have difinatley helped.
2006-09-18 12:02:13 · update #1
I know many will disagree but BLACKMAIL. My son is going to be 7 next week and he is the baby, throw in the fact that we almost lost him and I had spoiled him something awful. When he started kindergarten last year I thought I was the one back in school for all the time I spent there. Finally when I was to the point of a nervous breakdown my Mom told me to blackmail him so we started with we went in his room and took out everything except the bed and chest, locked the bike in the shed, took the swings off the swingset etc. The new rule was everyday he went without getting into any kind of trouble he could get 1 item back. It definitly got his attention. Then we added in if he got into trouble not only did he loose everything again but he had extra chores to do around the house. Your son sounds like mine and he is just stubborn enough that spanking and yelling isn't going to phase him only actions and having nothing to do but sit will get his attention quicker than anything. Good luck.
2006-09-18 10:45:28 · answer #1 · answered by Martha S 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
All I can think of is that if he is an only child you may have been easy on him and he has gotten everything and hasn't learned from discipline at home. If he hasn't learned this at home how can you expect him to know discipline at school? I don't mean to be hard on you especially since I don't know how you have raised your child but this occurs. He sounds to me like he is out of control and doesn't respect authority. He should learn that at home. And, to say he hasn't been in a structured environment; haven't you provided any sort of structure for him at home? Seems like he should have had some by 5 years old.
2006-09-18 17:39:11 · answer #2 · answered by Goldenrain 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is where the last 5 years of being his friend instead of his parent come back to bite you on the butt. Take away every privilege he has, no tv, video games, computer, music, no anything. Make him stand in a corner. Something else you might want to consider is feeding him only real food, no processed or packaged food of any kind. Studies have shown that the chemicals increase bad behavior.
2006-09-18 17:50:53 · answer #3 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's a young 5 (summer birthday, possibly late spring) pull him out of kindergarten and put him in the preschool class he should've been in last year and/or the year before. He sounds too immature for kindergarten, and since he hasn't had the structure of the preschool classroom, maybe you owe him that extra year to grow up before you put him in "real" school.
2006-09-18 17:44:11 · answer #4 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋