my son caught the two of them together doing you know what. what approach should i take
2006-09-18 10:16:27 · 55 answers · asked by danwat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dump the guy.
2006-09-18 10:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
First of all make him your EX-BF asap! If he can do that with your sister, just think how many other women he has done that with behind your back. He's a cheater! As for your sister that's what hurts the most. She has betrayed you and things will never be the same for a long time. She is dead wrong! The trust and bond has been broken and it's going to take some time to heal. Blood is thicker than water. You can choose another bf but we can't choose are family. Is her self esteem so low that she had to sleep with your man. She got issues! You be the bigger person and move on because kicking asses won't change what happen. I hope your bf isn't your son's father, that's even worst!
2006-09-18 10:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, how old is you son? if he's young than he might not understand what he saw if he's older still check up on it, did he say how long he was watching because if your son wasn't watching that long or just heart them making some "noise" than it might not be that at all. If your boyfriend IS screwing around, than 1. you don't need him anyways if he's not willing to stay true to YOU, and 2. maybe you should get involved in asking your sister what happend. tell her or your boyfriend, prefferably your sister first, that your son witnessed them two doing something inapporpriate and you want to konw if anything really happened or what happened. Take an easy approach towards it, not harsh like yelling in a sharp voice,"what the hell were you doing on my boyfriend!?!" go more for a suttle, calm tone of voice so that your sister doesn't attempt to lie, but be somewhat assertive to make sure she wont think that you don't believe your son. This approach should be best. hope it helps.
2006-09-18 10:22:16 · answer #3 · answered by teardrop 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Forgive your sister. Get a new boyfriend. Boyfriends are like buses, there's another one coming every 15 minutes or so. Sisters are irreplaceable. Think about it. Really, she did you a favor by showing his true colors. From now on, though, you'll know that she'll test the fidelity of every man you bring around her, so you may want to put up some healthy boundaries there.
2006-09-18 10:18:17 · answer #4 · answered by Zebra4 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ho Ho Ho. Merry Christmas. Your sister did you a favor. She was the rat that took your trash out if you think about it, and she didnt recognize it. So she really did you a favor
Listen, Dont argue with her. Aw baby you better than that. I would ignore her like it was no problem. Did you know that that is hard for some people to do? On the end, you gets more respect by saying and doing absolutely nothing at all. Her soul will burn longer and harder if you didnt say a word to her. Walk right past her until you feel power over her and then let her have it.
AND HIM....He wouldnt have anything to say to me, i would just hang up on his ***. If you argue with him, you are wasting your energy and then he comes out the winner, (Many people dont see that) Taake my advice....DO ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!!!!
2006-09-18 10:30:32 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Tru Indeed 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey...your sister first of all has issues and she shouldn't be doing her own sister like that...I don't understand situations like that...and I believe that it is ridiculous...honey you should sit down with her and have a serious talk..ask her why she is doing what she is doing...try to get to her..about how it hurts you..and the dump the low life scum..for allowing it,.....that is awfull.....I wish you the best and hope everything works out...just don't let this make you hate your sister....
2006-09-18 10:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay so your son caught them? How old is your son? I would beat her *ss. No questions asked. Been there done that and you think family is trust worthy...HA! No one is trust worthy when it comes to sex. Family seems to be the first to betray you. Dump him...don't forgive that....you deserve a faithful man or at least one who is better at keeping it a secret.
2006-09-18 10:22:25 · answer #7 · answered by BETH H 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave to the of them alone and act as if you were going out but find somewhere that your able to spy them or get a camcorder and catch them in the act mthen nobody can say anything else because you have your proof, Sorry to hear about that , that's a rough one
2006-09-18 10:19:48 · answer #8 · answered by Shanana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that sucks that your son found out before you did... hope he's old enough to deal with all that... well not that it would help but if I were you I would kick my sisters *** and throw the boyfriend to the curb... I guess I just don't have any tolerance for cheaters
2006-09-18 10:19:08 · answer #9 · answered by Goddess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds stupid but either just blow them off or suggest that the 3 of you play around together.
He obviously wants to play around as is not going to be a long term one-woman man... so if you enjoy him then share.
I am not trying to be weird. Just honest.
I mean the obvious answer is to tell him to get lost but if you are not going to do that then have some fun... life is short.
2006-09-18 10:19:29 · answer #10 · answered by CTM 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That is F#$ed up girl. I would say peace to the ******, and take your sister back to when ya'll were little and beat the sh$t out of her.Then go out for drinks and a one night stand.
2006-09-18 10:20:02 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋