im 26 hes 41 will it last?

Question

we have been married for about a year and 2 months i know people say the first year is hard but i can even stand for him to touch me will it last and what can i do to get over this feeling?? please help

i ment i cant stand his touch and if you would read we have been married 1 yr and 2 month... i do love him its not money or anything i own my own bussness for gods sake

Answer 1

I believe it can last. I am 30 and my husband is 45. We are 15 years apart also.. You just have to keep reminding yourself why you fell in love with him. This is my second marriage and I had that same feeling with both of my marriages. But the marriage I am in now I really want to hold on to. When I had that feeling with my current husband I left him. But you know when I left I felt so empty and all I wanted was my husband back. When I came back to him it was like a new start. The love making was great! Now I'm not saying to leave your husband but maybe you just need alittle time apart.

Answer 2

Well things didn't get this bad in two months, I'll tell you that much. You knew this was the wrong thing to do when you did it. Don't you think you should have asked this question BEFORE the wedding? The answer is probably not, if you have only been married two months and its already over I'd say you are pretty much done for. Let this be a lesson to you, there is a lot more to marriage than a ring and a pretty dress!!

Answer 3

It doesn't sound as if your problems stem from the age difference alone. True, there are differences that arise because of the differences (like knowledge of music and trends), but there are also advantages to dating a 41 year-old man. Many men that are in their 20s and early 30s are nowhere near ready for the commitment of marriage. Maybe there are other issues that you can address with him -- like your communication methods or common interests.

In answer to your original question, yes, a marriage with an age gap CAN work -- but both parties have to be willing. If you are not willing to work on the relationship, get out early rather than later. If you can't stand his presence, I don't know what you can do -- regardless of his age or yours.

Answer 4

Yes the first year is very hard, but beside that he is so much older then you wich will make things much harder. Obvioulsy you married this man for reason, Think of those reasons and try to remember what you saw in him, Even if you need to speak to someone do so, when you marry try all resources first befor giving up. All that time , money, and energy for what?? To throw it away? Really look and serch for what made you so inlove with this man to marry him and go to the extreame to make it work. Good luck

Answer 5

Been there, done that. My marriage to a man that was 16 years older than me lasted 3 years. There was just too much of an age gap and, just like you, he turned me off. It got to the point that I couldn't even stand to hear him breath.

You shouldn't have to force yourself to love your husband. If you do, it's a sign that it's time to pack.

Answer 6

Well it sounds like its already over pretty much. Sorry, the age thing shouldnt be a problem. But waiting for that "special blue pill" to kick in starts getting old after a while ! But maybe you bit off more than your ready for. Sorry kiddo ! Maybe look for men in their 30's next time. Stop dating grandpa !

Answer 7

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Answer 8

You can or can't stand for him to touch you? I assume you mean "can't" or you wouldn't be asking the question. No, it won't last and you can't "get over" the feeling--at least you ought not have to do that.

Answer 9

no not till you get that bit of him not touching you the age is cool i like that that's not it talk it over to find out what went wrong you loved him to marry him so talk to find out what happened to your love for him good luck to the both of you

Answer 10

How can it last if you can't even stand to be touched by him!!!