2006-09-18 10:01:17 · 22 answers · asked by Travis 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband and i are more in love today than when we first met. i think because in spite of the children, our hectice schedules, day to day life, we make time to just BE with eachother. we make eachother laugh. we do stupid, quirky stuff, we acknowledge one another and show gratitude for one another. we have great communication....especially in the bedroom. i have really bad self-esteem about my physiacl appearance....my body has changed dramatically and yeah...i wonder if he's as grossed out as i am....but he lets me know that he's totally turned on because i allow him to be who he is...i have always been his rock...i truely dont feel that the "sparks" start in the bedroom....it's somewhere in the mind. they have to know that they turn us on and vice versa. the foreplay begins when the sun comes up and ends in the bed. all i know is that, sommunication is the key....i ask him what he would like me to do, and he asks me the same. we are eachothers fantasy...so there has never been an issue with infidelity. that's a huge weight lifted off my shoulders cuz my man's still a hottie...also, there are sex therapy spas all over. get on the net and do some research. remember why you two fell in love, got married, had those precious (depending on their ages...lol...) children, and why you are still there. i'm madly in love and i hope to stay that way. we dont have alot of time for one another...we both work 50-60+ hours a week...2 kids...you know...but that 10-15 min. everyday just to check in and tell eachother i love you and really appreciate you makes a ton of difference. but when you tell eachother, make sure you're looking ant eachother not a quick "love ya babe", flip over and go to bed.
2006-09-18 10:15:17 · answer #1 · answered by life beyond yur wildest dreams 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will be married 4 years this November and our relationships was also getting boring. I read somewhere that you have to pretend that you are just dating each other and act like when you were first dating. Such as holding hands when you are out together and going out on dates. Send hot text messages to each other. It worked for my relationship. Good Luck!
2006-09-18 10:04:44 · answer #2 · answered by G24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wake up and pay attention. Do things that you used to do. Don't let the daily routine grind you down...spend time together, talk, go to a adult book store (or whatever they call them in your area) buy some lotion and some toys and play. The possibilities are endless as long as you both want to find a way to get it done.
2006-09-18 10:07:53 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You may want to spice up your love life. Do things together. I was becoming that way too and we had a talk and decided that we would do more things together. We go for walks, work-out and even cook dinner together. Anything is better than sitting in front of the T.V.
2006-09-18 10:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by amanda725_2000 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a work in progress. My husband and I go out often with friends or with just each other. We always end up somewhere and have lots of fun in many new places. I wear dresses with no underwear and tease him all night long. I whisper naughty things into his ear and he just wants to attack me by the end of the night.
2006-09-18 10:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by SEXY 818 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Find something new to do that neither of you do now.
Play darts, play pool, paint the house, invite people over for a game of poker, start gardening, etc.
I assume you do not have kids.
2006-09-18 10:03:43 · answer #6 · answered by MЯ BAIT™ 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Try a marriage therapist, or seek some other marriage advice from a certified person. Try couple classes-such as dancing, or more "intimate" subjects-like massage classes, etc...
2006-09-18 10:02:46 · answer #7 · answered by Kelly M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the Question is whats boring about you're relationship. and work on it 2 fix it.
2006-09-18 10:16:08 · answer #8 · answered by spiderman 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well discuss this with her, just do things that come natural, and for GODS SAKE!!!!! Don't listen to these idiots saying to have a baby! that will just make things worse in a sense that if it's not gonna end up working out, you just draaged a kid into a broken home!
2006-09-18 10:12:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
you shouldn't have gotten married. sounds like you married for the wrong reasons. like the average american. divorce and find your soulmate. i see couples that are still happy not bored etc. THEY ARE MEANT TO BE. PERFECT CHEMISTRY, plays apart. sounds like you two were settling. MOVE ON and find the love that never gets boring. (smile)
2006-09-18 10:04:05 · answer #10 · answered by nomorepblm 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋