This is my third chance I've given my husband to make things right in our marriage and he has promised me that he will not lie to me and hide things from me any longer. I've found out that he keeps doing them and wont keep promises to me. He wont take his depression medication because he thinks that he is fine and that it's everyone else that needs the help. He blames me for everything...disables our vehicle so I can't leave the house...will not give me any money unless HE thinks it's a good enough reason.... will not let me talk on the phone to any of my friends or family without him sitting next to me.....accuses me of cheating on him.....wont let me be online if he is home and only for a short amount of time while he's gone (he calls to see if I am online from work - dial-up).....and tells me I do nothing for him and nothing all day long except sit in an air conditioned house watching TV. He has also been telling me that I am just like my mom(needs help!!) and just like his ex-wife.
2006-09-18 09:54:31 · 8 answers · asked by sad_wife_mom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
This man is a user and abuser. You need to pack up and leave when he is not there, and DO NOT tell him where you are. If he wants to see the children, meet him in public..McDonald's or something where there are plenty of people, and DO NOT let him have any of the children unsupervised. File for a restraining order immediately, and divorce. This man is bipolar, and I wouldn't be surprised if HE is the one cheating (cheaters are very paranoid).
Get out quick, and be very careful. Good luck.
2006-09-18 10:02:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am going through the same issues and have the same ? Only I have 3 kids. I feel like I can't do it on my own. He controlls everything I do. Everyone says I can do it but I know that I can't so I will be watching your answers to see what advise you get. You are going through Mental Abuse you can get help from shelters cause of it. Look it up online also. I am about to talk to my husband again to see if he can change. Good Luck
2006-09-18 17:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by 2strongfor2long 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
see you are one of the people that welfare is really for. when you are a mom and have been out of the work force, it's REALLY hard to find a job. so get on some aid for awhile while you take classes to upgrade your skills or learn a vocation, then start looking for a job. stay with family if you can. i am all about second chances, but second and third ones, no
2006-09-18 17:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by advicemom 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When someone is that controlling you have little to no self esteem. It is to hard to leave since you have 7 children. Try turning for you family and find away to leave.
2006-09-18 17:00:28 · answer #4 · answered by SEXY 818 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many programs that are in place to help people in your situation. I am sorry to say it, but this sounds like a very unhealthy marriage. You are showing your children that abuse is aceptable
2006-09-18 17:01:13 · answer #5 · answered by funnyhaha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do everything you can to save money and leave. including a work-at-home- job or asking a relative for help. this much control is UNACCEPTABLE!!!!
2006-09-18 17:23:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So many issues, so little time.
Get a divorce and then get some help.
2006-09-18 16:57:41 · answer #7 · answered by live2ride 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has control issues...get out of this relationship!!
2006-09-18 17:00:09 · answer #8 · answered by imflexable2 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋