My man of 6 yrs was going back & forth w/ another b^itch on myspace. We went out of town for a weekend & when we got back he sent her a text "I MISSED U A LOT MAMI." I was VERY upset but he says I overreacted cause he was not physically cheating. I consider this emotional cheating but he basically thinks he can say/do anything as long as he's not physically doing anything he's not cheating. He swears he had no feelings for her but I feel otherwise cause of their exhanges on myspace (a week later she emailed him "I see how you are, you must have a lady. You don't bring me to your house? That's wrong, I ain't stupid you know, if you got a lady just let me know i'm a big girl! I DO NOT want to be wasting my time if it's all just gona go to sh^t anyway!" He says he loves me & wants to be together & I do too but it's hard cause we do nothing but fight about this anymore. We were supposed to get married before this b^tch came around. We have a 2-yr-old & wanted more before I found him out...
2006-09-18 09:47:50 · 20 answers · asked by smarty pants 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it is cheating. it may not be physical, but it is cheating in a much more significant way, mentally and psychologically.
2006-09-18 09:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by Robert A 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your guy is full of crap--he doesn't feel anything for her?!? Then why waste his time sending text messages and emails to someone he's not interested in?!? Actions always speak louder than words. He can tell you one thing, yet do another. Thank your lucky stars that you realized what a dishonest man he is before you tied the knot. It's not the woman's fault, it's his. Believe me, you deserve better than this, and it's best if you just move on and find a person you deserve.
2006-09-18 10:30:02 · answer #2 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all your allowing this to control your life, second of all if I would have been in your postion oh wait I have been I dumped the guy cause excuse me for saying but its like catching him in bed with her, I gave all trust to the guy I have a child with, trusted he would never cheat cause he said he wouldn't and then caught him flirting with a female on the internet, well lets just say I fell for his excuse his uncle was sick and needed to go to this certain town where this female lives and was gonna be gone for a week, when he left I got onto yahoo and like any other site you can get info just as fast and he had it already logged on to his nick and found in his message archives he was going there and could not wait to see her and well f*ck her, well to his surprise I know my stupid mistake but giving the benefit that he was going to see his sick uncle I allowed him to go with trust when he got home the doors were all changed and his stuff ummm think the garbage man picked it up, he tried calling me and when I did answer I told him he was caught, caught having an affair on the internet. And yes it is cheating how ever he looks at it, he is just trying to avoid the fact he got caught cheating on the internet!
2006-09-18 09:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I would consider that cheating! You man sounds like he isn't ready for marriage he still wants to be playing the field I would be glad I found out before the wedding! What is he doing on myspace anyway? I thought that was for teenagers.
2006-09-18 09:56:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, sure. It's not cheating just like oral sex is not sex. Give me a break! When people have feelings for each other and they feel love then it's an affair - an affair of the heart. I wouldn't marry him until this affair is over. Matter of fact, I wouldn't marry him at all. Gee, how can he be so stupid? Didn't try very hard to hide it, did he? If you marry him now, he will bring her with him. She's in his heart and mind. That's stronger than physical.
2006-09-18 09:55:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you're questioning, it in all probability is. each time you sense an emotional connection with somebody else, any sort of touch that feels intimate - could desire to be purely speaking or texting, yet feels close, brings you closer to that person - is cheating. in case you're no longer emotionally in contact, then those comparable issues are purely friendly. additionally i'm assuming by kissing you recommend a kiss on the cheek, simply by fact on the mouth or deep kissing is unquestionably around the line.
2016-10-17 05:36:18 · answer #6 · answered by janski 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Save yourself some money and sanity and get rid of him.I would say to give him a dose of his own medicine first but you have a child.Try to be nice so he can be in his child's life.You two aren't even married yet and he is looking for/flirting with other women it will not work.He isn't remorseful.Marrying him will end in a divorce.Divorces and counseling are expensive.If you put up with it now he will try to walk all over you later.
2006-09-18 10:08:18 · answer #7 · answered by sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's definetly a cheater, your wasting your time on someone that is not commited to you. find someone else, your missing out on how great a real loving and commited relationship is like. i love my wife with all my heart and i wouldnt even dream of speaking to another woman on the internet. you deserve a special relationship with someone who willl truely love you, and not play games with you, and cheat on you. i know it may be hard to leave after such a long time, but i would rather be single than be with a cheating spouse. make the rest of your life happy by finding a real man.
2006-09-18 10:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by jcmikemoni 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men and women think very differently about sex, If he was having a physical affair I would say you had nothing to worry about, But for men , if its an emotional bond, then its probably pretty serious and if you plan on making the relationship work , you had better find out what she has to offer that you are missing.
2006-09-18 09:56:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter if he calls it "cheating" or not; he's doing something that he should NOT be doing if he is involved in a serious relationship. No matter whom you ask... It's NOT ok to mis-represent yourself as single when your partner objects. This guy is flat-out disrespecting you; it's your choice whether to stick with him or not. If you do, better go into it with your eyes open, and prepare for more like this to come.
2006-09-18 10:00:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely it is cheating. You don't have to cheat physically for it to be cheating. I would not put up with it from my man and he wouldn't from me. NO WAY NO HOW!!! It's not just her only her fault though, he had to show interest for her to say the things she has said.
2006-09-18 09:53:47 · answer #11 · answered by charbar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋