My husband just wants it to be him and me. I want my mom in there too. He doesn't.
2006-09-18 09:47:03 · 31 answers · asked by april_hwth 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My husband was the same way. You should consider what he wants too. But ultimately it should be up to you. Try to help him realize that you might need all the support you can get during labor. Maybe you guys can come to a compromise . I wish you luck I know it can be hard to try to please everyone when they should be trying to please you (you are the one having the baby after all).
2006-09-18 10:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by dune 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The short answer is "Yes." You are the one with your hoochie hanging out, doing all the work - it should be up to you.
On the other hand, he did play a part in making the baby, and deserves a chance to explain his reasoning. And, of course, he may have some reasons that sound silly to some, but are extremely important to him. Mine was fantastic during the delivery of both of our children, but there were a couple of times he got a little green. I think he might have gotten cranky, and not been able to enjoy the good parts of the birth as much, if there were witnesses to his reactions to the, shall we say.... messier parts.
Best of Luck to you both!
2006-09-18 09:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by Tragedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go along with your husband. Having a baby is a special moment between you & your husband. Your Mom already had this special moment when you were born, now it's your turn to have it. If he agreed to have your Mom I'd say go for it, but since he's hesitant, don't. This is something you two don't need to fight about. How about your Mom is the first one in to see the baby after it's born. My Mom was in with me & my husband (because he didn't care), but a part of me wishes it would have been just him & I and to let my Mom be surprized when the baby was born. It really is a special bonding moment between you & your husband and your baby.
2006-09-18 09:58:09 · answer #3 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want anyone else in there then you need to request a private room. If your husband doesn't want your mom in there then you should honor his wishes. After all, he's the daddy, and this is his big day too. This should really be a time for you, and your hubby to bond with your new baby. Good luck, and God bless!
2006-09-18 09:52:26 · answer #4 · answered by mojojo66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should be able to choose, You need as much support as you can get trust me i have 3 I had to have my mom in there with me:) i was 16 when i had my first and 22 when i had my last my mother was there all 3 times
2006-09-18 09:53:24 · answer #5 · answered by nowandthenandonlyme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be able to choose who is in the room with you. If having your mom in there makes you feel comfortable than have your mom in there . Hey your the one who has to go through all the pain.
2006-09-18 09:52:38 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately for you husband labor and deliver is strictly done by the wishes of the mom-to-be. He should be willign to do whatever will make you the most comfortable and if thast means having your mom there so be it. This is the most important and special day of your life and you do what you have to do to make that happen.
2006-09-18 09:52:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anjanette A 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever makes you comfortable is most important. If you are going to have it in a hospital, it'll be most definitely more people than just you and him anyway! It is hardly an intimate experience! Tell him to get over himself, as your feelings are the more important and you are going to need all the support you can get. Labor is hard, long, and tiring (most of them), and he is going to be exhausted and will need breaks. If you want your mom with you, go for it!
2006-09-18 09:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by Curelover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should decide who is going to be in there with you. Try to talk to him and tell him how important it is to you. Explain to him that if you have a long labor he is going to need a break and you will need someone there to take his place.
I could see why he wouldn't want your mom there - he may be afraid that his "place" will be taken because your mom will be there to help, comfort you, etc. and those are all things he wants to do for you.
2006-09-18 09:55:19 · answer #9 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get to choose, but hear your husband out on his reasoning. I personally would only want my husband in there, but my sister in law had the entire family. In the end, it should be your decision if you want your mother in there for additional support.
2006-09-18 09:50:54 · answer #10 · answered by Mara 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋