Since I've been with my husband I haven't made a lot of time for girlfriends. Should I go out of my way to make time for friends or is being best friends with your husband just as healthy?
2006-09-18 09:32:09 · 12 answers · asked by ღஜJuliஜღ 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
If you and your husband are totally happy as each others best friend then there is nothing more beautiful than that! I think thats what makes a long and lasting relationship because you two are more then lovers, you are best friends. I asked myself the exact question because my husband is my best friend as well. We have been married for 6 years now and neither of us have had many friends outside of out marrige and we are completely happy just with each other. If you two are completely happy with just each other then it is not unhealthy. Adding friends sometimes can just complicate a relationship. Some people can not be totally honest or open with their partner so they look for other friends to talk to or seek advice. Some relationships NEED friends and some don't. I think you are very fortunate to concider your husband your bestfriend. A good honest relationship is what most women look for but have problems finding so those women usually have alot of other friends to look to for support or advice. If you feel you are needing more support or just more "girl time" then mabe you should concider more time for girlfriends. Nothing is unhealthy about being happy with what you have at home :) ENJOY IT!!
2006-09-18 09:45:56 · answer #1 · answered by dabster 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
To not have any (or many) friends outside of your spouse sets you up for a likelyhood of developing co-dependency issues. I have been there. Have been with my hubby since Jr. High. Now, 14 years later we have a few friends, but spend most of our time with the kids. After baby number 2, we realized that neither of us had been out (other than together) in over a year!
While your husband may be your 'other half'.... Having other friends will help remind you that you are a separate, unique individual with your own identity.
(It will also give you both a short break from the day to day monotony that becomes the downfall of many relationships)
2006-09-18 10:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by Pixie Dust 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do YOU want? If you do not miss having girlfriends, then don't worry about it. However if you and your husband have a spat, think about who you might talk to about it (or vent or cry to)...if the two of you should split up (just being realistic) at some point, would you be comfortable on your own with no friend support?
It's not unhealthy not to have friends...some people just don't care anything about them...but if you are devoting yourself 100% to your husband, I'd wonder why...rarely is there someone in life who is ALL we would want in a friend and partner, and we have no desire to have any other friends...other people bring a variety of things to our life, and differing points of view...
2006-09-18 09:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I moved to a new area when my husband and I married so I understand the not making time for girlfriends part. However, you should maintain your closer friendships and schedule in some time for them, even if it's at a time that won't take time away from you and your husband. You'll have more to talk about and you'll feel more confident in maintaining your personal identity. It's perfectly healthy for you both to have time out for your friends as well as a date night for just the two of you.
2006-09-18 10:06:41 · answer #4 · answered by cgspitfire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been with my hubby for 5 years now. I totally adore him and I consider him my best friend but man oh man, do I long for a good girlfriend. I havent had one in ages and ages. I think you should make some time for your girlfriends for sure. Being best friends with your hubby is probably number on priority, especially when you have kids, but it doesnt hurt, in fact it is healthy to get out with your girlfriends. You cant talk to your hubby like you can a good girlfriend.
2006-09-18 09:39:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should always have a couple girlfriends...you need them...men are great, but they don't understand us women very well..they admitt it too. men get their guys nights out...and women deserve this as well. of even look for other couple friends so the both of you can go out together with them...that would be nice right? but you deff should have a few girl friends...every girl needs them...i know i do! to talk to when things get rough between you and your man...or whatever the cases may be...i gave up some of my friends when i started seeing a guy...and when he cheated on me and i was upset, i had noone to turn too..they all deserted me, because i did that to them. Can't blame them, but i won't do that again!
2006-09-18 09:38:41 · answer #6 · answered by tigerlily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be just as healthy. however, sometimes it is good to have an outside perspective. which is where a close girlfriend comes in. if i were u, i wouldnt go out of my way for a new friend. it just depends on what you prefer.
2006-09-18 09:52:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs friends other than there husband. I would definatley make some time for my female friends. We all need to be around someone of our same gender!!!!
2006-09-18 09:34:34 · answer #8 · answered by hippiechic35 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think being best friends with your spouse is critical....but I also think y'all need friends outside of your marriage. Mutual friends are better that each of you having your own disjoint set of friends.
2006-09-18 09:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Sheik Yerbouti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's whatever works for you and your husband.
There are no sets rules as far as friends.
2006-09-18 09:40:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋