I am 15 years old...etc...Homeones raging...help me!!
I am confused now cos I have this crush on a teacher and he's so polite and thoughtful. He takes good care of me. But sometimes, I get confused cos I know we'll never go out in a life's time..ever! Cos he's my teacher, of course! But, I am trying to keep it down and be more friendlier with him in a sister-like way..
but we will be going on a geography trip tomorrow and I am not sure what to do...I am not going to be in his group this time and I am worried that I'll get a little bit jealous and worried that he'll lose the liking of me...I know it's stupid...but I'm 15! Help!
2006-09-18 09:13:41 · 33 answers · asked by zipporahbourne 2 in Education & Reference ➔ Primary & Secondary Education
honey, liking ur teacher is wrong, but perfectly normal, well kinda. anyways, look at ur own words, it's just a crush. it would look wrong to others to date a teacher don't u think? o and on the field trip tomorrow, try not to think or even look at him, why do u think he'll lose the liking of u?
2006-09-18 09:18:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
I'm glad that you realize that since you are only 15, yes your hormones are raging, and they make you think and do stupid things sometimes. I had a crush on 2 of my teachers in high school. Looking back, I remember it was really a lot of fun to have a crush. Don't get jealous of other girls. He probably only likes you because you are a good student, you're a nice girl, etc. And to an adult, those are some admirable traits in a teenager. Wear something cute tomorrow (but not skanky), fix your hair pretty, put on a little perfume, and just enjoy having your crush.
2006-09-18 09:32:51 · answer #2 · answered by LadyLindsay 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey, a lot more people go through this than you think, so don't worry! This man is an older role-model, almost a brotherly figure from the way you describe him and this makes your attraction much more understandable.
However, you have to remember that no matter what you feel now, this is just a crush, nothing more. One day you might look back and think "Eew, I like HIM?", or you may wonder what "could have happened" but either way, don't compromise your feelings and his career because of a crush!
Just ride the waves and wait for it to calm down. You'll be fine. I'm only a year older than you, so I can promise you that!
Hope this helps.
Al.
2006-09-18 09:24:08 · answer #3 · answered by mcfollowthrough 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It does'nt matter what age you are - people will always have crushes on those they admire or are unobtainable. Advice about reporting him is correct - if he's the one making all the moves. But if it's you who's doing the come on - then think again. If you care about a person, then you should care about how you treat them. If you make moves on this teacher and it becomes known - then he will undoubtedly be under suspicion/ investigation for inappropriate behaviour towards a student. Think about the consequences: he could lose his job, his character could be totally shredded, he would never work in teaching again, he might be hounded in his neighbourhood and forced to move away - where all of it might happen all over again.
PLEASE, PLEASE, PLEASE - JUST ACCEPT THIS IS A NORMAL TEENAGE CRUSH, SOMETHING YOU WILL SHORTLY GROW OUT OF WHEN YOU MEET THE NEXT NICE BOY - remember you are a student and he is a teacher - that line must never be crossed. DON'T ACT ON IT AND DON'T TELL HIM.
2006-09-18 23:46:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to have a crush at your age on a teacher especially if he is so polite and thoughtful.
He is a professional and will treat everyone the same so do not worry.
Once had a massive crush on my French teacher so I can understand how you feel. On my last day ever at school I went to say goodbye and burst into tears, he gave me a hug and said not to worry I will do well.
Met him years later and cringed with embarrassment that I actually fancied him in the first place.
So it is normal and part of growing up and no you are not stupid if you are there are thousands of us that are.
2006-09-19 00:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by momof3 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These kind of crushes happen to some people when they're between 13-17, so you're not alone on it, even if you don't know anyone else crushing on a teacher that way. I think you should try to think about what is realistic, and right now that is the fact that you're going on a school trip to learn, not to be close to a teacher.
If you keep having this problem or he tries to talk to you privately or sexually, you should report this to someone. He shouldn't take advantage of your vulnerability, and you might need some counseling.
2006-09-18 09:18:43 · answer #6 · answered by *babydoll* 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He is probably polite and thoughtful with all the pupils (students)......having a crush on your teacher is nothing new....but you will soon have a crush on somebody else hopefully someone your own age....but dont make a pass at him because you could ruin his career and you could get into serious trouble....just try to concentrate on the geography trip and have fun with your friends.
2006-09-18 09:27:12 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Enjoy the trip and don't get jealous.......also enjoy the crush on your teacher as you will look back when your older and giggle about it!
I had a crush on my Biology teacher when I was 14 and I'm sure he knew - but he was cool and about 45....your teacher probably knows too..so try not blush too much!! have fun.
2006-09-18 09:29:07 · answer #8 · answered by joanne d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you heard the expression "Absence makes the heart grow fonder". Well, it only applies to true love. Since you have a crush, at first you'll be desperate to talk to him, let alone see him, but after a while you'll get used to it and you won't feel this urge anymore. After all, he is your teacher, right, so it would be good to stop this crush. Keep away from him as much as possible.
Believe me, it works. I used to have a crush on a girl in my year, but after the summer holidays I came back and I didn't really feel any need to see her anymore.
2006-09-18 09:25:12 · answer #9 · answered by hawaiian_shorts91 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww.
It's hard for you - we've all been there with the teenage crush so we know how you feel.
Do remember that it is completely illegal for a teacher to have a (sexual) relationship with a student, even if the student is over 16. It is seen as an abuse of power.
Isn't there a guy going in your year that you fancy - concentrate on him!
Enjoy the trip.
2006-09-18 09:19:02 · answer #10 · answered by Mr Glenn 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You're not stupid just a little bit naive. Like all 15 year olds.
My advice is to stay well away from your teacher. It's natural to have crushes but accept it for what it is 'a crush'. One day you will find a nice boy of your own age. Steer clear at all costs!
2006-09-18 09:17:35 · answer #11 · answered by Angel D 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋