im gay how the hell should i come out to my family esp. my mummy. plsplsplspls HELP!!!!!!!?

Question

A very catholic irish family btw

Answer 1

Put one hand on your hip, hold the other limply and say "Ooooh mummy, I LOVE your shoes, they're gooorgeous!"

Answer 2

If you are living at home still - don't say a word to anyone. Wait until you are on your own and paying your own bills. You could be kicked out or disowned. Find a gay youth group, read gay literature, go to gay film festivals and events and learn about being gay. Don't just learn from bars. Learn from responsible gay people. See if there is a gay community center near you.

If you are on your own my advice is different. Maybe read some coming out stories first in a gay book store or a gay section of a book store and get a feel for how others have done this. Also, get your self a copy of the catholic catechism. Read exactly what it says about homosexuality. The Catholic church hates the sin but loves the sinner. I think you might be surprised to find out just how tolerant of gays the church is - despite all the media prejudice. Once you have done all this I would just come out to them. Let them know what is up with you and let the chips fall where they will. It is better to get it off your chest than to live a double life.

Answer 3

I have a guy friend whom I suspect is gay...Well I know he's gay but he's just hiding for what reason I don't know. Maybe he thinks people wont accept him or something.. But in your case u r sure u are gay.. Tell them.. If they still love you they would understand and still love you no matter who or what you are. People in society or so closed minded when it comes to the situation about being gay that doesnt change anything that's your preference of who makes you happy.. Sit down and talk to them, tell them it's something on your mind that you think that they should know then come out and say it.... I think that you would feel a hell of a lot better when you do..... And pray about it, ask the Lord to lead you and I know that he will......I wish you luck

Answer 4

omg catholic families r hard so u may want 2 start with the ones u trust the most and wont critcize and then work sloly 2 ur mom. also try and get her while she is in a good mood that will probably calm the tension . and if she goes all catholic on u try and tell her that god wants his ppl 2 b happy and b with the one they luv and if im wrong and u get wopped it wasnt me kay

Answer 5

Just tell them. My cousin is gay and very religious also. He was incredibly worried about telling our family but when he did a huge weight was lifted and they understood. This was 2 years ago. The only person he never felt he could tell was my grandad- he always postponed it. My grandad died this morning. I'm sure my cousin wishes he hadn't waited to say something.

Answer 6

Your mum probably all ready knows, women just know these things. I'm Irish when a friend of mine came out to his mum when he was 19 she said "I knew that years ago love, just be safe with yourself" She was upset at the thought of not having grandchildren more than anything. (He was only child)
There is no love like a mums love, what ever happens it will be OK best of luck to you.

Answer 7

Dont. Get yourself sorted out. If you are a man, well you aint if you think you are gay, but if male and you cant pull a bird look on Google for an escort and get some lessons in proper sex.
If you are a girl. grow up, wear as little as possible head for the pub get bladdered and let nature take its course.
The partners in gay relationships simply lack the equipment to provide adequate pleasure to their partner, so straighten yourself out and if you cant ,lie, there is simply no need to hurt your parents this much

Answer 8

It sounds like you've already come out. trust it or no longer, it truly is not any longer a secret on your kinfolk. you merely have not shown what they already suspect. i imagine that in case you decide on them to settle for you for who you're, you want to be as open with them as you obviously are with all and various else. they are your kinfolk. they ought to were the first ones you confided in. As for the consequences of popping out....that extremely relies upon on what style of people you've on your kinfolk. Do they love you sufficient to eventually (it is going to take time) get over what they sense is a sin and settle for you or no longer? in reality you recognize the answer to that. As on your question about Hell, in reality God is definitely-known with the answer to that.

Answer 9

Blurt it out at a family reunion dinner. When all your extended family is finsihed talking about their padded resumes, say something like:

Yeah, I'm making good grades, I'm gay, and I'm starting to apply to colleges. hahahahah

Answer 10

First there are things you need to consider.
1, do you live at home? (can you support yourself if they happen to turn against you and toss you in the street?)
2. Are you able in this point in your life to deal with the regection if they do regect you?
3. Are you prepared for any and all fallout that may come your way? Prepared for all the religious statements against being gay?

Now that I have asked you those questions, please do not think I was trying to scare you in any way. these things are just reality. and you need to be prepared for them. Now on the other hand it is possible that the opposit may happen and your mummy may jujust say you are my child and I love you no matter what weather I like your lifestyle or not.
Either way you need to be able to back up everything in your life. it is not like "comint out straight" unfortunately coming out gay is not like being straight you have to back up everything you do from what about if you want kids, and what about getting married, to what about AIDS.. and how are you going to prevent yourself from getting AIDS.. and you better be prepared to answer all these questions at a moments notice..
It is almost like a pop quiz on your life and you better come out with an "A" or you will look like this is "just a phase" so if you want to be taken seriously and be treated as an adult.. Know your subject matter, Know any and all possible questions and any and all possible answers that make you inteligently versed on the matter.

Honestly there is no good way to come out to your mummy other than to be compleetly HONEST and TRUTHFUL...
I am one that believes that there is not a reason to be untruthfull with anyone in our lives because I belive that we should be ourselvs with everyone that is part of being a genuine person.

Heck you may walk away from the situation saying why didnt I tell her sooner.. and I have to tell you being a Mother myself.. Most mothers know or suspect.... we just turn a blind eye to it and hope it isnt so because we dont want that kind of hurt for our child. I know my son is Gay... and have known since he was 5 years old... something in my soul told me... even thou I was living in a straight marriage.. and didnt "come out" myself until just a few years ago.. and now he is 13 and he came out to me last year... and I was devistated.. even thou I am myself gay... I was not devistated because it is rong or evil... I was devistated because I know the pain he will endure his entire life... and lets face it .. it is much harder to be a Gay man than it will ever be to be a Lesbian in this day and age...
But now I am rambeling off subject..
Do yourself a favor.. if you feel strongly that you need to tell your mummy, sit down with her and her alone in a private setting and just have a heart to heart discussion with her and just say what comes from your heart.. let her know you love her.. let her know she did not have a thing to do with this... and that you are you .. and you are still a wonderfull inteligent human who has much to give to society...
Bright Blessings to you and your mom,
RiahWillow

P.s.
you may want to check out PFLAGs website they have great info on coming out to parents and then you can print out some stuff for your mummy so she can see that there are parents out there that support their children.

Answer 11

As the current boyfriend of this lovely user, i must say that i think you are the bravest, be strong, tell your mum you have a lovely boyfriend since two years. and you will be grand.

love you so much. you make me the happiest guy alive...

hugs boba