i am so frustrated i never had sex before i got married i am married for 3 months now
1.what should i do?
2.how should i fake it?
3.i dnt masturbute
2006-09-18 08:46:19 · 13 answers · asked by Just another gal 3 in Health ➔ Women's Health
I had the same problem! I was a virgin when I got married too. My husband was sexually experienced. It hurt a lot at first, and that hindered my ability to orgasm.
I read your 3rd point, but (honestly!) if you try playing with your clit while he is inside you, it can work wonders. If you are against that idea, have him just enter you a tiny bit - the majority of the nerve endings in the vagina are in the first couple of inches. Or, you could try and get him to give you oral. That almost always works.
You should never fake it - he will think that he did good, and continue doing something that doesn't work for you. The main thing is just to relax and enjoy it. The more you think about it, the harder it becomes to climax. Just enjoy the ride, have him stimulate your erogenous zones, and enjoy making him hold off until you are ready (it will drive him mad - how fun!!). :)
By the way, the sex gets MUCH better the more you practice with your husband, and eventually it will be so great that you will wonder how you ever had problems to begin with!! Just like the old saying, practice makes perfect!! :)
2006-09-18 08:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by slim1234 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell your husband the truth because he may be under the false impression that he is satisfying you. Anyone could tell you that one of the best things to have for a happy marriage is good communication with your partner. I recommend Kama Sutra poses. Any couple can do it and you are destined to be pleased! Also, don't forget to do Kegal Excersises to bring intense pleasure to your lovemaking. Good luck.
2006-09-18 15:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by sam 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
1. 90% of the orgasm is in your mind. Teach your mind to come.
2. Don't fake it.
3. Masturbate, its ok. Its a great learning tool.
2006-09-18 15:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Gentle Dragon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try hormones. They work. Also you might want to try different positions or forplay first. Faking it would be a bad thing considering you are married, even if you werent married and it may offend your significant other. Go see a doctor thry might be able to give you your best answer
2006-09-18 15:50:06 · answer #4 · answered by Cassie T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
don't fake it....it's not worth it.
Start masturbating and get to know your body. Find out what feels good and communicate that with your husband.
And, try not to dwell on the fact that you haven't had an orgasm thet will get in the way of having one. You need to relax and just let loose! Good Luck!
2006-09-18 15:51:04 · answer #5 · answered by Miel 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It isn't your fault. He's not doing right. Never fake it! Don't make yourself feel like crap so he can feel like a sex god!!! Make him know in a subtle way that he hasn't pleased you. Don't moan and groan and scream unless you mean it!!! Just lay there and act like your bored, he may get the messege! Then find some counseling!
2006-09-18 15:50:38 · answer #6 · answered by Jani S 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't fake it. But, if you really wanna find out how to get off, you should really consider playing with yourself. Lay on your back and look for your clit. It's yours. There's nothing wrong with you touching it.
2006-09-18 15:50:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should not have to fake it.
Sometimes though, a woman needs to pleasure herself.
Get your husband to help out.
2006-09-18 15:48:56 · answer #8 · answered by MЯ BAIT™ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're husband is doing it wrong. Don't fake it. Let him know there is a problem.
2006-09-18 15:47:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
tell your husband, he will understand. and maybe try a different position, this may help you get what you need. GOOD LUCK.
2006-09-18 19:38:44 · answer #10 · answered by Mandy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋