I think I try but no matter what, people ultimately don't like me. Despite this, I think I have normal self esteem. I might get paranoid from time to time, but realistically speaking,
I really think very few people like me over all.
Why is this? I swear I'm not a mean person. Maybe I'm ugly or something....I don't know.
2006-09-18 08:24:03 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Well you like politcally conservative men, so I dont like you already.
2006-09-18 15:13:30 · answer #1 · answered by Phil S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your fine. It's so rare to find nice people these days. Who wants friends who expect others to be perfect. Who's to judge if your trying to hard, or any extra baggage. How can jusge someones charactor so quickly. Also it seems that you have to have something beneficial to make friends with people. You know if your rich, or have resources of some sort people would be up your *** all day.
People are assholes. They are also very selfish. Often times they say you try to hard, when in fact they don't realize how fake they are themselves. Who needs those type of people. Good friends are hard to come by.
I know it gets very lonely, and you learn a lot about others when your alone. It sucks but would you actually want friends like that? Friends are rare. Just like good men. :)
2006-09-18 21:07:45 · answer #2 · answered by idontknow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of the biggest turnoffs for me are people who never listen and wear their emotional baggage on their sleeves. Also a friendship has to be an even see saw, both people working, and no one trying too hard or leaving you just hangin'. I don't know if this is you but to make friends you have to be a good friend first. Some people will never have a ton of friends and thats okay. Real true friends are hard to come by but they are out there, keep looking.
2006-09-18 15:37:21 · answer #3 · answered by Venus M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're trying too hard. I used to feel the same way too until I told myself not to give a crap about what anyone else says and just be myself. After a while, I found out that being myself resulted in me being more of a jerk to everyone and, somehow, I made more friends that way. This was at an all-guys school so I guess it was a machismo thing, go figure. Anyways, after that little tangent, bottom line: you're trying too hard and just be yourself without caring what other people think about you.
2006-09-18 15:32:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I never really felt liked either. In fact, I still don't think that most people REALLY like me most of the time. I think it's just an act.
I think that some people are just programmed to feel this way. I have my few close friends, and many, many aquaintences (who I talk to and smile at, but don't really know anything about me).
It's only a problem if you let it be a problem. If you want more friends, join more groups. If you want real, true friends, they take LOTS of time and effort!! Personally, I don't really care what the majority of people think of me, because their opinions don't matter to me one little iota!! It's a very freeing thought to embrace!! I recommend it for you.
And, I like you. I know that I don't know you, but you sound like me, and that makes me like you. :)
2006-09-18 15:37:21 · answer #5 · answered by slim1234 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like you and your beautiful.Who cares if others dislike you,as long as you love yourself it doesn't matter.If you spend so much time worrying about pleasing others it will drive you insane.If you are not a mean person that maybe it is them that have a problem.Take it as their loss and never say that you are ugly.Sounds to me like the people who dislike other people are the ones that are ugly.
2006-09-18 15:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by redanimalmuppet 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your self esteem is not as "normal' as you think it is? A person with good self esteem will know there will be people who will not like them. And that is AOK with most of us. There are tons of people I do not like too.
When we need validation from others to feel good about ourself, our self esteem is NOT normal. Learn to be happy with YOURSELF and then you will not be so worried about what others think!
2006-09-18 16:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by DA R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youre trying to hard, just be yourself...my favorite line to run through my head at times like these is "the people that mind dont matter, and the people who matter dont mind" ~good luck
2006-09-18 15:36:56 · answer #8 · answered by NYGIRL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh, come on, you're not being honest with yourself, and therefore come off as a phony. If you truly like, love, and respect yourself, that attitude transmits itself to everyone around you, and people are going to respond to it, in varying degrees. The ugliness you're talking about is how you feel on the inside, not how you look. Get real with yourself, and people will be more responsive to you. And really, in the final analysis, it's far more important to like yourself, than to worry if others like you.
2006-09-18 15:36:47 · answer #9 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are not a mean person the main reason why people don't like you is because they are jealous of you. They are upset with what you have and they don't, so they take it out on you by not liking you.
2006-09-18 15:33:25 · answer #10 · answered by meisa777 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're trying to get the wrong people to like you.Just be yourself and eventually the right kind of people will come around.
2006-09-18 15:30:23 · answer #11 · answered by oneidmnstr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋