she left him years ago and took his son away from him.
he has not seen his son in 3 years.
I located her online (through one of those tracking services) and now I have her current phone number and address.
How do i give the information to my man? SHOULD i even give him the information or is it really none of my business?
I know he really REALLY wants to see his son again, I was just trying to help
2006-09-18 08:10:32 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow,you really care...give him the info...
2006-09-18 08:40:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ken and Wendy M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you. there are some real issues to consider here. your man misses and wants to see his son but his ex obviously doesn't care. he can go to court to get visitation BUT since he has not seen his son for 3 yrs (and presumably has not known his whereabouts and thus has not been paying child support) he will have 3 yrs of back child support due (unless of course he's a good guy and has been paying all this time). before you tell him anything be positive that you have the correct current address! no need to get his hopes up for nothing. if it is the right info, YES tell him, just say you know it hurts him to be away from his son and that you were able to find his ex and that you'll support him no matter what he decides to do with that info. Be careful though, she may just pack up and run off again, but if you're at the very least able to serve her with court papers for him to get visitation there will be a record with the court that he's trying and if she takes off again he may be able to press kidnapping charges. She will be in contempt of court if she ignores his efforts. Good luck (I hope you have the correct contact info)!
2006-09-18 08:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by smarty pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question is, does he want to see his son?? Does he talk about him?? If he does then I think you should give him the information. It's not the childs fault that his mother took him away - kids need to see both parents.
I think you are very brave to open up a 'can of worms' !!
2006-09-18 08:35:13 · answer #3 · answered by glc2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is great that you helped him out. Most new girlfriends would not want to even think of helping to find the ex or lots of times the kids. You should first sit him down and ask him if he would like some help in locating them, if yes, then give him the info you got on her. If no, then just sit back and keep it to yourself.
2006-09-18 08:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by Just_Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your business because you are married. But, you may be opening a can of worms.
You should pray about this before making a decision.
My husband's children are terrors. They break stuff, cuss, relieve their bladders in front of other kids at school. You name something they shouldn't do and they do it.
I try and try to love them, but they don't make it easy. I still take care of them, but I sure do dread every other weekend.
You have to pray about this and wait for God's answer.
2006-09-18 08:17:35 · answer #5 · answered by Christian93 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The right thing to do is tell him, I'm sure he misses his son and would love to see him. He has the right to know his son as well as his son has the right to know his daddy..
2006-09-18 08:18:27 · answer #6 · answered by Tracy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep out of it..people like you make me sick (no good busybodys) there could be a serious reason why he has not seen his son in 3 years.
2006-09-18 08:15:53 · answer #7 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
give him the information. just be honest with him. Tell him that you knew how much it would mean to him to see his son again and that's why you looked her up.
2006-09-18 08:13:08 · answer #8 · answered by t_perez1199 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't get involved. Sorry you felt the need to do some nosing around. They were his wife, and it is his kid. If he REALLY wanted to know where they are ---- REALLY, REALLY REALLY, he could have done it himself, or hired someone for less than $100. Don't get involved.
2006-09-18 09:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him if he would want you to help first, if he says yes then leave it a day or two then let him know you've found them. tread carefully and good luck.
2006-09-18 08:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by neil d 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋