So in two weeks time im moving in with 2 girls. Im not romanticly involved with eithor of them, nor do I plan on it. We're just moving in together to save some money. All 3 of us are good friends. Everyone ive been talking to has been giving me fair warning and laughing at me. Also my female co-workers say my love life is going to go down hill cuz girls dont date dudes that live with other chicks, even though we are just friends. So my question is this. Why dont girls understand that im just friends with these 2 girls, and what can I expect living with them?
2006-09-18 07:57:15 · 14 answers · asked by mcskillins 2 in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
Watch some old reruns of "Threes Company" to get an idea.....
2006-09-18 07:59:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Um. Well, first off, your co-worker is probably correct about your love life. Although you may not be romantically involved with either of them, to another girl whom you may want to date, it can seem like that. The reason a girl may think that is because men generally have a hard time stopping themselves from getting into awkward positions that can lead to romantics. Believe me, I am one. Although some can just live with a girl without any romantic feelings, like you, it's hard for most girls in our jealously ridden society to accept that fact that it is only a friendship that you share with them, nothing beyond that. So, unless you come upon a Swinger girl who thinks that kind of "thing" is sexy, you probably are going to lose a lot of your chances with women.
My advice: Don't move in with them, instead pay the extra money that you have to in order to get your own place. You can still be friends, but just know that it's for the better if you don't live with them, at least for your love life.
2006-09-18 15:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by Locomotive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's in our nature to be jealous and to judge... Sorry but their right! Save some money, and then move into your own place. If you find the person you are meant to be with things will work out in the end. Maybe the two of you can live together? I don't know. Do what you feel is right and worry about everything else later ; ) Good Luck!
2006-09-18 15:01:53 · answer #3 · answered by lottie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can expect it will last for awhile, and then you'll move on. Roommate situations are not permanent, and it's rare for them to last very long. So it really doesn't matter whether you're moving in with same sex roommates, or not; it'll last until someone gets married, or gets a steady boyfriend and wants to move in with him. As for girls don't date dudes that live with other chicks; the insecure girls won't. This could be a way of weeding out those who are immature.
2006-09-18 15:16:37 · answer #4 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of the time....the only thing to blame is the world that we live in. Girls don't like that and most of them wont accept it because 1. Jealousy. 2. Lack of trust...these days...just the thought of a man living with women, brings up the whole Menage a trois' (did I spell that right, probably not) Idea. Also, You should not have any problems living with the girls, just remember to be extra clean around the place because most girls are pretty neat. Just be patient and find yourself a girl who is Secure with herself, knows who she is, and has the ability to trust you. As long as she's secure with herself and confident, she should have no problem with it. Good Luck!
2006-09-18 15:02:51 · answer #5 · answered by Surge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless if you are living with males or females, you will all learn about each other's "habits".
Respect from each of you is important. Respecting space, privacy, taking turns and sharing is key.
A friend of mine who lives with 3 other people(2 men and 1 woman) all have seperate bedrooms and share the kitchen and bathrooms.
They have a cleaning schedule(kitchen and bathroom) that rotates from person to person (depending on the day and person's own schedule) that is posted in the kitchen.
Everyone cleans their own dishes and doesn't wait around for someone else to clean up their mess. They respect other people's food, eating time and cupboard space.
They must "time share" on the shower and bathroom. So, if they told their roomates that they plan on using the bathroom before going to work from 6am to 6:30am and someone needs to use it right after them, it's their responsibility to respect their roomate's time and tidy up the bathroom before their roomate uses it. It's just common courtesy.
(They even, individually, buy their own toilet paper so they can stop fights like this from happening: "Who used the last roll and when?!"
Whatever you do in your own room and whom you bring over is your business.
Make sure you discuss everyone's weekly and weekend bedtime schedule. Because if things get too loud for someone who is trying to go to sleep (or taking a nap), this can cause alot of complaints and chaos.
Fairly dividing up bathroom shelf space, cupboard space and counter space is important. It shouldn't be too cluttered in there and if someone has too many things, some of them can stay in their room. It's a bathroom, not a drugstore.
Regardless if you are living with females or males, communication is key. And seeing how you are good friends already, dividing up the bills, rent and cleaning should be no problem.
You really can't expect anything. Girls can be lazy and not wish to clean and girls can be constantly moving and cleaning everything.
I think that if no one relies or depends on someone else to clean their room, wash their dishes, cook their meals, pay their rent/bills or wash their back in the shower then you should have no problems. (Having reliable, dependable, mature roomates-either male or female-is not far fetched.)
Laying ground rules now will get rid of sticky situations later.
Good luck!
:)
2006-09-18 16:54:26 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can expect to not be friends when it's over, to have food missing, clothes borrowed without permission, your stuff broken, you owing money for them, their friends causing trouble, them wanting their boyfriends to move in, someone moving out before they should and much more! Some fair better, but not many! Best of luck!!
2006-09-18 15:02:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
its same the other way around too... would you date some girl who lives with 2 guys even though she says that they are just friends..... i mean thats how our society wrks... i have had trouble with this my self... i am friends with a lot of guys just because i dont like the drama most girls come with. so i short i thing that you should move in and just live for today.
2006-09-18 15:07:13 · answer #8 · answered by Love Exists? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not see a problem with this arrangement, I think people are just giving you a hard time...I judge everyone as individuals, so whether they are girls or guys...I hope it works out
Hopefully your roommates......
*are not slobs and the Apt will be clean.
*They will not eat your food.
*Won't hog the bathroom.
*will not throw wild parties and have people smoking, drinking and barfing all over the place.
2006-09-18 15:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by Annie R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The place will be clean, but thats a lotta estrogen :-)
Maybe it'll help with the ladies... You'll be able to observe their opinions on blokes and also see how they gossip.
This could be a great opportunity for some R&D work :-)
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2006-09-18 15:00:58 · answer #10 · answered by Warrior Hamster 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋