I cheated on my wife with her best friend, we have been married for a year now and things seem to have cooled off between us. I am not sure what to do, her best friend is super hot but and I have always wanted to do her but what should I do about this? If I tell my wife she will kill me and I hate to loose a good thing or should I say nothing and keep seeing her friend.. Afterall what she doesn't know can't hurt her can it?
2006-09-18 07:54:41 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Just remember that in divorce court, if adultery is brought up, she wins, and you lose. Period. Is it the friend that you care about, or the risk you run by sleeping with her that gets you pumped up about the relationship? What goes around comes around...
2006-09-18 09:39:21 · answer #1 · answered by Another Nickname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Think about what you are saying! You married this woman and took vows to not have sex with anyone but her. Cheating is a symptom that something is wrong in the marriage. You need to either talk about a divorce or get counseling. DO NOT tell your wife. It would only hurt her! The only thing you would be doing is getting the guilt off your shoulders. Stop seeing her friend! Tell her you were wrong and if she isn't a psycho she might keep her mouth shut. The next time you feel like cheating think about the movie Fatal Attraction! Women can be real vindictive when they want to be. Cheating is completely WRONG! but, if you are going to do it at least have the brains to not do it with someone who knows your wife.
2006-09-18 08:02:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You owe it to your wife to make a choice between the wife and the friend. You should only tell your wife if you are planning on staying together, and you think your wife will find out. I'm all for honesty, but this may be one of those things where it's just better for you to bear your terrible secret.
But given your attitude "what she doesn't know can't hurt her," I'd say you are well on your way to screwing your marriage up. Hope the years (?) you've put into it are worth the bit of fun you're having now.
Good luck.
2006-09-18 07:58:28 · answer #3 · answered by A S 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Are you for real?! First of all, that "best friend" isn't one to your wife if she even thinks of doing anything with you! She's a back-stabbing, low-life, scum sucking slut that needs to back off!! You're a yellow-bellied, selfish coward that needs to keep his d**k in his pants and remember your vows!! Should your wife find out, yes it will devastate her because she will lose 2 best friends and it will feel like her soul has been ripped out and stomped on by the two of you! Grow up, get some balls, tell the "friend" to go on her way, not to come around, and you need to get your head (and I don't mean the one in your pants!!) back into your marriage, cuz the "head" in your pants is the one that's ruining your life! Put it where it belongs and don't let it wander into dangerous territory again!! You're messing with a fire that will not just scorch you, but burn you to a crispy black char!
2006-09-18 08:03:44 · answer #4 · answered by yokrem 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She will eventually find out. It will be much worse if she hears it from someone else. On some level she probably already knows that you are cheating. I don't understand why you are worried about losing your wife, when you obviously don't love her. If you want to keep seeing the soon-to-be ex-friend, fine but TELL YOUR WIFE. She deserves to know.
2006-09-18 08:13:15 · answer #5 · answered by M.P.H. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep your mouth shut. I repeat keep your mouth shut. You can only hope that her friend does too. This will blow up in your face if she ever finds out and you deserve it . Telling now will only hurt her and cause a long painful period for both of you. This might put an end to her friendship and marriage. Keep your mouth shut. Get to the friend and tell her it was an error you will never repeat and ask her silence. Then make this right with your wife. Do not tell her why but make it right. Change your attitude toward her to the better. And whatever you do do not do this again.
2006-09-18 08:05:22 · answer #6 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You stinking buzzard! Why don't you stop seeing the mistress, never tell your wife and get on with your marriage. Or----If you don't want your wife, find your balls and tell her, get a divorce so that your wife can move on with her life. I wish I could get my 5 inch heal into your a*s right now! You would be sh/tting from 2 holes! You dirty bas*ard!
Also I'm with Debbi on this one! I would a Lorraina Bobbit on you so quick, you forget the you had a *ick!
You don't have to give me 10 points for the best answer! I would like to put my size 10 shoe up in you a*s!
2006-09-18 07:59:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am sure that your wife already knows and is already hurt. You two will eventually slip up and evidence will be found or you'll be seen.
Would it be okay for your wife to have relations with one of your male friends that she thinks is super hot?
What comes around, goes around.
Knowing that, I'm sure that you will be asking her questions now, thinking that she is cheating on you, too. That would be your guilty conscience getting to you.
2006-09-18 08:07:36 · answer #8 · answered by Christian93 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your well into wanting your cake and eating it there... you want to consider ...because you have ups and downs in most relationships ...its how you get through those times that makes you either stronger or split... you dont appear to have even tried...just ...and this is the point..... jumped in with of all people your wifes best friend..... bad move ...now shes not only lost a husband or wil when she finds out...but a supposed best friend ...was she that hot...i hope so ...youve caused alot of pain ..to come ..and all because you prefered to run into the arms of another woman ...instead of the arms of your wife to sort your relationship ...and your wrong about not knowing doesnt hurt ...it still hurts but even worse ....when you find out .....
2006-09-18 08:07:51 · answer #9 · answered by she wolf. 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am sorry that your weakness got the better of you. In the long run when physical attraction wanes you will only be left with regret coz than you will realize that a woman who can cheat on her best friend is capable of only all that is base and inhuman. She may even now be cheating YOU with somebody else!
Believe me, you would be better off working to bring the shine back to your marriage and achieving happiness and fulfillment with your wife. You will be a better, and stronger man for it.
Say a resolute bye to your weakness and make a fresh start on the tension free path of marital fidelity.
Regarding making a clean breast of things with your wife, man you will need courage, lots of it and sincerity to convince her of your good intentions for the future-remember, the shock will be a great deal- best friend and husband backstabbing!
Please resolve to bring forth all that is good and noble in you and from henceforth be guided by this advice, "That man is truly respectworthy and fortunate who can concern himself with the lifelong happiness of his spouse".
2006-09-18 08:38:45 · answer #10 · answered by Kagome 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, obviously you have no scrupples. So keep banging the best friend and bang your wife, too. Sounds like that is what you are doing. The more sex the better. See the girlfriend more, is what I say. Maybe get another girlfriend. Hey, 3's not a crowd when it comes (!) to sex. Go, my man! Don't worry, be happy.....
2006-09-18 14:42:49 · answer #11 · answered by Lovely &..... 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋