Husband doesn’t want a December baby, what should we do?

Question

My husband and I are going to try for our first baby in January. If I don’t get pregnant right away, then I could possibly get pregnant in March/April which would mean I would have a December baby.

I want a baby and I guess it really doesn’t matter what month the baby is born in. My husband doesn’t want our baby to be born in December because of the holidays. He feels the child would not get to have birthday parties and feel bad about not experiencing a real birthday since the holidays would overshadow it.

Should we just try for a baby anyways every month? Or should we avoid conceiving in March/April?

We have been together for 5 years and I am ready to start our family!

Answer 1

Well, aside from not having sex for those 2 months there's not a lot you can do to prevent that. When the sperm decides it wants to go up there is not a decision that's really in your hands. Just keep trying and hopefully you'll conceive before then. Or you could even start trying sooner than January.

Answer 2

If you believe in God, you should be praying that your first child is born 100% healthy, instead of your husband's desire not to have a baby born in the month of December. (I am Dec. 03. an I always had a birthday party when I was a child). Now at my age it is just another day.

I have patients who were born on December 25 and they made a celebration of their birthday along with Xmas. (Never heard them say it was a big deal to have a dual celebration).

Would hope and pray that you and your husband have no medical problems that would prevent you from conceiving in any month of the year.

Plus when you conceive in any month of the year, you want to pray that that you have an excellent doctor in case there should be a complication that it can be corrected so that you have a full term pregnancy, (38 to 42 weeks).

Doctors will consider gestation of below 38 weeks as premature.

Please tell your husband there is alot more things to think about of importance then having a baby not being born in December because of what he perceives to be perhaps a conflict of the holidays.

Children are born innocent and will only feel pick up on negative thoughts by their parents or having the negtive thought injected into their brain.

So please don't concern yourself about such thoughts, other then having a baby born in perfect health.

From a Clinical Psyhciatrist France.

Please excuse my english grammer. Primary language French.

Answer 3

I understand your hubby's corcerns for the December baby, my father and I were both born in December (he the 27th and me the 29th) As a kid, my friends often forgot birthday presents becuase they would have just given me Christmas ones and many people would go away on the holidays so it was frequently hard to have a party. Those are the only "cons" I can think of, and they certainly aren't "end of the world" horrible. But on the bright side, my family never forgot and would make a delicious cake. As long as your child knows that they are important to you and are loved, the month of their birth shouldn't matter. I know I wouldn't change my birthday for the world, even if I could.

However, if your husband feels that strongly about the subject and you truly don't mind, follow the others advice during March/April, and do not try for a child then. ^_^ Good luck!

Answer 4

Two things, first if it means that much to you hubby, maybe you should lay off trying in March/April. Waiting a few months is no big deal. Second, if you end up expecting a Dec. baby, it's not the end of the world. Assure your husband that you will may a big fuse over your little one's birthday and be sure it doesn't get overshadowed by the holidays. As long as you as parents make an effort to celebrate your child's birthday separate from the holidays, everything will be fine. Good luck.

Answer 5

My husband and I have been married 5 years as well. We have been trying to have a baby for the last 4 years. After finding out that I have PCOS and that makes having a child difficult at best I have found that your perfect picture of life is sometimes just a fantasy. If you are lucky enough to be blessed with a child then does it really matter to you weather or not you have to spend a little more for a birthday party in December? Budget and enjoy being a parent. Some of us don't have that luxury.

Answer 6

I think the month that ur baby is born in really dont matter--I always wanted to have a baby in June--but im due in March 2007...as long as the baby is healthy thats what matters.

But i also see where ur husband is coming from--my little brothers b-day is on Decemeber 26--which sucks---but if u totally want to avoid December try getting pregnant like after May---i mean u have waited 5 years---yet another 5 months!

Answer 7

My baby is due on the 27th of December I am 26 weeks pregnant right now and am going through this guilt phase in that my child has to share his birthday. If you choose to try an plan it out that much you will end up waiting until after march and then what if it takes you 8 months to concieve then are you going to wait until the next year? Your going to love your child either way so I say put it in God's hands and if you want you can start trying now and go until March. But to be honest it really doesnt matter what month you have your baby in.

Answer 8

This is a tough one. You may luck out and get pregnant right away. If you don't, when March rolls around, you (and / he) might change your mind and decide to get the baby whenever it gets here.

My oldest was born on (US) Thanksgiving, and so far, it hasn't hurt her in any way - and we make sure that she gets a separate birthday party.

First thing I would recommend is getting in touch with your cycles. If your cycles are pretty regular, you can tell when you ovulate, and determine an anticipated due date every month. You might find that your due dates would come way before and then way after the holiday your DH is trying to avoid. Check out the book Taking Charge of Your Fertility, and do some online research for more information.

Best Wishes!

Answer 9

Just use protection for those two months. Just like after the first if you don't one 10 or 11 months later. I'm planning mine so I don't get them with birthdays too close together. Many people with December birthdays feel shorted like that, some love it but it would be a very expensive month. Either way good luck. Just for fun start trying in december then you've got three good months and you might have worried for nothing!

Answer 10

If that's his only concern he should get over it. for some it's so hard to get pregnant to begin with. The month should be an after thought.

Ignore him. He'll get over it if the baby is born in December. The problem is that he could really just not want the baby yet. It may be his way of putting it off. Talk to him some more and if he is insistant it's only about the month then go forth. What is meant to be will be.

Good LUCK!

Answer 11

If you really know your body and cycle you can better predict when the baby is conceived.....although there is no guarentee. go get a book called Taking Charge of your fertility by Toni Weschler
This book will help you with all of your menstrual and conception questions. It covers everything from temperature to mucus checking, etc.. It will help you understand your body and all the myths about it. It will help you time when you are ovulating and the best times to conceive – or not! My husband and I tried for a year and nothing happened. The first month I used the book we conceived right away. Now I am due Feb 2. It's about knowing your body and knowing when you are fertile or not. You can pick and choose what you do with your info. Good luck and don't listen the all the myths!