I am interested in this man and he is interested in me, from what he tells me, but he's married. He says he is unhappily married and tried to make things work between them but can no longer do it and they have both agreed to get a separation. I am so afraid to get hurt by this guy. What should I do?
2006-09-18 07:38:30 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Forget him he is using you.It will all end in tears.Don't waste your life.
2006-09-18 07:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
RUN!!! It's a set up.
Don't go there! TRUST! Don't EVER trust a man that's married and who make statments like that. You don't know the other side of the story. His wife could be as sweet as pie and this is what he does to get a little on the side.
If you choose to do this... that's exactly what you'll be (a little bit on the side) and then three years later, he'll still be "leaving his wife or going through a seperation. Haven't you seen movies about this same scenario?
He's playing you. Also, think how you would feel if the shoe were on the other foot and you were the wife. As a matter of fact.. how can you trust a man who would attempt to start a relationship with someone else when he's still married. If you married this man what are the chances you'd wonder if he would do the same thing to you or one day some woman may turn around and steal him away from you.
Remember you reap what you sow... in other words, what goes around comes around. Don't invite unecessary drama into your life. You're intelligent and deserve to have a person to love you who's unattached and free and clear. HE's sooooooooooooo NOT that!
Watch out.. Again...This situation is a set-up. RUN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-18 08:38:27 · answer #2 · answered by 247 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy so I hate to say this but, you need to tell him to give you a call when he has made the break with his wife final. I've been happily married for 28 years. I'd sooner die than mess things up with my wife but I've known too many guys that were married and then kept stringing someone along on the side for the excitement of it. They sounded very sincere but never quite made the current marriage final.
2006-09-18 07:43:10 · answer #3 · answered by toff 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why just seperation? If he is in an unhappy relationship he needs to become divorced before you start dating him. Be careful if your afraid to get hurt, don't just fall all over him. Most of all, remember that men who are in a marriage, and cheat, or find love somewhere else, could do the same thing again if you marry him.
2006-09-18 07:42:05 · answer #4 · answered by The Muppet Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm in the same situation as you are, except we haven't told each other how we feel about each other yet but we both know that we have feelings for one another. well i think you should be there for him and you can have a relationship with him but not serious and don't sleep with him, unless he has separated from his wife, coz you don't know whether he will separate or not until the time comes. Not all men are womanisers and only you would be able to tell whether he is genuine or not. Goodluck!
2006-09-18 07:46:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont know this man so i dontk now if he has ill intentions or is "using you" like someone else said. but DO NOT get romantically involved with this guy while he is still married... Wait it out...they may not get a seperation... or they may and when they do things might be so complicated that you wont want to get into anything with him. I know its hard to "wait" but.....give it some time... let the seperation happen if its going to.....and then feel out the situation from there
2006-09-18 07:42:05 · answer #6 · answered by swyftsilver84 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do NOT get involved until he is seperated at least a few months. You could find yourself caught up within the divorce and supporting emotional baggage. Saying that i did what i am saying not to do and 7 years on we are still together and very much in love! Follow your instincts, but be prepared for a rough ride! Goodluck!
2006-09-18 07:51:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actions speak louder than words. Let him prove to you that he is in fact willing to leave the relationship that is making him unhappy, wait and see if he does file for a divirce, move out, end it all. If that happens then pursue things at a slow pace BUT do not engage in any kind of emotional/sexual relationship with him until his current relationship is done and over with. You dont want to be stuck in a mistress position always hearing false promises with no results.
Be a strong assertive woman and dont be taken for a fool.
2006-09-18 07:44:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get the book "10 Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives" by Dr. Laura Schlesinger and read it from cover to cover. Call her radio program and ask her for advice. But be prepared for her to tell it like it is. Take if from your answerers who have had this experience. You must control your emotions and not get involved with this man. His line is the oldest in the book and is so old it is moldy! What motivation would he have except to have his cake and eat it too? You absolutely must think of yourself and your future happiness. What if you go ahead and get involved with him and have a child? Statistics show he won't leave his wife for you and the child. Is that fair to a little child to deny that child a chance to know its father? Always without fail you should be thinking of how your actions can affect others. He is probably lying to you and if you were his wife, would you want some other woman having an affair with your husband? Believe me, it will be much harder to leave later when you are even more emotionally hooked But that is what he wants isn't it? Do you really think he respects you, or women in general if he is willing to do something like this without even being single!!! Don't think with your emotions, think with your head. Not to mention the number of crimes of passion committed every day by people who think they have been wronged. You don't know his wife and whether she is mentally unstable or not. Do you want to be a victim? You're setting yourself up to be one bigtime! You already know the right thing to do. You just don't want to listen to your higher self because it hurts. Lots of things in life hurt, but you could be denying yourself the opportunity to get involved with another man who could be the perfect man for you. Don't sell yourself short. Respect yourself even if he doesn't!
2006-09-18 08:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by LadyLgl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until he is out on his own. If he is living on his own and legally separated I'd still wait 6 months or more. If you're the right one for him, he'll find you when he's done with all his baggage of divorce and settlement. You don't want to be part of that. I'm female (divorced) and I was no good to anyone, couldn't properly commit to loving someone new until all that was over for me.
2006-09-18 07:49:37 · answer #10 · answered by rndvdw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stay away until that relationship has a chance to run its course. You have no right to get involved with another womans husband. Once the divorce is final, thats a different story. Allthough, if they have kids you wont have a fighting chance.
2006-09-18 07:42:12 · answer #11 · answered by Kelly V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋