please help!!!!!!!!!!! He's always looking at porn and playing games on the computer. he says all guys look at porn so just get over it but it really bothers me.
2006-09-18 07:35:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
he lies to me about anything and almost everything and thinks i won't find out or won't know
2006-09-18 07:42:58 · update #1
that's the thing i have talked to him till i'm blue in the face and he just don't get how i feel. idon't get it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-09-18 07:49:26 · update #2
He's addicted to porn. Not all men look at porn, he's in a stage of desire for porn and if you don't look or act like the whores online you have lost his interest. This is just as bad as an affair or a drinking problem. Fix it fast or you will lose him. If you can't be like the online sluts, eventually he will find someone who wil.
Sorry!
2006-09-18 07:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mango S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is wrong about all guys looking at porn. There is absolutely no reason that a man needs porn when he has a woman who is willing to fulfill his sexual needs. "Needing" porn is something that this generation of 30 and younger has created for themselves. Men LIKE porn sure, but it is by no means an inaliable right. Let him know how much it bothers you, and let him know that your buffet is closed as long as he is sampling other girls.
You don't have to be insecure, prudish, or frigid to be uneasy at porn. Make no mistake, he IS thinking about having sex with these girls, he isn't acting on it, but when he is watching that video clip in his mind he is getting his sexual gratification through other women. You have every right to request that he gives up pornography for you, as long as you are willing to rise to his level of sexual activity.
Pornography is an addiction, and like heroin or alchohol, it can be cured with love and understanding and willpower. Tell him next time that he can either get under the sheets with you, or he can sleep on the couch with his computer.
2006-09-18 14:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Am I the only one around here that can read between the lines? The problem is not with your husband, it is with you not having the confidence or assertiveness to find out what is really going on and deal with it! Of course he's going to tell you to 'just get over it' because he knows you can't deal with conflict and will retreat! If you stand up to him, whats the worst that could happen? he leaves? Good riddence then. p.s. he's right, all men look at porn and masterbate their asses off, but they don't usually make their wives feel bad about it!
2006-09-18 14:58:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's horrible, any man who looks at porn while he's in a relationship not only isn't a man, but doesn't deserve you. He's cheating on you in his mind, and he should either stop, or you should leave him. Eventually online will turn into real life, and he'lll cheat on you if he hasn't already. And, not all guys do it, there are a few guys out there who've decided a real woman is better then porn, and that they will remail faithful.
2006-09-18 14:39:29 · answer #4 · answered by The Muppet Fairy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to my world. My husband lied about his internet porn addiction and I ended up taking a baseball bat to the pc. This was years ago but the pains still their. I dont know you or your husband but it sounds like he has an internet porn addiction. You need to seek therapy for your self and for your husband. check all of the cookie files on the computer and on your history page. My husband was also addictd to gambling on the internet. We have been in marriage counciling for 3 years now. All you can do is get help for your self first before you can help him. Confronting him only makes things worse.
2006-09-18 15:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tehn you need to let him know! Look I dont believe in porn in marriage, because when you marry you are dedicated to the one you did married 100%. Ask him why he has to look at porn? ask him what can we do together in the marriage bed that will spice up our sex. You need to tell him how bad its hurting you that hes looking at porn. He seems so distant because his mind is on that porn hes looking at and not you. You might even have to give him a choose. ME? or that PORN? and mean it.
2006-09-18 14:37:56 · answer #6 · answered by justwaitingtoleave 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whoa,he's fallen into the zone. what a jerk. you have a man with problems. they're his problems but they are effecting you.He's not going to listen but he should know that he's screwing up your relationship and something had better change, who cares if all guys watch porn,that's no excuse for his distant behavior nor for his being absent from the marriage bed.stand up for your rights in this relationship, if you don't who will.
2006-09-18 14:41:45 · answer #7 · answered by punkin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Put your foot down! Looking at porn is only good if it helps you and your partner. It he is starting to ignore you he is heading for a problem
2006-09-18 14:37:23 · answer #8 · answered by Lynda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it would upset me two..if you do not turn him on enough then i do not know what to do..men are strange though..we can be the best loving wife but they have to want something different..i am very sorry for you...tell him that he should be making love to you and not watching porn and playing games.....
2006-09-18 14:39:26 · answer #9 · answered by sanangel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please give him a little more time. There may not be any problems. Of course, you can calmly observe his behavior to be sure that he is not engaging in any extra marital activities. But, try not to be upset before you have any negative evidence.
2006-09-18 14:40:53 · answer #10 · answered by lg traveler 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋