is incorrect for a 19 year old girl to be with some one in their 40's?

Question

ifhe say's he love her and show it to her ?

Answer 1

I don't think it can be "incorrect" to love someone.
The heart does not know or care about age.

What is incorrect is being in a relationship that is not doing you any good. If it consistently brings you down, makes you become "less" instead of all that you can be, if you don't feel supported... then it's incorrect, and you will know whether that is the case because you feel it.

Answer 2

Sounds like you've already got a lot of answer on your plate, so why not add one more. The bottom line here is that there is no yes or no to this answer. But there are a few guidelines you should probably follow. The most important thing I would ask this person (whether it's you or not) is, what is the relationship based on? If there is good communication, love, trust, and honesty then it seems like everything is going well. I think that when you talk about large gaps in dating it is very different from gaps in marriage.
Dating somebody who is twenty years older than you is all fine and dandy if that's what rocks your boat, but marrying somebody requires more than just physical attraction. My girlfriend's father remarried to a 25 year-old. They began dating when the girl was only 16 and he was in his 40s. Everyone in the small Midwestern town was, of course, shocked - but they moved on and accepted it. I don't know anything about the community in which the person you are describing lives, but I know that if my sister came home three years from now (she's 16) and told my parents that she was dating a 40 year old, they would put an end to it immediately, one way or another.
The point is that in these special circumstances, it can have to do with more than love, despite how strong it is.
To use an analogy, take a look at Romeo and Juliet. They were completely in love and were right for each other. But the circumstances of their love held them back. One was expected to be marrying someone else and the families of both refused to allow their children to marry. Granted the end result of that story was a little extreme, but it illustrates how the circumstances of a situation can complicate it. Hope i've helped.

Answer 3

Ewwwwww.

He has a mental illness, and so does she. Usually these mental illness do not complement each other and a tradgedy happens. Guess it's more popular in the "Human Trafficing"- "Mail Order Brides". Usually the man is looking for a slave instead of a marriage partner; this could be for sex (ah, old men have hard time getting it up), or for house keeping. Mean while, the woman is a gold digger - fanticises about father figure - or has vendeta / revenge to give to a man.

Yep, this is the stuff we laugh about in movies.

Answer 4

Your over 18 year, and besides, just because your dating him doesn't mean you have to marry him, and even if it gets to that point its your life, do what works for you, because in the end your the one who has to live your choices, no one else... As for myself I am currently 23, the youngest guy I have been with was 16 and the oldest was 54. Just keep your head held up high and don't worry about what people think... One time I dated a guy I really really liked, and he was 6ft 5in, and I am four-foot seven inches, and I broke up with him because everyone staired at us, doing this is something I deeply regret still to this day.

Answer 5

If they're both happy together, why not?

Be aware, though, that the 19 year old's personality is still developing and changing, and she could well grow into someone that no longer wants to be with someone 20 years older than her. So be cautious in doing things that have long-term repercussions, like having children together.

Answer 6

nothing is "correct" or "incorrect"..however, u just have to know u are in for a harder time, and rocky road compared to someone who is closer to ur own age, easily understands you, gets along and is accepted by friends and family.. only U know what is best for you.

remember to seek all things Healthy, Positive, AND Happy.. if u feel that the relaitonship is negative, or full of mistrust, or sadness, or hurt feelings, u should reassess, whether he is 40 years old or 19 like you. good luck.

Answer 7

well could be a good thing or a bad thing. depends on the maturity level of the people. I'm 20 and my boyfriend is 31 and I find theres nothing wrong with it because I have always been more mature for my age, so I relate to my husband. but because of the huge age gap you might want to take the relationship a little slower, becuase you might want to go into a party mode soon and he might not like it. He might want to settle down for the rest of his life.

Answer 8

Makes me wonder why a 40 something year old man has to look to young impressionable girls to be with. Why isn't he with someone closer to his own age? Is it because the young one is easier to trick into believeing all his bulls**t. And of course he says he loves her, thats what she wants to hear. He is40something, not stupid. He is old enough to be her father, and probably, this isnt the first child he has been with. Have him checked out just to be sure he doesnt have a criminal past. Better to be safe than sorry. ..Good Luck..

Answer 9

I cant imagine once they get together and thn the girl starts introducing him to her... dad:

Girl: "Dad. I would like u to meet my boyfriend, Greg M."
Dad: "GREG M.??? didnt we used to go to high-school together??"
Boyfriend: "charlie?"

lol.. sorry... I couldnt help it... the image just popped up and i couldddnt resist.

Neways... I dont know man... I seriously really wudnt know.

It may be seen incorrect by allot of ppl.. n some ppl may turn totally against it.

... But what can u do when theres 'love'?
.... and then again, cud it possibly exist between the two?

Answer 10

Perhaps it is love.. but it is strange. She might be in it for the money he has.. Or he needs to feel younger by being with a younger person. Perhaps if this is a friend of your, keep to yourself. They have their own lives to live, and im pretty sure no one can change their minds on anything. We all have to live and learn.. But you can't help who you love.