My friend wants to have sex with me (no kissing just hands and oral) and I really don't have a problem with the idea. I am just afraid I'll hate my self as soon as it's over. Either that or it will push me over the edge and I'll become completely, totally gay. So..have you tried it and do you hate yourself for it?
2006-09-18 07:21:33 · 16 answers · asked by lonelymarriedguyinbeaumont 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Absolutely not.....the only thing I regretted is that I waited 20 years to do it again.....it never left my mind for all those years and I constantly thought about what I didn't do with him that I wanted to....finally, after 20 years, I took the plunge (so to speak) and I can now say that I am a bisexual male and I love it.... in my case, it's all about the kissing, touching, loving, and yes, anal sex....when I'm with a man, I want to be the female, I can be a male anytime I'm with my wife....so no, I don't hate myself, I just enjoy the times that I get to "play" with men and then I go home to my wife....it won't "push you over the edge" unless you want it to.....
2006-09-18 09:13:15 · answer #1 · answered by bimale694u 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i doubt it could "make" you gay since i and i think most people believe that we are born gay . you have obviously been thinking about it so if that were the case too late your already gay . as to regretting it yes that's a possibility or it may cause enough emotional confusion to complicate or even end the friendship. you have to weigh out this possibility on your own however everyone experiences sex with the same sex at some time and it is a normal part of sexual maturity. in my opinion at least i did and im not "gay" and i did sort of regret it but i am still friends with that person .
2006-09-18 07:44:38 · answer #2 · answered by funkyk 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No, I easily have puzzled if it may well be any diverse from a woman, yet my genetic chemistry would not take that as an perfect way of showing any affection. you notice, there are some people who're born gay, on the left area of the spectrum, then there are some born interior the midsection, which I call the grey section, they are open to maximum issues, yet peer tension strikes them better (Like your buddy) and then there are the individuals who're born on the instant and are not interested in adult males. i'm one in each of those adult males on the right. I easily have puzzled what the variation is, even though it purely grosses me out. i'm unable to make certain myself kissing yet another boy, yet to those that do kiss boys, or prefer to kiss boys, do not carry lower back, permit your self Be your self.
2016-12-18 12:32:54 · answer #3 · answered by shorb 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I once tried it with a guy because I was in the exploring stage and wasn't sure where I wanted to go, and it was terrible. He didn't lube me up, he wasn't nice, he just rammed his thing into me and so it was a complete turn off and I walked out.
Afterwards I felt terrible (guilt, disgust, uncertainty) but two years later a different guy did it to me and it was really fantastic. I still remember our first time. Since then no looking back. So it's to do with the person as well.
By the way, why no kissing???
2006-09-18 08:46:43 · answer #4 · answered by Augusta B 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
this is exactly how my first time happend. cept i didnt regret it. i fell in love with the guy, but he is straight. we had a thing going on for about 6 months.
I agree with what one of the other peopls said, that once you add sex to a freindship, you stand the chance of ruining it. Not always. but it can happen.
I would suggest that maybe if you are really worried about this then dont do it on purpose. If it happens then so be it, but dont go looking for it.
2006-09-18 22:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of experimenters. And yes, some do regret it later. For one thing, once sex enters the picture, it changes the friendship forever, and sometimes destroys it.
2006-09-18 11:26:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
your concerns are not real. Nothing is going to push you in either direction. You might want to consider that you will lose a friend ... not a good idea to play so close to home. Good luck
2006-09-18 10:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Regret is as senseless of an emotion as jealousy...
Push you over the edge? Come on......
2006-09-18 07:23:40 · answer #8 · answered by buldawg 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never tried it, not at all interested in the idea, but if you both are interested in it go for it. If you don't like it, don't do it again.
Be true to yourself, life's too short to live a lie.
2006-09-18 07:29:20 · answer #9 · answered by simplyrelaxinginblvl 3 · 4⤊ 1⤋
nope, i loved it. in some ways, i liked it better than w/ men. i'm still bisexual,tho. maybe that's what u are & are on ur way to finding out. n e way, don't be afraid of finding out. don't feel guilty, either. talk to ur friend after it's over & maybe he can help u to sort ur feelings out. (=
2006-09-18 07:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by lady sixx 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋